My feelings are hurt ...

[Anonymous]

This is such a minor thing, but I'm still hurt. I'm married to a man who loves thin, thin women. I have fluctuated in weight over the years, but for the last two years, had managed to maintain a size zero and he constantly told me how hot I was. Over the past eight months, I've put on a bunch of weight due to a medication change. I'm still thinnish (size 6, bordering on 8 at 5'7"), but I'm not even close to what he likes best. He knows that for the last two years before the weight gain I'd been a size XS or XXS and that everything else hung off me because I was so thin. He ordered my Christmas present using my Amazon Prime account (so I got the shipping info) and it is a beautiful cashmere sweater in size M - which for this maker is 10-12. It will dwarf me even at this weight. I feel like he's intentionally sending me a message that he noticed that I gained weight, and thinks it's way too much, but maybe I am paranoid. Am I being oversensitive?

[Anonymous]

I just can't even tonight.

[Incognita]

Or..... He knows you aren't a S anymore so went one size up? Ijs

[Anonymous]

Are you serious? He probably bought you something in your new size (how would he know that manufacturer runs big?) precisely so you would not feel bad trying to squeeze into something that doesn't fit.
He did the right thing. Stop looking for things to be upset about.

[Anonymous]

You have a body image disorder and are blaming your husband for it rather than addressing your insecurities.

[Anonymous]

Okay, okay. I will give him the benefit of the doubt. It's just that I have had to hear so much commentary over our fourteen years together about how hot I am at size XXS and then the deafening silence at anything over that. He has been silent for a long time now, and he straight up said, "I don't know what to get you; what do you want?" (Never a problem when I'm rail thin; he loves to dress me up then.) I said "I like cashmere sweaters" and then he used my own account to order one, knowing I'd get the receipt. I know that M is ... M. But to him, M is huge. He has a serious fetish for waifish women. I've tried my best to stay like that for him, but I can't right now. I just feel like he is being passive aggressive (something he also has a history of) and telling me "Hey, I've noticed you gained a shit ton of weight" without actually saying it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are you serious? He probably bought you something in your new size (how would he know that manufacturer runs big?) precisely so you would not feel bad trying to squeeze into something that doesn't fit.
He did the right thing. Stop looking for things to be upset about.

This exactly. It sounds like you are much more upset about your size than he is. When I was in my 20s my mon would buy me size 4 clothes, which I hadn't worn since HS, and tell me it's for when I finally lose the weight. I am sure he did not check the size chart.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, okay. I will give him the benefit of the doubt. It's just that I have had to hear so much commentary over our fourteen years together about how hot I am at size XXS and then the deafening silence at anything over that. He has been silent for a long time now, and he straight up said, "I don't know what to get you; what do you want?" (Never a problem when I'm rail thin; he loves to dress me up then.) I said "I like cashmere sweaters" and then he used my own account to order one, knowing I'd get the receipt. I know that M is ... M. But to him, M is huge. He has a serious fetish for waifish women. I've tried my best to stay like that for him, but I can't right now. I just feel like he is being passive aggressive (something he also has a history of) and telling me "Hey, I've noticed you gained a shit ton of weight" without actually saying it.

OMG woman do you have issues. Dh too if what your saying is true. But honestly I bet its you assigning him this persona.

[Anonymous]

Im going to have to agree that you have serious issues. If i was your husband, i would be silent too. You are very extreme and paranoid.

[Anonymous]

He asked you what you wanted and he bought it. What size should he have bought?

[Anonymous]

You told him you wanted a cashmere sweater, so he gets you one in our current size but he's the asshole? I really don't get it.
Yes, he has a known preference for waifish women. Yes, he liked it a great deal that you were one. No, you aren't one right now. No, he doesn't like it as much as he did when you were. I get it, you feel insecure about it, but what do you want the man to do? He hasn't said anything or pressured you about your weight, I'm sure he knows it's medication related, so exactly what do you want from him? I'm sorry if that sounds harsh OP, but cut the guy a break.

[Anonymous]

Op, if he had gotten L, then you have something to cry about, but size M is for 6-8. If he had ordered S then you would also feel mad. You are setting him to fail on this one...sorry OP.

[Anonymous]

Oh my....no comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such a minor thing, but I'm still hurt. I'm married to a man who loves thin, thin women. I have fluctuated in weight over the years, but for the last two years, had managed to maintain a size zero and he constantly told me how hot I was. Over the past eight months, I've put on a bunch of weight due to a medication change. I'm still thinnish (size 6, bordering on 8 at 5'7"), but I'm not even close to what he likes best. He knows that for the last two years before the weight gain I'd been a size XS or XXS and that everything else hung off me because I was so thin. He ordered my Christmas present using my Amazon Prime account (so I got the shipping info) and it is a beautiful cashmere sweater in size M - which for this maker is 10-12. It will dwarf me even at this weight. I feel like he's intentionally sending me a message that he noticed that I gained weight, and thinks it's way too much, but maybe I am paranoid. Am I being oversensitive?

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clearly attention seeking behavior to post this.

My feelings are hurt. wah wah wah. I am like super hot but my BF told me that I was hot. What happened to the "super?" This post is a complete joke. You got responses and it feeds into your attention seeking behavior. Also, I dont believe a thing you wrote.

[Anonymous]

Time to get back on the cracker/water diet.

OH MY GOD. This has to be the stupidest shit ever.