My feelings are hurt ...

[Anonymous]

Oof I hope you don't have a daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oof I hope you don't have a daughter.

+1000, and the cycle will continue.....lets just add more girls/women to the world with fucked up body issues. I can't even believe people live like this

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay, okay. I will give him the benefit of the doubt. It's just that I have had to hear so much commentary over our fourteen years together about how hot I am at size XXS and then the deafening silence at anything over that. He has been silent for a long time now, and he straight up said, "I don't know what to get you; what do you want?" (Never a problem when I'm rail thin; he loves to dress me up then.) I said "I like cashmere sweaters" and then he used my own account to order one, knowing I'd get the receipt. I know that M is ... M. But to him, M is huge. He has a serious fetish for waifish women. I've tried my best to stay like that for him, but I can't right now. I just feel like he is being passive aggressive (something he also has a history of) and telling me "Hey, I've noticed you gained a shit ton of weight" without actually saying it.

Are you sure he isn't a pedo? Most men that have a fetish for waifish women really wish they were 12. That should be the real issue you are focusing on.

[Anonymous]

Therapy... now.

[Anonymous]

Wow, op, I feel sorry for you. If Dh is causing you to have these sad feelings over being a size MEDIUM at 5'7 then I think you need to find a new husband! Life is too short to spend obsessively counting calories and hating your body, and I say this as someone who has struggled with eating disorders for many years. I can tell you... Being on the other side and now being a medium at 5'5- it is so worth the time it took forcing myself to accept my body. I think you need to work on this, and maybe look into eating disorders and read up on them? Not everyone with an eating disorder is vomiting all the time and wasting away- it's about an obsessive mindset where you hate your body. And op, I really think you may qualify. Good luck, no matter what happens. I can't imagine having dealt with my eating issues with a guy around who was always wishing I was thinner, and prioritized his boner-getting abilities over my health.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oof I hope you don't have a daughter.

+1000, and the cycle will continue.....lets just add more girls/women to the world with fucked up body issues. I can't even believe people live like this

Yup.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, okay. I will give him the benefit of the doubt. It's just that I have had to hear so much commentary over our fourteen years together about how hot I am at size XXS and then the deafening silence at anything over that. He has been silent for a long time now, and he straight up said, "I don't know what to get you; what do you want?" (Never a problem when I'm rail thin; he loves to dress me up then.) I said "I like cashmere sweaters" and then he used my own account to order one, knowing I'd get the receipt. I know that M is ... M. But to him, M is huge. He has a serious fetish for waifish women. I've tried my best to stay like that for him, but I can't right now. I just feel like he is being passive aggressive (something he also has a history of) and telling me "Hey, I've noticed you gained a shit ton of weight" without actually saying it.

Are you sure he isn't a pedo? Most men that have a fetish for waifish women really wish they were 12. That should be the real issue you are focusing on.

Lol most bogus thing I've read on here. Pp must be quite the fatty.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Beat her down ? Her man is beating her down. And wanting her to starve.

I'd buy a big pullover sweater, put it on and commence to eating a whole pie plus some cheeseburgers right in front of Mr. I Love the Waif Look.

Then I'd tell loverboy to KISS MY FAT ASS !

X2.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, okay. I will give him the benefit of the doubt. It's just that I have had to hear so much commentary over our fourteen years together about how hot I am at size XXS and then the deafening silence at anything over that. He has been silent for a long time now, and he straight up said, "I don't know what to get you; what do you want?" (Never a problem when I'm rail thin; he loves to dress me up then.) I said "I like cashmere sweaters" and then he used my own account to order one, knowing I'd get the receipt. I know that M is ... M. But to him, M is huge. He has a serious fetish for waifish women. I've tried my best to stay like that for him, but I can't right now. I just feel like he is being passive aggressive (something he also has a history of) and telling me "Hey, I've noticed you gained a shit ton of weight" without actually saying it.

Are you sure he isn't a pedo? Most men that have a fetish for waifish women really wish they were 12. That should be the real issue you are focusing on.

I was thinking the same. Size xs on 5'7 would be thin as a rail and flat as a board, very similar to a little girl's body. What hell to have to try to keep your body from it's natural, womanly shape

[Anonymous]

I thought he could be gay or bi as he wants a woman without a woman's body

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Okay, okay. I will give him the benefit of the doubt. It's just that I have had to hear so much commentary over our fourteen years together about how hot I am at size XXS and then the deafening silence at anything over that. He has been silent for a long time now, and he straight up said, "I don't know what to get you; what do you want?" (Never a problem when I'm rail thin; he loves to dress me up then.) I said "I like cashmere sweaters" and then he used my own account to order one, knowing I'd get the receipt. I know that M is ... M. But to him, M is huge. He has a serious fetish for waifish women. I've tried my best to stay like that for him, but I can't right now. I just feel like he is being passive aggressive (something he also has a history of) and telling me "Hey, I've noticed you gained a shit ton of weight" without actually saying it.

Are you sure he isn't a pedo? Most men that have a fetish for waifish women really wish they were 12. That should be the real issue you are focusing on.

I was thinking the same. Size xs on 5'7 would be thin as a rail and flat as a board, very similar to a little girl's body. What hell to have to try to keep your body from it's natural, womanly shape

Yup

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought he could be gay or bi as he wants a woman without a woman's body

What I thought as well

[Anonymous]

Op, would you be attracted to a man with a protruding ribcage, who looked gaunt and little boyish? If not, you should seriously consider why this dude prefers that look on his wife. To me, there is something seriously off.

[Anonymous]

^exactly. As a bi woman I can say what attracts me to women is their feminine shape, the curve f their hips and all that. Someone who wants their partner to diet that away, in my option, would not be sexually interested in women.

[Anonymous]

We conclude that your mind is diseased OP.

At minimum you have very low self-esteem (who would deliberately starve themselves or years for someone else?).
At worse you actually have an eating disorder and are in denial.

The question is, is your husband diseased also? If what you say is true, his fetish is unhealthy for you and is rather creepy. We do not have enough to guess whether he just bought you what he thought you could wear, or whether he was sending you evil innuendo.

And I say this as a size 0 (used to be 00). But then I am Asian, fine-boned and 5'4". Dh has seen me put on a little weight and is fine with it.