Would you expect anything from guy on V-day after 4 dates?
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Anonymous
| I got a nice text. We’ve been on 4 dates. Not seeing him tonight (he has his kids). I’m fine with that. What do you think? |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t expect anything. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t expect anything beyond the text. |
Anonymous
+1 and even that was nice. |
Anonymous
| Totally appropriate. |
Anonymous
| Text. If you were seeing him in person, a flower(s). |
Anonymous
| I’d be more weirded out by anything more at this point. But I have never been very into Valentine’s Day anyway. |
Anonymous
| I might have expected/hoped for flowers to be delivered, but probably wouldn't have been pissed if it didn't happen. |
Anonymous
No way. Flowers delivered is too much after 4 dates. A single stem if meeting in person would be nice. |
Anonymous
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No Op
And it's good to show you don't expect it His kids will always come before you |
Anonymous
| After 4 dates I would hope that he thought that he wanted me to be his "valentine," at least for this year if not forever. So I'd definitely would like to receive a small gesture - a little kid's valentine card, a box of conversation hearts, a small bar of good chocolate, a nice bottle of wine to share, etc. |
Anonymous
| Did you do anything for him? If not, sounds like you were on the same page, and that is the important thing. |
Anonymous
| I received a sweet “I know it’s early but I’m thinking only of you today” note from guy one (have met twice), and a beautiful card in the mail from guy 2 (seen once but zoomed/talked/texted a lot) that was tender and signed “Love, John.” I had never really gotten a true valentine before today. I am choosing not to be cynical and am assuming both are sincere. |
Anonymous
| yes. flowers delivered. if you don't get anything, be forewarned. |
Anonymous
You're probably right  I've been married for 15 years, so have forgotten a lot about dating.
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