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[Anonymous]

This post is red meat for the dcum misogynists.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Jen has been giving interviews for over 25 years now. You don’t give her enough credit. She’s a pro at interviews and will NOT answer a question unless she wants to do so. Olivia Munn told a story during Office Xmas Party promos where an interviewer asked Olivia a personal question (pretty sure it was about Aaron and his family as it was during the time she dated him). Olivia said Jen spoke up quickly and told the interviewer, paraphrasing, “you can’t ask her that, it’s personal and nothing to do with the movie.” If Jen will stand up for others, she’ll stand up for herself. She’s America’s Sweetheart but very strong.

Precisely!

Which means Jen is using these talking points intentionally for her own reasons. Sympathy, press, whatever.

If she’s sharing this stuff for personal gain, then people can and will draw conclusions. That’s not misogyny btw.

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Anonymous wrote:You guys are such ghouls. Just because she didn’t want to go to extreme lengths like surrogate or egg donor doesn’t mean it wasn’t a “priority” and she doesn’t owe anyone a detailed account of that.

She doesn’t owe anyone an explanation…so it’s weird that she continues to bring it up in every.single.interview.

Why???

She is asked about it in every interview. She has a very "America's sweetheart" persona, plus the whole Jen vs. Angie narrative that has been going on for decades now, women relate to her as a woman wronged. I think she is generally pretty diplomatic about it, not throwing Brad under the bus as much as she could have, but people want MORE than that.

Personally, I think she was a fence-sitter (like me!) who kinda wanted a kid, but didn't have any overwhelming biological drive and had a strong vision of what the rest of her life needed to look like before procreation or adoption. I think she wanted to be with someone who wanted a child with HER, and for several reasons, that didn't really happen. I have several friends like this. They're like, "if I get married by 40 and can have a kid, cool. But I'm not doing IVF, I'm not using donor eggs, I'm not getting a surrogate, etc." I think she is that, but the media has driven this narrative for her HARD. I think it's maybe in the past 2 years only she hasn't been on "bump watch" everytime the paps see her in Mexico on the beach leaning over after some guac and margs? They've been ruthless with her.

Oh, and society is RUTHLESS to women without kids. Check out the thread on Off Topic. It may be gone now but you have mothers out with pitchforks saying that all the "barren women should be banished from society and shipped to Lezbos."

Seriously.

People are SO MEAN, even if I tell them I spent ten years and my life savings trying unsuccessfully to have a child. I just don't understand. I don't really want to be thought of as tragic either, but it would be better than the viciousness I get from people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jen has been giving interviews for over 25 years now. You don’t give her enough credit. She’s a pro at interviews and will NOT answer a question unless she wants to do so. Olivia Munn told a story during Office Xmas Party promos where an interviewer asked Olivia a personal question (pretty sure it was about Aaron and his family as it was during the time she dated him). Olivia said Jen spoke up quickly and told the interviewer, paraphrasing, “you can’t ask her that, it’s personal and nothing to do with the movie.” If Jen will stand up for others, she’ll stand up for herself. She’s America’s Sweetheart but very strong.

Precisely!

Which means Jen is using these talking points intentionally for her own reasons. Sympathy, press, whatever.

If she’s sharing this stuff for personal gain, then people can and will draw conclusions. That’s not misogyny btw.

Maybe she doesn’t mind telling people to f*** off about it on the record, which is why she doesn’t decline to answer but doesn’t give explanations either.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You guys are such ghouls. Just because she didn’t want to go to extreme lengths like surrogate or egg donor doesn’t mean it wasn’t a “priority” and she doesn’t owe anyone a detailed account of that.

She doesn’t owe anyone an explanation…so it’s weird that she continues to bring it up in every.single.interview.

Why???

She is asked about it in every interview. She has a very "America's sweetheart" persona, plus the whole Jen vs. Angie narrative that has been going on for decades now, women relate to her as a woman wronged. I think she is generally pretty diplomatic about it, not throwing Brad under the bus as much as she could have, but people want MORE than that.

Personally, I think she was a fence-sitter (like me!) who kinda wanted a kid, but didn't have any overwhelming biological drive and had a strong vision of what the rest of her life needed to look like before procreation or adoption. I think she wanted to be with someone who wanted a child with HER, and for several reasons, that didn't really happen. I have several friends like this. They're like, "if I get married by 40 and can have a kid, cool. But I'm not doing IVF, I'm not using donor eggs, I'm not getting a surrogate, etc." I think she is that, but the media has driven this narrative for her HARD. I think it's maybe in the past 2 years only she hasn't been on "bump watch" everytime the paps see her in Mexico on the beach leaning over after some guac and margs? They've been ruthless with her.

Oh, and society is RUTHLESS to women without kids. Check out the thread on Off Topic. It may be gone now but you have mothers out with pitchforks saying that all the "barren women should be banished from society and shipped to Lezbos."

Seriously.

People are SO MEAN, even if I tell them I spent ten years and my life savings trying unsuccessfully to have a child. I just don't understand. I don't really want to be thought of as tragic either, but it would be better than the viciousness I get from people.

Yes, I get the vibe she's genuinely hurt and p*ssed about it but doesn't want to divulge all the intimate details. So sorry for what you've gone through, PP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Jen has been giving interviews for over 25 years now. You don’t give her enough credit. She’s a pro at interviews and will NOT answer a question unless she wants to do so. Olivia Munn told a story during Office Xmas Party promos where an interviewer asked Olivia a personal question (pretty sure it was about Aaron and his family as it was during the time she dated him). Olivia said Jen spoke up quickly and told the interviewer, paraphrasing, “you can’t ask her that, it’s personal and nothing to do with the movie.” If Jen will stand up for others, she’ll stand up for herself. She’s America’s Sweetheart but very strong.

Precisely!

Which means Jen is using these talking points intentionally for her own reasons. Sympathy, press, whatever.

If she’s sharing this stuff for personal gain, then people can and will draw conclusions. That’s not misogyny btw.

Maybe she doesn’t mind telling people to f*** off about it on the record, which is why she doesn’t decline to answer but doesn’t give explanations either.

She can’t use the Brangelina sympathy card anymore so now it’s the no kids card.

[Anonymous]

Hope some of you who posted on this thread feel like sh*t now. The woman went through a lot trying to have kids, and it didn't work out for her, while the press was vicious toward her.

https://www.allure.com/story/jennifer-aniston-december-2022-cover-interview

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Anonymous wrote:People. She’s 52. She’s not having kids. Get over it.

She is 53 AND she could still have kids. If she was a man, nobody would bat an eye at a 53 year old man having kids. THAT IS HER POINT!

[Anonymous]

Does not surprise me to hear she tried ivf when she was with Justin, and it didn't work out. Agree it's terrible she had to deal with all the vile chatter while going through that.

On a shallow note, she has an extraordinary body, though I'm not keen on her styling for these photos.

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We really need to do better, be better.

“I was trying to get pregnant. It was a challenging road for me, the baby-making road,” says Aniston, of a period several years ago.

On the scale of dumb things to say, this is the moment when I really hit it out of the park. “I had no idea.”

“Yeah, nobody does,” she replies graciously. “All the years and years and years of speculation... It was really hard. I was going through IVF, drinking Chinese teas, you name it. I was throwing everything at it. I would’ve given anything if someone had said to me, ‘Freeze your eggs. Do yourself a favor.’ You just don’t think it. So here I am today. The ship has sailed.”

We sit quietly for a minute, maybe sad for all the ships that have ever sailed. I almost want to apologize to Aniston for being a journalist. This doesn’t feel like any of my business.

“I have zero regrets,” she says. “I actually feel a little relief now because there is no more, ‘Can I? Maybe. Maybe. Maybe.’ I don’t have to think about that anymore.”

Back then — and for years — there were headlines swirling through pop culture that Aniston wouldn’t have kids. That she wasn’t interested or she just wanted to be a star or whatever idea was selling that week.

Adding to the personal pain of what she went through was the “narrative that I was just selfish,” she says. “I just cared about my career. And God forbid a woman is successful and doesn’t have a child. And the reason my husband left me, why we broke up and ended our marriage, was because I wouldn’t give him a kid. It was absolute lies. I don’t have anything to hide at this point.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We really need to do better, be better.


+1000 I know in many respects she's had a totally blessed life, but this made me sad. Especially the fact that women were the most vicious toward her.

“I was trying to get pregnant. It was a challenging road for me, the baby-making road,” says Aniston, of a period several years ago.

On the scale of dumb things to say, this is the moment when I really hit it out of the park. “I had no idea.”

“Yeah, nobody does,” she replies graciously. “All the years and years and years of speculation... It was really hard. I was going through IVF, drinking Chinese teas, you name it. I was throwing everything at it. I would’ve given anything if someone had said to me, ‘Freeze your eggs. Do yourself a favor.’ You just don’t think it. So here I am today. The ship has sailed.”

We sit quietly for a minute, maybe sad for all the ships that have ever sailed. I almost want to apologize to Aniston for being a journalist. This doesn’t feel like any of my business.

“I have zero regrets,” she says. “I actually feel a little relief now because there is no more, ‘Can I? Maybe. Maybe. Maybe.’ I don’t have to think about that anymore.”

Back then — and for years — there were headlines swirling through pop culture that Aniston wouldn’t have kids. That she wasn’t interested or she just wanted to be a star or whatever idea was selling that week.

Adding to the personal pain of what she went through was the “narrative that I was just selfish,” she says. “I just cared about my career. And God forbid a woman is successful and doesn’t have a child. And the reason my husband left me, why we broke up and ended our marriage, was because I wouldn’t give him a kid. It was absolute lies. I don’t have anything to hide at this point.”

[Anonymous]

I really hope the thing people take from this is that you don't know what is going on in someone else's life and that you should refrain from judging what you believe to be their choices because you simply do not, and can never, have the context to actually evaluate them. Choices (which are not always choices) like marriage, kids, career, etc., are complex and vary SO MUCH. from person to person. Not everyone is presented with the same opportunities, not everyone gets the right timing, not everyone as the same support or means or good fortune. It's crazy that we measure people against each other like it's some kind of game when life is so varied and the vast majority of people are doing the best they can.

But I'm guessing a lot of people will latch onto that comment about her implying she wishes she'd frozen her eggs and use it as one more thing to yell at women about -- "why didn't you just freeze your eggs, look what happened to Jennifer Aniston."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:People. She’s 52. She’s not having kids. Get over it.

She is 53 AND she could still have kids. If she was a man, nobody would bat an eye at a 53 year old man having kids. THAT IS HER POINT!

THEN SHE SHOULD SHUT UO AND GO HAVE KIDS, OR NOT, BUT STOP ACTING LIKE YOU DON'T ENJOY THE ATTENTION! Also, for love of God, stop with the injectables. She looks like a f g plastic barbie!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I really hope the thing people take from this is that you don't know what is going on in someone else's life and that you should refrain from judging what you believe to be their choices because you simply do not, and can never, have the context to actually evaluate them. Choices (which are not always choices) like marriage, kids, career, etc., are complex and vary SO MUCH. from person to person. Not everyone is presented with the same opportunities, not everyone gets the right timing, not everyone as the same support or means or good fortune. It's crazy that we measure people against each other like it's some kind of game when life is so varied and the vast majority of people are doing the best they can.

But I'm guessing a lot of people will latch onto that comment about her implying she wishes she'd frozen her eggs and use it as one more thing to yell at women about -- "why didn't you just freeze your eggs, look what happened to Jennifer Aniston."

I found that comment particularly interesting since post-Brad Pitt divorce, when she was at prime egg-freezing time in her mid-30s (so roughly mid-2000s), I don't think people were really talking about egg freezing all that much. Maybe the very wealthy/connected like her had access to it, but it wasn't in the public eye the way it is now. So I definitely don't think she should be feeling bad about that (or any other part of her story!).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We really need to do better, be better.


+1000 I know in many respects she's had a totally blessed life, but this made me sad. Especially the fact that women were the most vicious toward her.

“I was trying to get pregnant. It was a challenging road for me, the baby-making road,” says Aniston, of a period several years ago.

On the scale of dumb things to say, this is the moment when I really hit it out of the park. “I had no idea.”

“Yeah, nobody does,” she replies graciously. “All the years and years and years of speculation... It was really hard. I was going through IVF, drinking Chinese teas, you name it. I was throwing everything at it. I would’ve given anything if someone had said to me, ‘Freeze your eggs. Do yourself a favor.’ You just don’t think it. So here I am today. The ship has sailed.”

We sit quietly for a minute, maybe sad for all the ships that have ever sailed. I almost want to apologize to Aniston for being a journalist. This doesn’t feel like any of my business.

“I have zero regrets,” she says. “I actually feel a little relief now because there is no more, ‘Can I? Maybe. Maybe. Maybe.’ I don’t have to think about that anymore.”

Back then — and for years — there were headlines swirling through pop culture that Aniston wouldn’t have kids. That she wasn’t interested or she just wanted to be a star or whatever idea was selling that week.

Adding to the personal pain of what she went through was the “narrative that I was just selfish,” she says. “I just cared about my career. And God forbid a woman is successful and doesn’t have a child. And the reason my husband left me, why we broke up and ended our marriage, was because I wouldn’t give him a kid. It was absolute lies. I don’t have anything to hide at this point.”

I never got into the debate about her having or not having kids, but I was of the opinion that she was maybe a little boring without a lot to offer, but I take it back. Her privacy, her routines, her relatively quiet life are all very smart choices and she was a million percent right to structure it that way. I'm coming to admire her for it and for her success on and off the screen.