dh left baby on curb to get on bus...

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20 26 I don't care about how far the bus wheels are from the seat on the curb. I only know how long I was shaking after the episode in the parking lot. you NEVER place a CARSEAT with a child on the ground! NEVER!

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For the first 7-8 months we used a car seat and snap n go combo on the bus because we did not have a car and also daughter hated being in a carrier and it wasn't comfortable for husband. Husband commutes with daughter because she is at his daycare at work. What he does is he waits until he sees the bus coming then he folds up the snap n go, puts baby (gasp!) briefly on the sidewalk (far away from traffic and by the time the bus comes he has the snap n go folded up; baby in the carseat in his hand; and ready to go in. Now he carries her in the Ergo because she's bigger and it fits better.

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Anonymous wrote:As you'll surely learn as you have been parents for longer, sometimes you need to agree to disagree. We are both very stubborn and opinionated, and have hit many a brick wall in our 'heated' discussions about child rearing. We have learned to drop it, give each other big hugs, and move on.
As you've seen from some posters, your hubbie's rationale isn't terrible. He's human and makes mistakes, and is too proud to admit that from a different perspective, his logic was flawed.
On a side note, there is a movie coming out about 4 babies and how they live the first year of their life in different countries/cultures (China, Africa, the US, and Tibet I think). In the preview the Tibetan family is biking through the countryside with their baby in a sling on the mother. Keeps things in perspective - no one would dare attempt that in the US!
Might I also recommend some one-on-one time with your husband. It is important to feel like you're a team again, not on opposite teams, and at least for me that seems to help immensely.

YES. This.

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Anonymous wrote:20 26 I don't care about how far the bus wheels are from the seat on the curb. I only know how long I was shaking after the episode in the parking lot. you NEVER place a CARSEAT with a child on the ground! NEVER!

Do you have a toddler too? B.c I have both and I either have to put my infant in first, in which case I worry my toddler with bolt away from me, or I put the infant seat down and strap my toddler into her seat. Which seems to me to be the much safer option. So, gasp, YES, I PUT THE CARSEAT ON THE GROUND.

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Honestly, why don't you all use slings or carriers? The ergo works really well for older babies and is really comfortable and easy to use. Saying the baby doesn't like the carrier is like me saying my baby doesn't like his carseat. I still use a carseat because it is safest. If you're carrying your baby around in one of those baby buckets, it's less safe than using a normal stroller (safer) or using a baby carrier like the bjorn or ergo (safest, because baby is with you securely and your hands are free). Anyone who thinks it is acceptible to put that bucket on the ground with your newborn in it, yikes. There's no excuse, ever, period. OP says she has moved on but I for one do not blame her for lighting into her husband. Sorry, OP, he sounds like an idiot, and belligerent about his obvious mistake, to boot.

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Anonymous wrote:20 26 I don't care about how far the bus wheels are from the seat on the curb. I only know how long I was shaking after the episode in the parking lot. you NEVER place a CARSEAT with a child on the ground! NEVER!

Do you have a toddler too? B.c I have both and I either have to put my infant in first, in which case I worry my toddler with bolt away from me, or I put the infant seat down and strap my toddler into her seat. Which seems to me to be the much safer option. So, gasp, YES, I PUT THE CARSEAT ON THE GROUND.

I just hope you only come across very good drivers and the word accident never has to be used in your case. that's what baby slings are for so you can have hands free to deal with other things without putting your baby at risk. I nannied for a family of 3 and at a certain point I had the infant and the toddler and never had to place the baby on the ground. commuting takes brains sorry if yours isn't that sharp.

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Anonymous wrote:20 26 I don't care about how far the bus wheels are from the seat on the curb. I only know how long I was shaking after the episode in the parking lot. you NEVER place a CARSEAT with a child on the ground! NEVER!

Do you have a toddler too? B.c I have both and I either have to put my infant in first, in which case I worry my toddler with bolt away from me, or I put the infant seat down and strap my toddler into her seat. Which seems to me to be the much safer option. So, gasp, YES, I PUT THE CARSEAT ON THE GROUND.

I just hope you only come across very good drivers and the word accident never has to be used in your case. that's what baby slings are for so you can have hands free to deal with other things without putting your baby at risk. I nannied for a family of 3 and at a certain point I had the infant and the toddler and never had to place the baby on the ground. commuting takes brains sorry if yours isn't that sharp.

I hope you also taught the children you took care of the wonderful empathy you are displaying right now.

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Anonymous wrote:20 26 I don't care about how far the bus wheels are from the seat on the curb. I only know how long I was shaking after the episode in the parking lot. you NEVER place a CARSEAT with a child on the ground! NEVER!

Do you have a toddler too? B.c I have both and I either have to put my infant in first, in which case I worry my toddler with bolt away from me, or I put the infant seat down and strap my toddler into her seat. Which seems to me to be the much safer option. So, gasp, YES, I PUT THE CARSEAT ON THE GROUND.

I just hope you only come across very good drivers and the word accident never has to be used in your case. that's what baby slings are for so you can have hands free to deal with other things without putting your baby at risk. I nannied for a family of 3 and at a certain point I had the infant and the toddler and never had to place the baby on the ground. commuting takes brains sorry if yours isn't that sharp.

NP here. Wow. I tripped with my baby in a bjorn when she was 6 weeks old. Thank goodness, she was fine. But, I got really hurt and she could have been as well. Accidents happen everywhere. Oh, and if a bad driver jumps the sidewalk, odds are she (and you) are going down whether she is in the carrier or not.

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Anonymous wrote:20 26 I don't care about how far the bus wheels are from the seat on the curb. I only know how long I was shaking after the episode in the parking lot. you NEVER place a CARSEAT with a child on the ground! NEVER!

Do you have a toddler too? B.c I have both and I either have to put my infant in first, in which case I worry my toddler with bolt away from me, or I put the infant seat down and strap my toddler into her seat. Which seems to me to be the much safer option. So, gasp, YES, I PUT THE CARSEAT ON THE GROUND.

I just hope you only come across very good drivers and the word accident never has to be used in your case. that's what baby slings are for so you can have hands free to deal with other things without putting your baby at risk. I nannied for a family of 3 and at a certain point I had the infant and the toddler and never had to place the baby on the ground. commuting takes brains sorry if yours isn't that sharp.

I hope you also taught the children you took care of the wonderful empathy you are displaying right now.

what does my opinion on parental behavior have to so with I taught to the children I cared for?
car seats are FOR CARS! if you're taking a chance acting stupid I have to pretend to agree so I can be considered s good nanny? you're so funny!

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Anonymous wrote:20 26 I don't care about how far the bus wheels are from the seat on the curb. I only know how long I was shaking after the episode in the parking lot. you NEVER place a CARSEAT with a child on the ground! NEVER!

Do you have a toddler too? B.c I have both and I either have to put my infant in first, in which case I worry my toddler with bolt away from me, or I put the infant seat down and strap my toddler into her seat. Which seems to me to be the much safer option. So, gasp, YES, I PUT THE CARSEAT ON THE GROUND.

I just hope you only come across very good drivers and the word accident never has to be used in your case. that's what baby slings are for so you can have hands free to deal with other things without putting your baby at risk. I nannied for a family of 3 and at a certain point I had the infant and the toddler and never had to place the baby on the ground. commuting takes brains sorry if yours isn't that sharp.

NP here. Wow. I tripped with my baby in a bjorn when she was 6 weeks old. Thank goodness, she was fine. But, I got really hurt and she could have been as well. Accidents happen everywhere. Oh, and if a bad driver jumps the sidewalk, odds are she (and you) are going down whether she is in the carrier or not.

wonderful point PP. you quoted me. that's why we as parents have to be prudent. car seats are for cars and not to be used as child carriers and left on the ground unatended. they won't protect a baby if the carrier is ran over or if someone trips on it and falls on top of the baby. baby carriers are safe in case of a car crash!
same for the bjorn. glad to know you were using it correctly so your baby was safe.

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If infant carseats are only for cars than why do hospitals require everyone (even those who do not have cars) to leave with the baby in a carseat? Why not let them leave in a sling if is the only mode of transport that's safe for babies outside of a car?

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Anonymous wrote:If infant carseats are only for cars than why do hospitals require everyone (even those who do not have cars) to leave with the baby in a carseat? Why not let them leave in a sling if is the only mode of transport that's safe for babies outside of a car?

not true.
I work at VHC and see parents leaving with babies on their arms, slings all the time.
I had to help a set of parents yesterday to install the base and buckle the kid into the seat because they didn't read the instructions.

What if the parents don't have a car? What if they're not driving home? What a stupid statement!

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Anonymous wrote:If infant carseats are only for cars than why do hospitals require everyone (even those who do not have cars) to leave with the baby in a carseat? Why not let them leave in a sling if is the only mode of transport that's safe for babies outside of a car?

We hashed this out last summer. Hospitals don't require this, though they like to bully parents into leaving with the baby in a carseat, they cannot make you carry your baby out in a carseat. Plenty of parents have large (non baby bucket) carseats that remain in the car, such as the Britax Blvd. Others may be walking home from the hospital (unlikely, but maybe you live right across the street?)

Hospitals may prevent mom or dad from driving away with an unrestrained baby, but they may not dictate how you leave the hospital, other than requiring mom to be in a wheelchair (even that may be hard to enforce). They're not the police.

Oh, and while I enjoyed my hospital birth, let's not pretend that everything a hospital does is always best or never for convenience.

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Anonymous wrote:If infant carseats are only for cars than why do hospitals require everyone (even those who do not have cars) to leave with the baby in a carseat? Why not let them leave in a sling if is the only mode of transport that's safe for babies outside of a car?

Hospitals that do this want to see you have a seat and that it fits your child properly.

Carseats are not great for outside cars unless necessary -- not only a risk for positional asphyxia but also for their heads.

If you trip w/ baby in a carrier properly you have your hands to catch yourself with -- more than you would with your child in arms.

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Anonymous wrote:If infant carseats are only for cars than why do hospitals require everyone (even those who do not have cars) to leave with the baby in a carseat? Why not let them leave in a sling if is the only mode of transport that's safe for babies outside of a car?

They don't. At Georgetown they wanted to see that we had a caraway (we were driving home), but I carried my son out in my arms. We never owned a bucket seat. We've had a convertible from day 1, and it stays in the car 24/7. We use slings, carriers, and sometimes a regular stroller to transport our 9 mo old on the subway, around town, everywear.