MIL ate my birthday chocolates

[Anonymous]

I think you’re spot on to ensure she’s never in your house alone. I might make a point of telling my children it is extremely rude to open other people’s packages and we never, ever do it, because that would be something I’d be horrified to find out they picked up from MIL

[Anonymous]

That’s what you get when you expect free child care from your in-laws. Hire a sitter next time. And use the money you could have spent on a sitter for the weekend to buy yourself some new chocolates. Or better yet, buy your MIL a box too for babysitting the entire weekend for free. And no, I’m not a MIL.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s what you get when you expect free child care from your in-laws. Hire a sitter next time. And use the money you could have spent on a sitter for the weekend to buy yourself some new chocolates. Or better yet, buy your MIL a box too for babysitting the entire weekend for free. And no, I’m not a MIL.

No. As OP clearly stated, she has multiple other childcare options and let grandma babysit because she begged.

Stop excusing gross, childish behavior in an old woman.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That’s what you get when you expect free child care from your in-laws. Hire a sitter next time. And use the money you could have spent on a sitter for the weekend to buy yourself some new chocolates. Or better yet, buy your MIL a box too for babysitting the entire weekend for free. And no, I’m not a MIL.

And you're obviously not a person who can read with comprehension.

[Anonymous]

I can’t believe this thread is still going with people defending MIL. She opened mail not addressed to her while staying in someone else’s home, found candy inside, and ate it. So rude and a major overstep.

It doesn’t matter if she was or wasn’t doing OP a favor. You can’t open people’s mail and consume the contents. This isn’t even about good manners, it’s just common sense (so I thought!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t understand people who argue that blatant boundary stepping like this should be excused “because MIL was doing you a favor.” So if someone does you a favor, you’re not allowed to be upset if they violate your privacy or cross boundaries? Where does it end? I swear, if a poster wrote that her MIL came over to babysit and while she was there used OP’s vibrator and had sex in her bed, there’d be someone on here arguing that next time OP should leave it out for her with some chocolates on the pillow.

Truly! People, you can’t behave like animals just because you perceive yourself to be doing someone a favor!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:F your FIL as revenge.

<record player needle scratch>

Omg in 11 years on DCUM I have never laughed so hard.

Me too. Can’t stop laughing now.🤣

[Anonymous]

I would get her that chocolate every year for birthdays and Christmas. Just that every year, nothing else. I mean, clearly she likes it so much if she allowed herself to open and eat your present.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s the lack of boundaries that is bothering me—opening a package addressed to me is beyond. This will be her last time watching my kids without me around. She will never be alone in our house again. She has proven to be nosy and meddlesome and snoop-y before; this is the last straw.

Luckily we have no shortage of babysitters. My local aunt, my parents, my cousin, friends with whom we already swap overnight sitting duties, and a few trusted former daycare teachers. We didn’t need the “favor” from her; this was a way for she and FIL to spend quality time with the kids, which they ask for.

Oh well. She can’t be trusted alone in my house, so she never will be again.

My mom would do something like this. The problem is, when you assert your position on the matter, she will make you out to be petty and selfish. What, it's chocolate! It's meant to be shared. What kind of person wouldn't give her mil, who is doing a nice thing for you, a piece of chocolate?!

See what I mean? It won't matter that she opened your mail, she'll make it sound like there was a box of chocolates on the counter she assumed she could have some.

But what can you do?

[Anonymous]

Did you express your anger about this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's rude of her but you are overreacting. Surely she left some for you, right? And wouldn't you have offered to share since they were at your house anyway?

There is no but, here. MIL was INCREDIBLY rude and way overstepped her boundaries. You do not open someone else packages in their own home. WTF, PP?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s the lack of boundaries that is bothering me—opening a package addressed to me is beyond. This will be her last time watching my kids without me around. She will never be alone in our house again. She has proven to be nosy and meddlesome and snoop-y before; this is the last straw.

Luckily we have no shortage of babysitters. My local aunt, my parents, my cousin, friends with whom we already swap overnight sitting duties, and a few trusted former daycare teachers. We didn’t need the “favor” from her; this was a way for she and FIL to spend quality time with the kids, which they ask for.

Oh well. She can’t be trusted alone in my house, so she never will be again.

My mom would do something like this. The problem is, when you assert your position on the matter, she will make you out to be petty and selfish. What, it's chocolate! It's meant to be shared. What kind of person wouldn't give her mil, who is doing a nice thing for you, a piece of chocolate?!

See what I mean? It won't matter that she opened your mail, she'll make it sound like there was a box of chocolates on the counter she assumed she could have some.

But what can you do?

"Mom, it doesn't matter if it's just chocolate. It was not addressed to you. You grossly overstepped."

I may throw in there, "what if it was a vibrator?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did you express your anger about this?

This thread is over a year old. Hopefully OP has moved on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here. It’s the lack of boundaries that is bothering me—opening a package addressed to me is beyond. This will be her last time watching my kids without me around. She will never be alone in our house again. She has proven to be nosy and meddlesome and snoop-y before; this is the last straw.

Luckily we have no shortage of babysitters. My local aunt, my parents, my cousin, friends with whom we already swap overnight sitting duties, and a few trusted former daycare teachers. We didn’t need the “favor” from her; this was a way for she and FIL to spend quality time with the kids, which they ask for.

Oh well. She can’t be trusted alone in my house, so she never will be again.

I don't understand. Your parents are local and can babysit? Why the hell are they sending your hometown chocolates by mail to you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Did OP ever say the name of the chocolate company? Help this small business out OP by naming them.

OP is a troll. There are no chocolates. Her story changes. Sometimes her parents are mailing her chocolates from her home town, and sometimes they are available to babysit. Which is it?