Adult College kids

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Jewish mother here - this is not common. Non-Orthodox Jews don't place this kind of restrictions on their kids in 2021.

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No large group of people thinks in a monolithic way. Half of the people are only attached to their religions as lineage or culture. I see that in people of all faiths, no matter Jewish, Mormon, Muslim, Hindu etc.

Just one example of Christian-Jewish marriage is White House as Biden’s kids, Trump, Obama, Bush, Clinton’s daughters and probably 50% or more of other first kids are married to Jewish spouses.

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Anonymous wrote:oh, you want them both to think about you on the weekend mornings when they put on their pj gifts in the dorm room. cozy.

I find it odd too but may be it’s her way to show acceptance of the kid as family.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Are you the person who posted about making their Jewish kids break up with the non-Jewish kids? I don't think so. You had to use a derogatory term, I see. Not sure why you feel entitled to hurt other Jews by using this term. It makes us look bad. Jews already get a bad rap, don't add to it. Be respectful.

Nope. Don't tell me what to do. I'll do whatever I want. Why don't YOU be respectful by not telling others what to do, as if you're in charge of anything.

Maybe you will think the next time you consider using that terminology. It's hard to be called out for disgusting behavior.

What behavior are you calling out? Terminology used in a post or behavior telling people not to date wide swaths of people?

The derogatory term for Christian women.

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Are you the person who posted about making their Jewish kids break up with the non-Jewish kids? I don't think so. You had to use a derogatory term, I see. Not sure why you feel entitled to hurt other Jews by using this term. It makes us look bad. Jews already get a bad rap, don't add to it. Be respectful.

Nope. Don't tell me what to do. I'll do whatever I want. Why don't YOU be respectful by not telling others what to do, as if you're in charge of anything.

Maybe you will think the next time you consider using that terminology. It's hard to be called out for disgusting behavior.

What behavior are you calling out? Terminology used in a post or behavior telling people not to date wide swaths of people?

The derogatory term for Christian women.

Gentile here. I always thought it was an endearing slang term. Never had a reason to search shiksa meaning. This is derogatory, but made me laugh because I wasn't expecting it.

The etymology of the word shiksa is partly derived from the Hebrew term שקץ shekets, meaning "abomination", "impure," or "object of loathing", depending on the translator. Several dictionaries define shiksa as a disparaging and offensive term applied to a non-Jewish girl or woman.

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Gosh, when I grow up I want to be like all these wonderfully evolved Dcum parents. I take whatever shreds of information my daughter divulges about a date and immediately begin Googling. I know his major, where parents live, went to school, occupation, etc. I keep that information to myself but, hey- knowledge is power.

hey my daughter is in middle school and I already googled the parents of all her (possible) crushes.

Weirdo. Seriously. Unless you're trying to be funny.
If not, get therapy. It will benefit your child tremendously.

No, not a weirdo, they are just being honest. All the intense emotional and financial investment and micro-managing evident on these boards from pre-conception through college apps and beyond. Don’t pretend you behave any differently. We don’t believe you. We know you car; really, it’s okay.

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Gosh, when I grow up I want to be like all these wonderfully evolved Dcum parents. I take whatever shreds of information my daughter divulges about a date and immediately begin Googling. I know his major, where parents live, went to school, occupation, etc. I keep that information to myself but, hey- knowledge is power.

hey my daughter is in middle school and I already googled the parents of all her (possible) crushes.

Weirdo. Seriously. Unless you're trying to be funny.
If not, get therapy. It will benefit your child tremendously.

No, not a weirdo, they are just being honest. All the intense emotional and financial investment and micro-managing evident on these boards from pre-conception through college apps and beyond. Don’t pretend you behave any differently. We don’t believe you. We know you car; really, it’s okay.

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