Delivery person asks to use bathroom

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If my husband were home, I'd let them use my powder room. No way would I let them use any other bathrooms. Prescription drugs or other items are in my other bathrooms. Powder room is just a vanity and toilet.

Not OP, but not all of us have powder rooms so that's not even an option. I do agree though that I wouldn't let them use other bathrooms either.

My small house has one bathroom used by our teen DD (and cleaned up if there are guests...back when "guests" were a thing), and one used by DH and me. The latter is IN our bedroom and nope, no one is going to walk through our bedroom to use that one; I'm just not saying yes to that. The one DD uses is...the one DD uses, and I don't want a stranger in there; it's abundantly clear it's used by a teen girl, and despite the calls here to "be human" I think it's a bad idea to give away to strangers information about exactly who lives in a house. I also agree with PP re: any prescription medications etc. that could be found in bathrooms, though we don't have any in ours.

If it were someone who was around regularly, like one of the crew who do lawn work for a us a few times a year, that might be different. I would absolutely have let our previous lawn guy come in the house--I trusted him to watch things when we traveled! But random delivery people? I'd just say, "I'm sorry, that doesn't work, but there's a 7-11, a McDonald's and a coffee shop one block away." Because there are. I don't want to be heartless but it's just such a way to telegraph to a stranger who is in the home, where medications or jewelry might be (which is why no one will use my bathroom that's inside my bedroom), etc.

What would happen if you just went about your life assuming that most delivery people were just normal people going about their work and not thieves or perverts?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I allowed this once a few years ago and the dude totally bombed out my toilet. It took an hour to air out the bathroom completely.

*gag*

Never would allow them bc of stories like this.

Stories. Like. This. Are. Why. They. Had. To. Ask.

No delivery person is like hmm, my bladder is half full, let me ask this obviously horrified, stuck up princess if I can use her precious bathroom. They didn’t want to. It was an emergency. All you have to do is show a little grace and compassion and I’m astounded by how many of you have so much material wealth and such hard, thin souls.

EXACTLY!

Good God, people. If someone asks to use your toilet, they probably really need to use it. It's cruel to say no.
You do know you can clean your bathroom afterwards if you want, right? Or are you too fancy to clean your own bathroom as well?

I am not cleaning some randoms poop diarrhea stains everywhere in my bathroom.

[Anonymous]

God, OP and others...

I am a huge germaphobe. Really. I understand.

But, there are things that you absolutely must do/accept to be a decent human being.

I've had two delivery and service guys (that I can remember) ask to use my toilet. I have a powder room right at my front door, and I don't hesitate to let them use it. I wouldn't be able to sleep that night if I treated someone so poorly.

Goodness.

Just clean the toilet after they use it. It's not hard.

[Anonymous]

Furniture guy/movers/contractors, yes.

Pizza guy, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I allowed this once a few years ago and the dude totally bombed out my toilet. It took an hour to air out the bathroom completely.

*gag*

Never would allow them bc of stories like this.

Stories. Like. This. Are. Why. They. Had. To. Ask.

No delivery person is like hmm, my bladder is half full, let me ask this obviously horrified, stuck up princess if I can use her precious bathroom. They didn’t want to. It was an emergency. All you have to do is show a little grace and compassion and I’m astounded by how many of you have so much material wealth and such hard, thin souls.

EXACTLY!

Good God, people. If someone asks to use your toilet, they probably really need to use it. It's cruel to say no.
You do know you can clean your bathroom afterwards if you want, right? Or are you too fancy to clean your own bathroom as well?

NP. She’s happy to clean “her own bathroom”. She just doesn’t want to clean his. Dealing with the poop from your immediate family is different from the poop of a random man who has so much poop or gas that he couldn’t hold it a bit longer. That’s just gross.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I allowed this once a few years ago and the dude totally bombed out my toilet. It took an hour to air out the bathroom completely.

*gag*

Never would allow them bc of stories like this.

Stories. Like. This. Are. Why. They. Had. To. Ask.

No delivery person is like hmm, my bladder is half full, let me ask this obviously horrified, stuck up princess if I can use her precious bathroom. They didn’t want to. It was an emergency. All you have to do is show a little grace and compassion and I’m astounded by how many of you have so much material wealth and such hard, thin souls.

EXACTLY!

Good God, people. If someone asks to use your toilet, they probably really need to use it. It's cruel to say no.
You do know you can clean your bathroom afterwards if you want, right? Or are you too fancy to clean your own bathroom as well?

NP. She’s happy to clean “her own bathroom”. She just doesn’t want to clean his. Dealing with the poop from your immediate family is different from the poop of a random man who has so much poop or gas that he couldn’t hold it a bit longer. That’s just gross.

This is what happens when your children never have to work a low-paying job.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:God, OP and others...

I am a huge germaphobe. Really. I understand.

But, there are things that you absolutely must do/accept to be a decent human being.

I've had two delivery and service guys (that I can remember) ask to use my toilet. I have a powder room right at my front door, and I don't hesitate to let them use it. I wouldn't be able to sleep that night if I treated someone so poorly.

Goodness.

Just clean the toilet after they use it. It's not hard.

We do accept. Of course. But it’s awful.

And not all of us are rich enough to have a “powder room right at our front door”. For the non-rich people, we actually have to use these toilets that they bomb in. Sometimes our small children have to use them. Immediately. Sometimes they have personal things inside. Have a bit of sense.

[Anonymous]

I had a panicked mail man ask me once. I said yes. I don't like it either but, be humane, you know?

I had a husband then, I wouldn't allow a man in now.

A delivery guy already here, yeah go ahead if you must.

[Anonymous]

How do you know he was going to poop? Pee can be just as urgent.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How do you know he was going to poop? Pee can be just as urgent.

If it's a man: they already pee in empty bottles inside their delivery vehicles. If they are asking to use your toilet, it's because they have to go #2. Always.

If it's a woman: she probably has to pee.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I allowed this once a few years ago and the dude totally bombed out my toilet. It took an hour to air out the bathroom completely.

*gag*

Never would allow them bc of stories like this.

Stories. Like. This. Are. Why. They. Had. To. Ask.

No delivery person is like hmm, my bladder is half full, let me ask this obviously horrified, stuck up princess if I can use her precious bathroom. They didn’t want to. It was an emergency. All you have to do is show a little grace and compassion and I’m astounded by how many of you have so much material wealth and such hard, thin souls.

EXACTLY!

Good God, people. If someone asks to use your toilet, they probably really need to use it. It's cruel to say no.
You do know you can clean your bathroom afterwards if you want, right? Or are you too fancy to clean your own bathroom as well?

NP. She’s happy to clean “her own bathroom”. She just doesn’t want to clean his. Dealing with the poop from your immediate family is different from the poop of a random man who has so much poop or gas that he couldn’t hold it a bit longer. That’s just gross.

They could have stopped off at a truck stop if they have diarrhea before they can come to my house

[Anonymous]

Ok let’s say you are at work don’t you get to use a bathroom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:God, OP and others...

I am a huge germaphobe. Really. I understand.

But, there are things that you absolutely must do/accept to be a decent human being.

I've had two delivery and service guys (that I can remember) ask to use my toilet. I have a powder room right at my front door, and I don't hesitate to let them use it. I wouldn't be able to sleep that night if I treated someone so poorly.

Goodness.

Just clean the toilet after they use it. It's not hard.

We do accept. Of course. But it’s awful.

And not all of us are rich enough to have a “powder room right at our front door”. For the non-rich people, we actually have to use these toilets that they bomb in. Sometimes our small children have to use them. Immediately. Sometimes they have personal things inside. Have a bit of sense.

I don’t think anyone is suggesting that it wouldn’t be inconvenient/gross/invasive. The point is that you do it anyway because you’re a decent human being.

[Anonymous]

Everyone here should read this essay by Lauren Hough about her time as a cable tech. https://www.huffpost.com/entry/cable-tech-dick-cheney-sex-dungeon_n_5c0ea571e4b06484c9fd4c21

The issue of using customers bathrooms comes up at lot. Basically these home service providers (including delivery people) are typically on insanely strict schedules/daily quotas which makes stopping somewhere else to use a public restroom will put them behind schedule for the day.

Beyond just the restroom issue, have a little compassion for the people entering your home. Those are terrible jobs even in good times, and the people in your home to provide you a service are human too.

[Anonymous]

I have a powder room on my main floor and I say yes when repairmen or delivery men ask to use the bathroom. I don’t love it, but they’re in need of something I can easily provide. However, when we had a new furnace installed, none of the workers asked to use the bathroom. They just went ahead and used the bathroom in the basement that no one in my family ever uses. I didn’t even have toilet paper in there, so they just “shook off” after peeing and left droplets of pee everywhere. That really gross and made me angry. I’ve learned my lesson though; that bathroom now has toilet paper, hand soap, hand towels and a trash can.