Posting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No

[Anonymous]

I enjoy seeing where my friends’ kids are going.

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

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Anonymous wrote:What’s the bed party trend?

OP? -NP

Those bed parties are bonkers. I think it may be a southern thing. Basically, kid sits on their bed and is surrounded by a pile of school swag, balloons, etc. It's gross.

https://grownandflown.com/bed-party-college-decision/

Why are they gross?

I don't think this is something my kid would want but I don't see anything gross or wrong about it. And if she did, I wouldn't object. It's her celebration and her choice. I think if you get upset or view this as braggy or something you need to think about why you feel like every once in a while someone can't brag about an accomplishment. Why do you find it so sameful that every one in a while someone wants to brag? The items that are included in these parties looks so benign and everyday that it is hard to make an argument that this is showing off. Doritos? Coke? Ballons? Not exactly the hallmarks of status.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

I think you’ll feel differently when your kid is that age. It’s so fraught for the kids and such a source of stress for them. It’s just polite not to post something you know will make “friends” feel bad. And it’s really the kid’s news, so there’s the extra ick of the parents being over invested in the outcome.

First off, nobody's kid is even on Facebook.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've seen a lot of "decision" posts on facebook and never thought it was tacky. Same with "acceptance" posts--I've always only seen one per student (their first choice)--I don't know anyone that makes separate posts for each school acceptance.

A couple years ago my son was going through a rough period, and he got accepted at his first choice school (which actually isn't a hard school to get into or anything) and I was happy for him and posted it on facebook. It's a good memory of a happy moment during a very difficult time.

My other son has been accepted at several schools and is still deciding, but I had planned to post something when he makes his decision.

You need to accept that you're living in a bubble.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

I think you’ll feel differently when your kid is that age. It’s so fraught for the kids and such a source of stress for them. It’s just polite not to post something you know will make “friends” feel bad. And it’s really the kid’s news, so there’s the extra ick of the parents being over invested in the outcome.

This is so strange to me. I hadn’t seen an old friend for 10 years, and we found out through Facebook that our children were going to the same college. We reconnected at dropoff, had a great lunch and introduced our kids to each other. Who are now friends.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

Not the pp you are responding too but I do agree with them. I don't mind seeing vacation pictures or new home pictures or child accomplishment posts. They certainly don't nauseate me. I don't have anyone who I would say is an oversharer so when they do post things it's random, few times a year, or when they have something to share.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s fine! I actually like seeing where kids are going?! I find it interesting. Go for it.

[Anonymous]

We posted (with DC ok) a "Going to XX in the fall!" with a smiling picture of us out to dinner...simple. That's what my circle does, nothing else. And nooooo....no merit. That's for private convos with grandparents, if that.

[Anonymous]

I think it’s more than a bit patronizing to assume that your friends can’t take the news where your kid is going to spend the next 4 years. Ahhhh DC is ummm going to “Boston “ meaning Harvard. Just say it already. We can take it. If you can’t take other peoples good news then don’t look at FB. I would leave out and “By the way it’s a FULL scholarship!!” But otherwise. It’s information.
As far as bed party. These kids are still in HS. Don’t be so harsh.

[Anonymous]

OP, you don't need to wait until May. Post a pic and a "yay!" These are your friends. They will (should?) be happy for you. Assuming you are happy for their kids when you see posts about them. My DD doesn't have anything yet, but when she gets something good, I will post, and my friends will say hooray! They want to cheer her on.

I would say no to the money, but maybe offer to help people w/ navigating merit aid.

As for the kids, mine are only on IG. Their friends sometimes post, but more often just update the profile to say the college and class of '26. I think this is a good idea, since their "friends" are far and wide -- friends, acquaintances, etc, and most are waiting on decisions. On fb, my friends are my actual friends, so I will post!

[Anonymous]

Haven't there been enough "don't do it" posts on here to remove any doubt that the better course is not to do it? Or are your compulsion to share your kid's accomplishments with the world so overpowering that you just HAVE to do it anyway?

[Anonymous]

Qosting on Facebook where kid is going -Yes or No?

A: Why?

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Anonymous wrote:This is so strange to me. I want to know where kids of friends go. I don't want to know all acceptances, but I love seeing the children in their sweatshirts and excited looks on their faces.

Maybe it is because I don't have a senior yet (DD is a sophmore), but I would like to think that I can be happy for others without being jealous. I know my daugher isn't a superstar, but I also know that there are enough colleges out there that she will be fine. And I sure hope she is excited even if it is not a top-tier college.

I also love seeing vacation pictures even when I can't afford one and happy couples even while I am divorced. I like sharing and seeing happiness.

You don't get it. Posting stuff like this doesn't make others "jealous." It nauseates them. They laugh at you. They feel sorry for you. They don't get "jealous."

PP I’m sorry you are so unhappy. But it’s really not the parent’s responsibility. If you are nauseous and laughing at your friends : let them know so they can understand who you really are. They will appreciate that. Might be a cooling of the relationship but that’s fine.

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Anonymous wrote:The kids are all posting the minute they get it. Maybe leave off it’s a full ride.

I was not going to post my DC's acceptance on FB. But DC posted it, so I did too. Take the lead from your kid. Its their news.

If your kid posted, you don't need to. I told anyone who asked where DS was going. I did not post it on FB. Some asked, many did not.

LOL, no. Your Facebook network and your kid's Facebook network probably don't overlap that much. If your kid even has a Facebook account. You're posting a family update for all your own connections, not your kid's friends.