Concerned About Wife’s Pregnancy Weight

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Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

So your pan is what? Force her to eat so she feels uncomfortamble and gets sick?

Her meals are healthy. OP is the nut job here. Hopefully she leaves him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

That is not enough food. I eat more than that when I’m not pregnant. I would do as PP suggested and add in butter to things like eggs or oatmeal, add olive oil to pasta, add oil to veggies, etc. Get full fat diary.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your wife has an eating disorder and now you are worried about it?!?!

You can't be supportive just now because of the baby. She won't listen/trust you because you liked how nice and slim she was when not pregnant. You are messed up and not helping her with her mental issues either. Get the doctors involved now, shut your trap and make sure postpartum she is healthy. She needs support from people who aren't you.

OP here. I never really noticed it. I have dated plenty of BBW women and don’t need a skinny woman. She has always been eating healthy and good amount. She’s small. I’m more concerned now because it’s a problem now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

That is not enough food. I eat more than that when I’m not pregnant. I would do as PP suggested and add in butter to things like eggs or oatmeal, add olive oil to pasta, add oil to veggies, etc. Get full fat diary.

That is actually enough food, you likle overreat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So your wife has an eating disorder and now you are worried about it?!?!

You can't be supportive just now because of the baby. She won't listen/trust you because you liked how nice and slim she was when not pregnant. You are messed up and not helping her with her mental issues either. Get the doctors involved now, shut your trap and make sure postpartum she is healthy. She needs support from people who aren't you.

OP here. I never really noticed it. I have dated plenty of BBW women and don’t need a skinny woman. She has always been eating healthy and good amount. She’s small. I’m more concerned now because it’s a problem now.

Definitely trolling.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:My friend who had an eating disorder in college only gained 18 pounds with both of her pregnancies. Healthy babies. I think she still has food issues.

Both pregnancies prompted comments from her OB to eat more/gain more. But she ended up with babies weighing 7-8lbs.

OP here. The baby is doing well and is measuring fine. Slightly smaller for a boy but the doctor isn’t concerned.

I think it is food issues. I want to see if she will see a therapist but I don’t want to make her feel bad about it. I know she has issues from past weight gain. She has worked really hard to get her body into shape at a point she felt happy about and then we got pregnant. She had told me she doesn’t plan to breastfeed because she would like to lose the weight quickly and you can’t diet while breastfeeding.

Going to call troll now. There's been a poster who has obsession with posting about pregnant or postpartum women and how much say their husbands should have in things like selecting the OB, breastfeeding, and now weight gain.

If not a troll I feel very sorry for his wife.

OP here. I’m not a troll. Why should you feel sorry for my wife when all I want to do is ensure the safety of her and our baby? I don’t post about any of those other topics on anything. I haven’t cared about who her doctor is or if she breastfeeds. I do care that she has a healthy pregnancy and making sure she does is part of my responsibility as a partner and soon to be parent. I have never said anything or commented about her weight before pregnancy. It’s very different when her health and that of our baby is important.

Yeah, you're definately " the dad has a say" poster.

You again? Resident troll poster on everything thread to call people “trolls” and stir up drama. Go somewhere else. Things would be so much easier if everyone minded their own business. Don’t like the thread? Go to another one. It’s that simple.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So your wife has an eating disorder and now you are worried about it?!?!

You can't be supportive just now because of the baby. She won't listen/trust you because you liked how nice and slim she was when not pregnant. You are messed up and not helping her with her mental issues either. Get the doctors involved now, shut your trap and make sure postpartum she is healthy. She needs support from people who aren't you.

OP here. I never really noticed it. I have dated plenty of BBW women and don’t need a skinny woman. She has always been eating healthy and good amount. She’s small. I’m more concerned now because it’s a problem now.

Definitely trolling.

OP here. Plenty of men like BBW but okay. Last girlfriend was about 20lbs overweight and my college girlfriend was very curvy. I don’t like obese but a couple of extra lbs pounds comes with the territory when you like curves and big t*ts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

That is not enough food. I eat more than that when I’m not pregnant. I would do as PP suggested and add in butter to things like eggs or oatmeal, add olive oil to pasta, add oil to veggies, etc. Get full fat diary.

That is actually enough food, you likle overreat.

+1. I plugged it into an app and that’s about 1300 calories. A little low but not that bad.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So your wife has an eating disorder and now you are worried about it?!?!

You can't be supportive just now because of the baby. She won't listen/trust you because you liked how nice and slim she was when not pregnant. You are messed up and not helping her with her mental issues either. Get the doctors involved now, shut your trap and make sure postpartum she is healthy. She needs support from people who aren't you.

OP here. I never really noticed it. I[b] have dated plenty of BBW women and don’t need a skinny woman. [/b]She has always been eating healthy and good amount. She’s small. I’m more concerned now because it’s a problem now.

Definitely trolling.

OP here. Plenty of men like BBW but okay. Last girlfriend was about 20lbs overweight and my college girlfriend was very curvy. I don’t like obese but a couple of extra lbs pounds comes with the territory when you like curves and big t*ts.

The reason you are trolling is no man who was legitimately concerned about his wife's health or the health of his baby would post either of the bolded comments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

That is not enough food. I eat more than that when I’m not pregnant. I would do as PP suggested and add in butter to things like eggs or oatmeal, add olive oil to pasta, add oil to veggies, etc. Get full fat diary.

That is actually enough food, you likle overreat.

+1. I plugged it into an app and that’s about 1300 calories. A little low but not that bad.

She could probably swap the cucumbers for something a little more calorie-dense and maybe add a smoothie or two, but if she feels full, she feels full, and on top of that she like has heartburn like many pregnant women. She needs to see an OB who can treat the whole person, and not just look at numbers and stats and specifically someone experienced with patients who previously lost a significant amount of weight.

[Anonymous]

Your OB would tell her if she needed to gain.
My second pregnancy I gained nothing at 20 weeks. I got yelled at for not gaining enough. I said it would come on later...it did.

My first pregnancy...my ex would not leave me alone about gaining weight and I gained 15 lbs my first trimester. I got yelled at for gaining too much. I gained 50 lbs I did not need to gain that pregnancy because my ex was on me all the time. I was very thin to start with.

Her body will gain what she needs to gain. Relax.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:So your wife has an eating disorder and now you are worried about it?!?!

You can't be supportive just now because of the baby. She won't listen/trust you because you liked how nice and slim she was when not pregnant. You are messed up and not helping her with her mental issues either. Get the doctors involved now, shut your trap and make sure postpartum she is healthy. She needs support from people who aren't you.

Love reading these frothing at the mouth ghetto responses.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So your wife has an eating disorder and now you are worried about it?!?!

You can't be supportive just now because of the baby. She won't listen/trust you because you liked how nice and slim she was when not pregnant. You are messed up and not helping her with her mental issues either. Get the doctors involved now, shut your trap and make sure postpartum she is healthy. She needs support from people who aren't you.

Love reading these frothing at the mouth ghetto responses.

Ghetto?

[Anonymous]

It’s crazy that a man having concern for his wife and his unborn child is now called “ troll” and that he’s over stepping. It’s his child and he has every right to make sure his child is healthy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What does she eat in a day? Give us a look into her diet.

OP here. She does eat. She was using app at first to make sure she was getting adequate nutrient level which is how I know how much she eats. I cook most of our meals.

She ate today

Bk: 1 scrambled eggs, 1 piece of whole grain toast, and half of a banana
Snack: 100 calorie pack nuts
Lunch: Salad with veggies and grilled chicken and avocado
Snack: about 2tbsp is hummus with some cucumbers
Dinner: Pasta. About a cup of pasta and sauce with a little of Parmesan cheese

She doesn’t eat anything big for snacks and doesn’t eye anything for about 3 hours before bed because it makes her full. Some days she will chug water as snacks if she had too big of a meal or heavy like pasta for lunch.

That is not enough food. I eat more than that when I’m not pregnant. I would do as PP suggested and add in butter to things like eggs or oatmeal, add olive oil to pasta, add oil to veggies, etc. Get full fat diary.

That is actually enough food, you likle overreat.

+1. I plugged it into an app and that’s about 1300 calories. A little low but not that bad.

She could probably swap the cucumbers for something a little more calorie-dense and maybe add a smoothie or two, but if she feels full, she feels full, and on top of that she like has heartburn like many pregnant women. She needs to see an OB who can treat the whole person, and not just look at numbers and stats and specifically someone experienced with patients who previously lost a significant amount of weight.

+1. Her meals, while small, are nutrient dense and seem good. I would add in a couple more snacks like yogurt or cheese. She can swap out veggies for crackers or pair her nuts with some yogurt.