Would you expect anything from guy on V-day after 4 dates?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I might have expected/hoped for flowers to be delivered, but probably wouldn't have been pissed if it didn't happen.

+1 Though I'd also suspect he wasn't that into me.

This. If you slept together and he didn't give you a gift or flowers, then he's in the wrong.

I don't understand the women with low expectations. I had just started dating my husband when Valentine's Day came around. He took me out to dinner and gave me a bracelet and flowers. I get that OP's guy has kids, but 4 dates in is enough to do something like dropping off flowers or chocolates even if you can't spend the evening together.

I am a woman and I disagree. Especially if we are still dating other people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My boyfriend of 8 months did nothing.

I have a friend who has been dating a guy for a year and he also didn't even with her a Happy Valentine's Day because he hates it so much.

Last year I dated a guy who didn't acknowledge it, though we had been dating casually five months. We broke up a month later, and this year he went out to dinner with a FWB, so that pissed me off.
This year I got a text from one guy I have gone out with a few times, and a call from another guy who lives out of town.

[Anonymous]

If you two were scheduled to meet in person on Valentine’s Day, it would have been lovely if he brought a single red rose 🌹.

Or a small box of quality chocolate to enjoy.

But a nice text is perfectly acceptable too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I received a sweet “I know it’s early but I’m thinking only of you today” note from guy one (have met twice), and a beautiful card in the mail from guy 2 (seen once but zoomed/talked/texted a lot) that was tender and signed “Love, John.” I had never really gotten a true valentine before today. I am choosing not to be cynical and am assuming both are sincere.

The signature is weird for #2. Too much.

I agree it was a lot. But the note directly referenced a conversation we had had about self-love and knowing your value and thus was an unusually kind and respectful statement of him wanting to be different from some of my prior experiences. It was only a few lines long but made me teary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I received a sweet “I know it’s early but I’m thinking only of you today” note from guy one (have met twice), and a beautiful card in the mail from guy 2 (seen once but zoomed/talked/texted a lot) that was tender and signed “Love, John.” I had never really gotten a true valentine before today. I am choosing not to be cynical and am assuming both are sincere.

The signature is weird for #2. Too much.

I agree it was a lot. But the note directly referenced a conversation we had had about self-love and knowing your value and thus was an unusually kind and respectful statement of him wanting to be different from some of my prior experiences. It was only a few lines long but made me teary.

I think it's sweet in that context, plus it's not the same as saying "I love you"