Ex wife with GPS tracking device on son during my parenting time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s more about control. He hid these on me when we were married and filmed me when I was at home alone. I never even came close to cheating it was just a control thing.

Really not cool. Aren't you concerned he could escalate into violence, potentially?

Yes, but what can I do? He pulled a knife on me in the past and I was not believed in court. He's a smarmy liar and stops at nothing to get his way.

This sounds fake.

[Anonymous]

Ignore it. That’s annoying, and crazy, but easily circumvented. Put the necklace in the bag and put the bag in the closet. Leave it there until it’s time to go back. Use your own diaper bag. It takes 3 minutes to move stuff from one bag to another one. The tracker will show you home all weekend. Send the kid home with Dad’s diaper bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My ex bought the kids gizmo watches as soon as I left. He’s controlling and bought them so he could track the kids when they’re with me. I take them and turn them off when the kids are with me so he can’t track us. You’re in charge of parenting them when they’re with you. Period. End of story.

Or maybe he got them to communicate if you restrict access. Gizmos and kids are normal. We have them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ignore it. That’s annoying, and crazy, but easily circumvented. Put the necklace in the bag and put the bag in the closet. Leave it there until it’s time to go back. Use your own diaper bag. It takes 3 minutes to move stuff from one bag to another one. The tracker will show you home all weekend. Send the kid home with Dad’s diaper bag.

Op does not need to even take the bag. Bring your own. Change the kid into your clothing at pick up and before drop off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:“Lose” the trackers every time. That’ll get expensive real quick.

Leave them in the house.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s more about control. He hid these on me when we were married and filmed me when I was at home alone. I never even came close to cheating it was just a control thing.

Do everything you can to document his controlling behavior. I know more than one woman with controlling exes and they only get worse. Document and get it in usable form. Email, pics, texts. Consult a lawyer. Someday you may need the evidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s more about control. He hid these on me when we were married and filmed me when I was at home alone. I never even came close to cheating it was just a control thing.

Really not cool. Aren't you concerned he could escalate into violence, potentially?

Yes, but what can I do? He pulled a knife on me in the past and I was not believed in court. He's a smarmy liar and stops at nothing to get his way.

This sounds fake.

No, it sounds real. One in four women are abused physically. Numbers go up if you include controlling behaviors and mental abuse.

Every women and young women should read Lundy Bancroft’s books, particularly “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Controlling and Abusive Men”. Bancroft worked with abusive men for 15 years and shares what he learned from them. Helps you see the red flags and learn to listen to your gut.

[Anonymous]

Call your lawyer asap. Once you get your kid change their clothes and diaper, then use your own bag.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s more about control. He hid these on me when we were married and filmed me when I was at home alone. I never even came close to cheating it was just a control thing.

Really not cool. Aren't you concerned he could escalate into violence, potentially?

Yes, but what can I do? He pulled a knife on me in the past and I was not believed in court. He's a smarmy liar and stops at nothing to get his way.

This sounds fake.

No, it sounds real. One in four women are abused physically. Numbers go up if you include controlling behaviors and mental abuse.

Every women and young women should read Lundy Bancroft’s books, particularly “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Controlling and Abusive Men”. Bancroft worked with abusive men for 15 years and shares what he learned from them. Helps you see the red flags and learn to listen to your gut.

This sounds very fake. OP can have her own diaper bag ready in her car at pick up. So, she declines the bag and 100% changes child into her own clothing, shoes, and jacket at her house and then returns the child in Dad's clothing that she washed. Problem solved.

I keep a tracker on my child. Either a gizmo or phone. We have tons of those trackers for bags and keys. No big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:As soon as he has a phone she can track him.

If you aren’t doing anything you shouldn’t what is the issue?

He's a toddler and years away from having a phone.

People should not be tracking their ex-spouses. Period.

They aren’t they are tracking their own child. It’s not illegal. But go ahead call a lawyer.

This child will have a phone at 5.

Uh, the kid is with the ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not in DC but I know that it’s generally very easy to withhold a child or there’s no custody order in place, so I hope you have one. If there is an order it takes forever to go to court, order the child to be returned etc.
honestly I would not mention the tracker, and take a picture of him in my car to show ex. Meanwhile, I would email him “last time you mentioned (insert all the crazy stuff) so could you specify blah blah” so that there is a record of his mental disorder and potentially a way for you to get more custody

My MIL lost her daughter this way. Gave her to her ex for visitation and never got her back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s more about control. He hid these on me when we were married and filmed me when I was at home alone. I never even came close to cheating it was just a control thing.

Jesus. I often wonder about these things---did he do this while you were dating?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s more about control. He hid these on me when we were married and filmed me when I was at home alone. I never even came close to cheating it was just a control thing.

Really not cool. Aren't you concerned he could escalate into violence, potentially?

Yes, but what can I do? He pulled a knife on me in the past and I was not believed in court. He's a smarmy liar and stops at nothing to get his way.

This sounds fake.

MAN ALERT!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s more about control. He hid these on me when we were married and filmed me when I was at home alone. I never even came close to cheating it was just a control thing.

Really not cool. Aren't you concerned he could escalate into violence, potentially?

Yes, but what can I do? He pulled a knife on me in the past and I was not believed in court. He's a smarmy liar and stops at nothing to get his way.

This sounds fake.

No, it sounds real. One in four women are abused physically. Numbers go up if you include controlling behaviors and mental abuse.

Every women and young women should read Lundy Bancroft’s books, particularly “Why Does He Do That? Inside the Minds of Controlling and Abusive Men”. Bancroft worked with abusive men for 15 years and shares what he learned from them. Helps you see the red flags and learn to listen to your gut.

Not discounting this for women but there is a significant amount of abuse against men that goes unreported. more than 90% of men never mentions this to anyone due to shame and it is coming out a lot these days during metal health studies.

[Anonymous]

Want to drive him nuts?

Hire a private detective firm to surveillance him for a day or even part of a day once or twice a month. Tell them you want it obvious.