I got POA of mother because brothers are Aholes!

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Anonymous wrote:I"d love to hear the brother's side of this story. OP actually comes across like an awful person if you read all three posts. More invested in showing up her brothers than anything.

NP. OP sounds like she doesn't suffer fools. Her mom is lucky to have her.

Agree.

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Anonymous wrote:OP you should not add yourself as a joint owner on your mothers account! That means you’re entitled to the assets. That’s not OK. You’re basically going along with your old thread, saying you want to cut your brothers out of the will. You can’t just unilaterally decide to add yourself as a joint owner on your mothers account when you have siblings!

Op here. Fyi I am the agent on her accounts giving me control to pay her bills and making sure no moneys are withdrawn without my consent. My brothers are still on as POD. So any moneys left will be divided 3 ways. I am not out to cut them out of any inheritances.

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Anonymous wrote:The facts provided put you in the right OP but your tone and general demeanor makes me deeply suspect you are an unreliable narrator. Regardless you seem to have 'won' so congratulations?

Absolutely this.

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I’m sure there are two sides to the story and op isn’t perfect. But at least she agrees that her mother’s money should be spent on her care and is providing her with top notch care. The mother clearly has assets and can afford to be in this expensive AL facility with private caregivers. No one should rely on a parent’s assets for an inheritance and if the brothers were in any way trying to cheap out on the mother’s care when she could afford her current set up, they are wrong. It is a completely different story when a parent doesn’t have the type of assets op’s mother does. Clearly, there are sibling dynamics going on and hopefully you can resolve them before this gets even more toxic.

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OP update. Mom is doing absolutely wonderful. Has made a few more friends at her AL, including a fascinating, witty, intelligent former psychiatrist. He makes her laugh so much and they’ve been having breakfast together. I brought her piano music and she is now practicing on the baby grand in her AL. She hasn’t played in a few years and really rusty but after she finished one song she received applause from the residents. I had tears in my eyes.

Meanwhile one brother is still on the warpath and keeps badgering me insisting I give him a copy of my POA. My attorney advised me not to and ignore him. He is also pestering our mother that we need mediation. She agreed because she thinks it will solve this egregious situation between us. I explained to her what a mediation is. They think a mediator will change my mind as far as her care and or change her mind to revoke my POA. She said that won’t happen! I told her the attorney said mediation is ridiculous given the situation and a complete waste of time and money. On a positive note I called my eldest brother and asked him to please talk to this brother and tell him he’s causing undo stress for her. I thought he might tell me to F off but to my surprise he totally agreed and even said he had already talked to him about it that morning. He said he would talk to him again. I was so happy that 1 brother is finally coming around. Praise the lord!

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Anonymous wrote:OP update. Mom is doing absolutely wonderful. Has made a few more friends at her AL, including a fascinating, witty, intelligent former psychiatrist. He makes her laugh so much and they’ve been having breakfast together. I brought her piano music and she is now practicing on the baby grand in her AL. She hasn’t played in a few years and really rusty but after she finished one song she received applause from the residents. I had tears in my eyes.

Meanwhile one brother is still on the warpath and keeps badgering me insisting I give him a copy of my POA. My attorney advised me not to and ignore him. He is also pestering our mother that we need mediation. She agreed because she thinks it will solve this egregious situation between us. I explained to her what a mediation is. They think a mediator will change my mind as far as her care and or change her mind to revoke my POA. She said that won’t happen! I told her the attorney said mediation is ridiculous given the situation and a complete waste of time and money. On a positive note I called my eldest brother and asked him to please talk to this brother and tell him he’s causing undo stress for her. I thought he might tell me to F off but to my surprise he totally agreed and even said he had already talked to him about it that morning. He said he would talk to him again. I was so happy that 1 brother is finally coming around. Praise the lord!

The level of drama and commitment to coming back here and proving a bunch of posters who doubted you wrong is a little side eye inducing OP. I haven't posted much in this thread but every time you post I am more convinced that you are an exceptionally unreliable narrator or a troll.