Adult College kids

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the parent pays for college, the parent has not only the right but the duty to know.

Okay you nut

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If the parent pays for college, the parent has not only the right but the duty to know.

Why is that so? Would you be less concerned about their well being if you weren’t paying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If the parent pays for college, the parent has not only the right but the duty to know.

Okay you nut

With this kind of thinking, your child will never tell you they are dating.

[Anonymous]

My son wanted us to meet her. He's never wanted us to meet anyone else, ever. They share alot of the same interests so I ask about her in every conversation.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Seems like a good way to get a daughter-in-law you don't want

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Are you the person who posted about making their Jewish kids break up with the non-Jewish kids? I don't think so. You had to use a derogatory term, I see. Not sure why you feel entitled to hurt other Jews by using this term. It makes us look bad. Jews already get a bad rap, don't add to it. Be respectful.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Are you the person who posted about making their Jewish kids break up with the non-Jewish kids? I don't think so. You had to use a derogatory term, I see. Not sure why you feel entitled to hurt other Jews by using this term. It makes us look bad. Jews already get a bad rap, don't add to it. Be respectful.

Nope. Don't tell me what to do. I'll do whatever I want. Why don't YOU be respectful by not telling others what to do, as if you're in charge of anything.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Are you the person who posted about making their Jewish kids break up with the non-Jewish kids? I don't think so. You had to use a derogatory term, I see. Not sure why you feel entitled to hurt other Jews by using this term. It makes us look bad. Jews already get a bad rap, don't add to it. Be respectful.

Nope. Don't tell me what to do. I'll do whatever I want. Why don't YOU be respectful by not telling others what to do, as if you're in charge of anything.

Maybe you will think the next time you consider using that terminology. It's hard to be called out for disgusting behavior.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Don’t intervene unless you are very concerned. The kid usually comes around to the correct view: woman was too needy, not a good match, etc.

That said I have many Jewish friends that “made” their college age children break up with their non Jewish SOs at some point.

I am curious to know how they "made" their kids break up.

Some kids value their parents feelings and opinions. If I said "You're not going to marry her. So why not date someone you actually will marry?" my son would break up with that shiksa within three months.

Are you the person who posted about making their Jewish kids break up with the non-Jewish kids? I don't think so. You had to use a derogatory term, I see. Not sure why you feel entitled to hurt other Jews by using this term. It makes us look bad. Jews already get a bad rap, don't add to it. Be respectful.

Nope. Don't tell me what to do. I'll do whatever I want. Why don't YOU be respectful by not telling others what to do, as if you're in charge of anything.

Maybe you will think the next time you consider using that terminology. It's hard to be called out for disgusting behavior.

It's not disgusting. No need to be dramatic. I assure you that I will never think of you or what your stance is in this thread again. If you don't like the term, don't use it. But you don't get to dictate how other people talk.

[Anonymous]

Please stay on topic and don’t turn this thread into racial or religious debate. There’ll always be control freak and narrow minded parents who try to manipulate their kids into dating and marrying the type parents prefer, it can be race, religion, social status, political affiliation or whatever but always absolutely wrong no matter which justification is being used.

[Anonymous]

Gosh, when I grow up I want to be like all these wonderfully evolved Dcum parents. I take whatever shreds of information my daughter divulges about a date and immediately begin Googling. I know his major, where parents live, went to school, occupation, etc. I keep that information to myself but, hey- knowledge is power.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:They are not adults until they are independent without parents help. Age doesn't make you an adult

Hmmmm! It does. Even if you have other “well intentioned” adults trying to control your life with their purse strings or emotional blackmailing. Humans aren’t marionettes, it’s sad when people treat other people in such manner.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Gosh, when I grow up I want to be like all these wonderfully evolved Dcum parents. I take whatever shreds of information my daughter divulges about a date and immediately begin Googling. I know his major, where parents live, went to school, occupation, etc. I keep that information to myself but, hey- knowledge is power.

Does it cloud your opinion of the person before even meeting him?