White people who claim minority status bc their spouse is a minority?

[Anonymous]

If she converted I guess so?

[Anonymous]

My spouse is a minority and my kids are mixed. It’s involved more exposure to racism and oppression than I expected to be honest. I say we are a “non white family.”

[Anonymous]

That seems weird. I think being family with minorities certainly gives you a perspective that you may not have moving through the world in a completely white Christian bubble (eg if she experienced discrimination based on a Jewish coded last name she now uses) but that doesn’t make her actually a minority? Unless she’s taking minority of couple types; I think interfaith couples are technically a minority?

[Anonymous]

OP here and to reiterate: she did not convert, she and her DH are both white. Sorry, I don’t mean to harp on this but the more I think about this, the more it bothers me.

I think part of it is that as a white Jew, I’ve have to navigate having both white privileged and facing oppression as a minority. So it was especially weird to me to hear this white woman who I don’t think of as a minority acting like somehow she is not privileged all of a sudden? It felt like she was revealing a loophole she’d just discovered.

[Anonymous]

Oh and she did not take his name so unless you happen to know her DH’s last name, there is nothing about her that reads as Jewish.

[Anonymous]

Do you feel better now that you got a bunch of random internet people to trash your “friend”?

[Anonymous]

Where exactly is she “ claiming minority status”?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine who married a (white) Jewish guy told me this week that she considers herself a minority now.

She is white, raised Catholic, born in the US to white parents also born in the US. She did not convert to Judaism when they married and does not intend to (considers herself an atheist).

She says his minority status applies to her now because they are a “mixed-ethnicity” couple, and because their kids will be Jewish.

What am I missing here? This seems insane to me. If I were her spouse I’d find it personally offensive. Is this something other people do?? Have never heard of it before.

Um. Jews are white though they (we) are a minority religion. I’m not sure what it means for her to have vicarious “minority status.” Where does she think this applies?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine who married a (white) Jewish guy told me this week that she considers herself a minority now.

She is white, raised Catholic, born in the US to white parents also born in the US. She did not convert to Judaism when they married and does not intend to (considers herself an atheist).

She says his minority status applies to her now because they are a “mixed-ethnicity” couple, and because their kids will be Jewish.

What am I missing here? This seems insane to me. If I were her spouse I’d find it personally offensive. Is this something other people do?? Have never heard of it before.

Um. Jews are white though they (we) are a minority religion. I’m not sure what it means for her to have vicarious “minority status.” Where does she think this applies?

Sorry, I meant, many white Jews are white and assuming OP’s spouse is white, they are white Jews. Of course, there are also Jews of Color, but one doesn’t gain that “status” by marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and to reiterate: she did not convert, she and her DH are both white. Sorry, I don’t mean to harp on this but the more I think about this, the more it bothers me.

I think part of it is that as a white Jew, I’ve have to navigate having both white privileged and facing oppression as a minority. So it was especially weird to me to hear this white woman who I don’t think of as a minority acting like somehow she is not privileged all of a sudden? It felt like she was revealing a loophole she’d just discovered.

You sound insufferable. The kind of person who finds something wrong with everything.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here and to reiterate: she did not convert, she and her DH are both white. Sorry, I don’t mean to harp on this but the more I think about this, the more it bothers me.

I think part of it is that as a white Jew, I’ve have to navigate having both white privileged and facing oppression as a minority. So it was especially weird to me to hear this white woman who I don’t think of as a minority acting like somehow she is not privileged all of a sudden? It felt like she was revealing a loophole she’d just discovered.

Everyone is privileged. There is choice and rich privilege. White privilege does not exist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well this thread will go well…

Lol, yes, some people are so bored…

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A friend of mine who married a (white) Jewish guy told me this week that she considers herself a minority now.

She is white, raised Catholic, born in the US to white parents also born in the US. She did not convert to Judaism when they married and does not intend to (considers herself an atheist).

She says his minority status applies to her now because they are a “mixed-ethnicity” couple, and because their kids will be Jewish.

What am I missing here? This seems insane to me. If I were her spouse I’d find it personally offensive. Is this something other people do?? Have never heard of it before.

Who cares?

[Anonymous]

She’s not “a minority,” nor is her husband, nor are you OP.

[Anonymous]

But according to many Jews her kids aren’t even Jewish since she - their mother- isn’t. Would her kids have return rights to Israel?