Mudderella?

[Anonymous]

A woman recently joined my group of friends and acquaintances. She is 39, divorced, single, no kids. She is a larger woman. I am a petite woman. She sometimes frightens me.

She has convinced a couple of the other women in our circle of friends to pay money and drive more than an hour distance to participate in these Mudderella-type obstacle courses, where you crawl through mud and climb walls. It looks painful to me and not fun at all.

I would not be so concerned, except that it feels like she is a bully. She has begun ostracizing me from the group because I don't train with them or participate in these muddy obstacle courses. I feel like it is middle school all over again, and I am the last one picked for teams on the playground. Except when I was in school, I was into dancing and not sports. I was never very athletic or good at sports, so her taunts of me actually hurt my feelings. I even told her that, which seemed to make her bully me even more.

My group of friends has actually started to break up into two different groups because of this one lady and her muddy races and obstacle courses. The group doing the Mudderella stuff is starting to become obnoxious and mean girl-ish.

When she starts making fun of me in public, I am a bit taken aback by it. I am around 5'4" and weigh about 125 lbs. I am fit and active, but I don't enjoy training for races and muddy obstacle courses. She says things like, "Do you have to stop and do stomach crunches?"

Any one else have experienced with this type of woman and muddy obstacle courses?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:A woman recently joined my group of friends and acquaintances. She is 39, divorced, single, no kids. She is a larger woman. I am a petite woman. She sometimes frightens me.

She has convinced a couple of the other women in our circle of friends to pay money and drive more than an hour distance to participate in these Mudderella-type obstacle courses, where you crawl through mud and climb walls. It looks painful to me and not fun at all.

I would not be so concerned, except that it feels like she is a bully. She has begun ostracizing me from the group because I don't train with them or participate in these muddy obstacle courses. I feel like it is middle school all over again, and I am the last one picked for teams on the playground. Except when I was in school, I was into dancing and not sports. I was never very athletic or good at sports, so her taunts of me actually hurt my feelings. I even told her that, which seemed to make her bully me even more.

My group of friends has actually started to break up into two different groups because of this one lady and her muddy races and obstacle courses. The group doing the Mudderella stuff is starting to become obnoxious and mean girl-ish.

When she starts making fun of me in public, I am a bit taken aback by it. I am around 5'4" and weigh about 125 lbs. I am fit and active, but I don't enjoy training for races and muddy obstacle courses. She says things like, "Do you have to stop and do stomach crunches?"

Any one else have experienced with this type of woman and muddy obstacle courses?

You lost me at your first paragraph. It's entirely possible that you're not being ostracized because you don't want to do these obstacle courses, but because you're stuck-up bitch. A petite one, but a bitch nonetheless.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes friendships change, there isn't much you can do if your friends prefer the activities this woman does.

[Anonymous]

You definitely sound like you're in middle school.

[Anonymous]

It sounds like you should hang out with people who don't like to do sports.

[Anonymous]

Sorry op, you come across as the bitchy one Can't say I blame your friends for being done with you.

[Anonymous]

The muddy obstacle courses are all they talk about. I have never heard of them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The muddy obstacle courses are all they talk about. I have never heard of them.

Have you tried one? If all your friends are suddenly so into them maybe you will like them too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The muddy obstacle courses are all they talk about. I have never heard of them.

Have you tried one? If all your friends are suddenly so into them maybe you will like them too.

But Op is too petite. Not like an ogre like the other person.

[Anonymous]

I don't even understand the taunt of "do you have to stop and do crunches?"

[Anonymous]

OP I agree with you that they're stupid events, and they attract a wider range of fitness levels because they don't require a person to be very fit to compete in them.

But but but...you need to be confident in your decision not to participate. If you're feeling left out you can always say: "It's not my thing but I'd love to be there to cheer you on."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The muddy obstacle courses are all they talk about. I have never heard of them.

Have you tried one? If all your friends are suddenly so into them maybe you will like them too.

But Op is too petite. Not like an ogre like the other person.

I forgot! She only reminded us twice.

[Anonymous]

You know your friends didn't like you as much as you thought if this could happen, right? Work on developing new friendships.
You aren't a child, you aren't being bullied because she is 'bigger' and you are 'petite'. It seems this has taken you back to a child-like place but remember, you are an adult now! You have choices here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The muddy obstacle courses are all they talk about. I have never heard of them.

You seem very stuck on this. It's not a big deal. I have a group of friends- some of them like these obstacle courses and some don't. when they asked me to join, I said no. And everything is still fine and normal. The obstacle courses are not what is tearing your friend group apart- clearly there were already some divisions in the first place. Shift your focus.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The muddy obstacle courses are all they talk about. I have never heard of them.

Have you tried one? If all your friends are suddenly so into them maybe you will like them too.

But Op is too petite. Not like an ogre like the other person.

Thanks for making me chuckle

OP, really? Sheeesh!