MIL ate my birthday chocolates

[Anonymous]

Was it Sees?

[Anonymous]

I assume the box had the name of the chocolatier on the outside so she knew it wasn't something "intimate" -- but still crazy rude to open a box for someone else, and someone else's birthday present. I wouldn't make a big deal about it, but I'd just keep it in mind going forward. Now you know...

[Anonymous]

A third poster also wondering if it is Sees!!!

[Anonymous]

So gross and a total passive aggressive thing to do. She is reminding you of her power in her relationship with you and her role in your nuclear family that you have with her son. This is not a mistake it is so twisted.

[Anonymous]

Man no way. I've provided free babysitting for my brother and I'd never dream of just going through his stuff and taking things.

[Anonymous]

Your DIL's package absolutely not but you guys would seriously never open a package delivered to your own spouse why? I would assume my spouse wouldn't be receiving anything that he would have to actively hide from me. My spouse and I open packages addressed to each other all the time and we don't think twice of it. We are married and whoever happens to get to the package first just automatically opens it. 🤷

[Anonymous]

This so incredibly rude and obnoxious.

She opened someone else’s birthday present. I can’t imagine trying to rationalize that’s okay. And the attitude of “hee, hee, I just couldn’t help myself!” is gross.

[Anonymous]

I would be very annoyed but it isn’t that big of a deal. I am assuming that the chocolates were visible in the packaging.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Now you know what to get her for Christmas

Box of chocolates missing the same number she ate out of OP’s.

Lol

Haha!! Actually, it would be funny to make it a thing. A running joke. All her presents from now on are half eaten box of chocolates.

[Anonymous]

Forget the chocolate. I would assume she is going thru all your drawers when you are not home.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Was it Sees?

Or was it Enstroms? From Colorado? That toffee is from out of this world amazing.
https://www.enstrom.com/

Wherever the candy is from, it was so inappropriate for MIL to do this. I, too, would have been upset by this violation of privacy. Who opens someone else’s package? Please tell me that your husband lit into his mother for being so rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I mean… she stayed overnight with your kids? Worth a few chocolates I think.

Opening a package addressed to OP is simply not OK. This isn’t finding a box of chocolates in the cabinet and eating a few.

100% this. And if you don’t see the difference between opening someone’s mail and stealing contents—a federal offense—and opening their cabinet and eating some contents while you are doing them a favor, you are going to be the dreaded MIL someday.

[Anonymous]

Lake Champlain chocolates?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s the lack of boundaries that is bothering me—opening a package addressed to me is beyond. This will be her last time watching my kids without me around. She will never be alone in our house again. She has proven to be nosy and meddlesome and snoop-y before; this is the last straw.

Luckily we have no shortage of babysitters. My local aunt, my parents, my cousin, friends with whom we already swap overnight sitting duties, and a few trusted former daycare teachers. We didn’t need the “favor” from her; this was a way for she and FIL to spend quality time with the kids, which they ask for.

Oh well. She can’t be trusted alone in my house, so she never will be again.

So you let this spoil your night out?

Let me guess you didn't really want her to sit, but your husband talked you into it, and now you have a "justified" warpath.

No, it’s not that at all. They actually stay with us once every other month or so, in non-pandemic times, and it’s usually to “host” them. So I have made holiday meals, cooked and cleaned, facilitiated their vacations, and done special favors for them like spending, I’m serious, a week doing the most to pack and deep-clean FIL’s mother’s house while they moved her into assisted living so that they could focus on the emotional side of that. So I do a lot for them, and the one time they’re actually doing us a favor, she opens my mail and eats my birthday present.

Would you seriously open someone’s mail and eat a gift someone else sent for their birthday? You really think that’s OK?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She ate your Sees Candy????

OP here. It is not See’s Candy. I wouldn’t be upset over something you can buy in an airport.