Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:My husband and I both work, he's doing more of the chores and childcare right now because I'm 8 months pregnant with our second and I've reached the uncomfortable and always tired stage. With our first I handled the vast majority of night wake ups because I chose to breastfeed.
I of course handled all the house stuff when his mom got sick and he was with her for her surgeries and chemo.
It's not a constant bean counting thing, you have to be a team.
+1000
Your point also goes to the OP, which is that you need to be with someone who agrees to work with you on life. Guaranteed you'll be thrown a curveball or two, so the point to OP is that you need to find someone who understands your feelings on something but is also flexible enough to handle changes to that. I would never marry someone who said they would never let their wife work or they would definitely want a SAHM. Too many things could happen that could change that scenario, and being married to someone who has one rigid idea of how things go is a recipe for disaster.
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