What's it like being married to someone much older?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:34 year age difference with DH being older. He’s retired while I telecommute most of the week. He makes me coffee and prepares lunch. In the evenings, we watch tv. I am childfree and he has adult children from his first marriage. We work out 3-4 times a week and have similar values related to money and keeping healthy. We love our life together and I want him to age like Fauci.

There may be fertility issues with an older man and there is a stigma and ignorance in the older generation that may lead to the woman getting a lot of abuse if she is hush-hush about his problems.

WTF? The guy makes her coffee, exercises with her, watches tv with her and it sounds like they have a lovely life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:34 year age difference with DH being older. He’s retired while I telecommute most of the week. He makes me coffee and prepares lunch. In the evenings, we watch tv. I am childfree and he has adult children from his first marriage. We work out 3-4 times a week and have similar values related to money and keeping healthy. We love our life together and I want him to age like Fauci.

You didn’t need to add that clarification.

Now man bites dog, that’s a story…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:34 year age difference with DH being older. He’s retired while I telecommute most of the week. He makes me coffee and prepares lunch. In the evenings, we watch tv. I am childfree and he has adult children from his first marriage. We work out 3-4 times a week and have similar values related to money and keeping healthy. We love our life together and I want him to age like Fauci.

You didn’t need to add that clarification.

Now man bites dog, that’s a story…

Nothing wrong with PP clarifying. How else would you know it wasn’t a Macron situation?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The only person I know who married much older has about a 30-40 year gap, and I don't see how that makes sense to anyone. BUT he "happens" to have money, and she happens to need money for her extended family, so it "works", and they put up a united front in public and social situations. They have a three year old, and it is um, awkward.

Her parents are much younger than his side's cousins, which makes family gatherings/events a little weird. Plus his family is never quite sure who her real "cousins" are, or if they are just hangers on. Again, awkward.

Lol at this!

Yeah, it is a little awkward when the bride's family - including her parents (!!!!!!) are so much younger than the groom's family (mostly deceased from age). Money makes people with nothing in common - well, suddenly have something in common (???) , I guess. Like being able to fly her entire extended family to a destination wedding in Europe, where none of them had ever been.

World's oldest profession.....

[Anonymous]

*Their destination wedding - I should clarify. Second for her, fourth for him. Yikes.

[Anonymous]

To add: He is sending her kids to college, so there is that.

I guess some people marry out of necessity. They messed up their lives, now they need someone else to adult and clean it up.