White people who claim minority status bc their spouse is a minority?

[Anonymous]

It’s weird that she would call herself a minority. I am a minority and my DH is white (blond, blue eyes). My kids favor the minority side (dark haired, darker skin). It never occurred to DH to consider himself a minority. My kids identify more with their minority side (culturally), but consider themselves mixed race.

[Anonymous]

As a white, Catholic woman married to a white, Jewish man - your friend is nuts. Of course my DH would never call himself a minority either, so . . .

[Anonymous]

I mean… my white husband is married to Asian me but that doesn’t make him Asian now. However, it does make him part of an Asian family as his kids are now Asian too. But no way would he ever claim to be a minority himself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I mean… my white husband is married to Asian me but that doesn’t make him Asian now. However, it does make him part of an Asian family as his kids are now Asian too. But no way would he ever claim to be a minority himself.

+1 My DH is a POC and our children look mixed. One identifies as his minority race and one identifies as white like me. I am definitely not a minority but our children are.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:50% of the billionaires in the US are Jewish.

Does that count the non-Jewish wives of Jews though?

Does a Jewish billionaire married to another Jew count as one Jewish billionaire or two?

I don’t think a spouse would be included in the rich list unless they were an independent billionaire themselves. Bezos’s ex wife wasn’t on the rich list until post divorce.

Which was just rank misogyny considering she was Amazon’s cofounder.

No, she wasn't, any more than Einstein's wife was the co-discoverer of the Theory of Relativity.

[Anonymous]

There's no box to check for Jewish as a "race" or "ethnicity" on any form. I doubt that's what she meant and she just misspoke. Maybe she meant to say that her family belongs to a small percentage of the population, thus a minority in another sense, like minority religious group, that has been the target of hate crimes, bias, etc.

[Anonymous]

Your friend can be as deluded as she wants, doesn't matter. Anyone can check any box or not check the box OP.

Stop wasting oxygen, or trolling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP here and to reiterate: she did not convert, she and her DH are both white. Sorry, I don’t mean to harp on this but the more I think about this, the more it bothers me.

I think part of it is that as a white Jew, I’ve have to navigate having both white privileged and facing oppression as a minority. So it was especially weird to me to hear this white woman who I don’t think of as a minority acting like somehow she is not privileged all of a sudden? It felt like she was revealing a loophole she’d just discovered.

You sound insufferable. The kind of person who finds something wrong with everything.

I know they are a troll when they bring up that fake privilege b.s.

[Anonymous]

There isn't anything concrete to gain (advantages in real life) by OP's friend claiming this minority status so why would you care so much?

[Anonymous]

To quote Bill Burr, white women have somehow managed to swing their Gucci booted foot over the rope of oppression and go to the front of the line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine who married a (white) Jewish guy told me this week that she considers herself a minority now.

She is white, raised Catholic, born in the US to white parents also born in the US. She did not convert to Judaism when they married and does not intend to (considers herself an atheist).

She says his minority status applies to her now because they are a “mixed-ethnicity” couple, and because their kids will be Jewish.

What am I missing here? This seems insane to me. If I were her spouse I’d find it personally offensive. Is this something other people do?? Have never heard of it before.

In addition to the whole idea being ridiculous, the bolded is actually incorrect since she isn't Jewish on any level, hasn't converted, etc. and Judaism is usually a matrilineal descent situation. Her kids are white American kids with an atheist mom and what sounds like a non-observant Jewish dad.

If they're raising their kids in the faith, great for them, but it doesn't change the way these things work. You don't get to adopt the ethnicity of the person you marry. My husband is ethnically different than me, and while I completely agree that his ethnicity has been transmitted to our kids, who are darker than me (like him) and have more physical ethnic features of his people and fewer of mine, I am not suddenly magically the same ethnicity as him because we are married. I remain a white American woman of Scandinavian descent.

[Anonymous]

Agree that it's not clear what it gets her to claim this "minority" status. Being Jewish in America is not helpful for any sort of affirmative action or diversity programs. All it gets you is hate crimes and undeserved ire from the conspiracy theorists on the extreme right and left. So I would give her the benefit of the doubt that she is just trying to express that she feels like part of the community.

My husband is Latino and I do feel a connection to that community through him and our two boys, and I feel like to some extent, issues that affect them affect me as well.

Of course, I would obviously never claim that makes me Latina or gives me some kind of minority status (I am white). Actually, one of my considerations in not taking his last name was that it would make people think I was Latina and that might lead to weird situations where I was a diversity candidate for a job or something. I look white, but so do lots of Hispanic people.

[Anonymous]

Your friend is weird. Few normal people do this, and it's not worth worrying about. Just nod your head and move on.

[Anonymous]

I am Catholic married to a Jewish man, we are both white, no one converted.

1. His family would not consider our child Jewish so many of the people she encounters may not consider her children Jewish.
2. The most she should say/think is that there will be a antisemites who would absolutely target her children and so she should be vigilant on that issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:50% of the billionaires in the US are Jewish.

Does that count the non-Jewish wives of Jews though?

Does a Jewish billionaire married to another Jew count as one Jewish billionaire or two?

I don’t think a spouse would be included in the rich list unless they were an independent billionaire themselves. Bezos’s ex wife wasn’t on the rich list until post divorce.

Which was just rank misogyny considering she was Amazon’s cofounder.

Right, misogyny. If she were that involved with the company you would have heard about it. They would have done a cover story on her even before one on Bezos himself.