Is it possible to be addicted to a person?
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Anonymous
| I really need to get away from my fwb. We have this strange relationship. I have feelings for him but I don't know how to describe it. He is not a good guy though. He's very closed and distant. He lies to me. It's gotten to the point where I really don't like talking to him anymore. He's very negative and always seems unhappy and a little angry. Plus, I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm fat. He never compliments my body, whereas my last bf went on about it constantly and made me feel sexy and hot. The problem is, fwb turns me onnnn. How do I keep away from him? I think he might be a toxic person. |
Anonymous
| He is a club that doesn't want you as a member. Therefore you crave it. |
Anonymous
| How can he turn you on if he doesn't even seem to think you are attractive? |
Anonymous
Because he's attractive. He desires me, I just have this feeling he'd prefer a different body type. But for me, just looking in his eyes and listening to him talk sets off this electric reaction. I think he gets turned on by how much I want him. |
Anonymous
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His attraction to you is that you're an easy lay. That's it. He has zero respect for you.
If that's OK with you and that's all you expect, then have at it. But it seems like you're looking for more. You're not going to get it from him. |
Anonymous
| Yes you can be. I had a fwb that was a shitty person and I couldn't pull myself away from him. I finally moved 500 miles away but every time I go home to visit I still want him. |
Anonymous
| Yes, Narcissus, keep looking in the mirror. |
Anonymous
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Of course. I also had a FWB exactly like you describe. Not a good person, but sexy as hell. First of all, the lies are deal breakers. You don't know where he's sticking his dick. Seriously, I learned my lesson. Begin to change your thinking...he isn't sexy. He is dead inside, crawling with gross diseases. You get it. Soon you will only feel pity for such a sad human being.
That or pick up some other guy at a club to get over him. |
Anonymous
| Yes. I had an fwb like that. He just wasn't a good guy but the sex was so intense. He was extremely hot and would do nasty stuff to me like f*ck me up against my car. He had a huge dick too. You could say I became addickted. Lol. |
Anonymous
| Do we all have the same FWB? 28, green eyes, black hair? Ha that would be awkward. |
Anonymous
Haha, I'm the op and that's not my fwb you're describing. The sex against the car sounds hot though! |
Anonymous
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Addiction is a physical process in which the brain chemistry is changed. So the technical answer to your question is no.
This person fulfills some need for you. People who don't give us what we want tend to keep us coming back because we think we can somehow find that thing that makes them reward us. Give it up, OP. |
Anonymous
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I felt like this once with a FWB. He is still the best lover I've ever had. Start telling him "no" and he may pull it together. He may just walk too, but it's worth the risk.
I didn't follow this advice until I was disappointed and hurt with his bulllshit. It did a number on me. Don't go down that road. |
Anonymous
What happened when you cut him off? Is he married today? |
Anonymous
It was! We almost got busted too! There were peolpe walking to their cars and he just covered my mouth and kept going. It still raises my pulse just thinkng about it. |