Is it possible to be addicted to a person?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I really need to get away from my fwb. We have this strange relationship. I have feelings for him but I don't know how to describe it. He is not a good guy though. He's very closed and distant. He lies to me. It's gotten to the point where I really don't like talking to him anymore. He's very negative and always seems unhappy and a little angry. Plus, I'm pretty sure he thinks I'm fat. He never compliments my body, whereas my last bf went on about it constantly and made me feel sexy and hot. The problem is, fwb turns me onnnn. How do I keep away from him? I think he might be a toxic person.

What always amazes me is how women like you will be treated like crap, but a good guy, not a nice guy who is needy and desperate, but a man who has it together will have no appeal for you.

It's not as if nice guys are falling from the treetops, you know.

[Anonymous]

Break that spell. You do it now, or wait until he does something more hurtful. That's when the fantasy breaks, but you still want that acceptance. It's normal. It's natural. But it won't ever happen.

There are good guys out there. Feeling accepted for who you are feels a million times better than an addiction to an asshole. I promise. My guy showed up as soon as I started taking better care of myself. No one good is going to notice you if you're doing self-destructive things and putting up with bulllshit. It affects your confidence and its obvious.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Definitely! Especially if the sex is HOT!

[Anonymous]

My wife is addicted to her affair partner. Ugh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My wife is addicted to her affair partner. Ugh.

Wow, that sounds like a story. Want to share?

[Anonymous]

Somehow very few of the characteristics of these sexually addictive guys seems to have made it into the thread asking women what men can do to be more attractive.

It's as if women recognize that a lot of the qualities that make a man sexy to them are destructive; so they don't want to be forthright about the subject.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Somehow very few of the characteristics of these sexually addictive guys seems to have made it into the thread asking women what men can do to be more attractive.

It's as if women recognize that a lot of the qualities that make a man sexy to them are destructive; so they don't want to be forthright about the subject.

No, he didn't act this way when the "friendship" began. He was attentive, engaged. He listened to me and remembered things about my life. He complimented me. He called me. Things have changed and I'm not sure why. At this point it's a decision of waiting to see if they get better again or moving on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is addicted to her affair partner. Ugh.

Wow, that sounds like a story. Want to share?

Just tough to get over him. She's been unfriendly to me after I caught her and she cut it off.

[Anonymous]

You just have to decide when the bad outweighs the good so much so that you are no longer attracted.

I had a fwb in my 20s for a couple years. Physically he was amazing. I whacked off all the time thinking about his body and face. I could come without him even doing anything. Which was fortunate because his penis was practically a mushroom cap. That's an exaggeration. I can tell you exactly how big he was because when I wrapped my hand around him I couldn't move my hand up and down.... So 3 inches.

I had to get it through my head I didn't want to have sex with him again ( only attempted once and it went well for him but I'm a small person and it was still a definite hotdog/hallway situation) and I couldn't base a relationship on oral only.... Even for him....I knew fundamentally I'd jump on the first big dick I saw after a few years of that. so when I fully got that I ended it. Oh. He was also not terribly sharp and kind of a jerk, but again I think the jerk thing was compensation and I like guys w good self esteem.

I would start to picture the dumb things he would say when I'd wack off and honestly it was like aversion therapy. You should try this. I No longer got turned on by him.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Do we all have the same FWB? 28, green eyes, black hair? Ha that would be awkward.

Haha, I'm the op and that's not my fwb you're describing. The sex against the car sounds hot though!

It was! We almost got busted too! There were peolpe walking to their cars and he just covered my mouth and kept going. It still raises my pulse just thinkng about it.

Omg I had an ex like this-loved it. I'd go crazy when he'd cover my mouth and dog me!! Glad I'm not the only dirty bird. ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is addicted to her affair partner. Ugh.

Wow, that sounds like a story. Want to share?

Just tough to get over him. She's been unfriendly to me after I caught her and she cut it off.

why are you staying in the marriage? throw her out and kick the crap out of the other guy.

[Anonymous]

All of you nasty fuckers are one wet slip away from getting genital herpes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All of you nasty fuckers are one wet slip away from getting genital herpes.

Angry about your genital warts again, grandpa?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My wife is addicted to her affair partner. Ugh.

Wow, that sounds like a story. Want to share?

Just tough to get over him. She's been unfriendly to me after I caught her and she cut it off.

why are you staying in the marriage? throw her out and kick the crap out of the other guy.

We have kids and a good home otherwise. She pointed out my failings that drove her and I kind of see them. We are in couples and individual therapy. I haven't ruled out divorce but I don't want to make any hasty decisions. A lifetime is a long time and I am hoping we can get over this as a blip. Remains to be seen.