Benefits of keeping your nanny FT after child starts school

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Anonymous wrote:For those of you who have transitioned your nanny to more of a household manager role, how did you prep for this? We want to keep our nanny next year and are trying to figure out how to organize tasks so that it is actually something off of our plate. How did they figure out what groceries to buy for the week? How did you share kid/family schedules so they knew about an upcoming weekend bday party and that a gift was needed? How did you let her know about one-off tasks that needed to be completed during the week? This isn't exactly the type of thing that gets talked about at firm happy hours.

We have on online family calendar. Nanny is now plugged into all school correspondence and invitations. If she isn’t I cc her immediately. We have a digital shopping list we add to. Nanny has always handled the kids breakfasts snacks and lunches (both shopping for and making) so-now she just does stuff for our dinner and things DH and I want. I can also text her about errands we need the day or a couple days before. She keeps track of the kids after school stuff and payment.

You have to hand it off. We got messed up in the beginning because I was still trying to hold on to tasks.

Thanks. I think I'm having trouble with the idea of just trusting someone to do all of this, but I trust her with my children, and this is lower stakes than that! I actually think the bigger problem is the judgement I fear I'll get from people with the mindset of those commenting above about me WOTH and paying someone to do all the household management for me. We live in a relatively middle class Fairfax neighborhood, and our friends, neighbors, and kids classmates don't even have nannies, let alone someone managing the household stuff. I recognize it is a luxury, but the stress of not having to deal with unreliable part-time childcare and focusing on the kids when I get home is a luxury that we can afford and is worth it to our family.

Move to McLean or Vienna. Many of us have FT nannies who have graduated to the house manager + afterschool babysitter role.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused. So according to dcum: SAHM of school children = does nothing all day, waste of time. Nanny to school age children = priceless.

Yes!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m so confused. So according to dcum: SAHM of school children = does nothing all day, waste of time. Nanny to school age children = priceless.

Yes!

This question is for dual working parents. I don’t think anyone ever said a SAHP does nothing all day but if you look at what the nannies do it’s a lot of grunt work once the children start school. Doing laundry and buying and wrapping a birthday gift is not exactly stimulating or beneficial to the child’s education.