8th grader who is 15?

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Anonymous wrote:presumably since this is a june post the child has a spring birthday and just turned 15. that is not weird or especially uncommon

Considering that most people don't turn 15 until the summer between 9th and 10th grade, this is exceptionally uncommon.

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“Most people” don’t have birthdays in June/July/August.

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Anonymous wrote:I had to hold my youngest back in kindergarten, he was diagnosed with dyslexia in first grade, I pulled him out at the beginning of 3rd and homeschooled him for three years, with a specialized program that my mother created for him, I put him back in school in 6th, and he was reading, writing, and comprehending on a college level by age 13. I just pulled him out for good in April and enrolled him in the GED program, because he's finished with school and knows more than the teachers. He's working and he'll be way ahead of his classmates by the time he's 18. He would have graduated just before turning 19, but he'd not benefit from those extra two years in school. If a kid knows more than their teachers, no point in letting it drag out. Better to be making money. You can enroll your child in the GED program at age 16 in my state. Schools do not tell parents about the GED program in my state, because you must withdraw from public to enter the program, and they lose funding. [/b]A GED does not hinder you in any way in your adult life[b]. If you're determined to make something of yourself, nothing can stop you. And yes, we reversed dyslexia. My mother should market her program, but she won't. He was also diagnosed with severe ADHD at age 6, but I worked hard with him and taught him to control himself without meds. Anything is possible if you try. Nothing is possible if you do not try. Holding children back is only beneficial for them when they are small. Jumping them ahead when they are ready to do so helps build self-esteem. My son is confident and sure of himself, because he's ahead of the game. Parents should work hard to educate their children at home, and not just depend on the schools to do it, because they need to be learning constantly. That's what we do in my family. We educate.

Depends on what he wants to do.

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Anonymous wrote:Look kids aren’t dumb, they figure it out and often attribute any supposed advantages (height, weight, muscle mass, etc.) that an older peer might have to their older age. Children are very focused on people’s ages in general, haven’t you noticed this? It’s one of the first things they ask.

My kid has a fall birthday. He was 13 throughout 8th grade. He took 3 ninth grade classes (4 if you include FL) and played on the JV tennis team. He’ll start on varsity this year. He’s aware that he’s younger than his peers and I think it adds to his confidence level that he keeps up rather than detracting from it. I remember being in 6th grade and thinking that the few kids who were a whole year older than us were the “dumb” or “slow” ones because they should have been in a higher grade.

Do what you want but, on the whole, I don’t think you are doing your kid any favors by holding them back.

There are several "held back" kids in my kids' grades. In no way are they outcasts, looked down on, or considered dumb or slow. They have as many friends as the rest and the kids may know their age but it's more like "How come he gets to be the first one to be 8" so all the doom and gloom doesn't exist at all from what I can see.

Maybe at 8 but kids become much shrewder and aware of how hierarchies work in the real world by middle school. Plus you don’t know what any of these kids privately think in their heads. It’s not like I announced my thoughts to anyone, I knew they were not “nice.” Just honest.

My brother, on the other hand, started K as a 4 year old and struggled a lot more academically, socially, etc. He should have been held back.

Your parents aren't alone in sending kids to school before they're ready. I made the exact same mistake. I sent my December-born son to Kindergarten at 4 and also struggled in school. Not only did he graduate high school without having taken any Calculus, but he also took 6 years to get his Bachelor's degree. To this day, I still regret not waiting a year. Had I waited a year, I just know he would've graduated college in the normal 4 years, and not experienced the humiliation of watching all his friends graduate before him.

He would have struggled regardless of the grade he was in and needed more help and support. Some kids aren’t math kids and you don’t need calculus in the real world. 6 years for college is absurd. There is clearly more going on than age.

You sound like a dick.

NP. Who knows. Once a child gets labeled as struggling or has a harder time, they can lose morale and momentum needed to keep up. It can absolutely change a child’s trajectory if they start school too early and aren’t ready

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Anonymous wrote:DD just mentioned a classmate is 15. Is that common around here?

Yes with illegal immigrants who never were in school anywhere before. They age out of high school at age 22 too, if they don’t drop out or do remedial HS at the county community college.

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Anonymous wrote:There was a news report on channel 7 of a HS student who was 20 in VA. He was arrested for video taping a girl who was taking shower. He was a Binky (many times I guess).

What’s a binky kid or student?

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Anonymous wrote:DD just mentioned a classmate is 15. Is that common around here?

Yes with illegal immigrants who never were in school anywhere before. They age out of high school at age 22 too, if they don’t drop out or do remedial HS at the county community college.

Uh, no. No way would any high school ever subject 16-and-17-year-olds to having 22-year-old classmates.

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Anonymous wrote:DD just mentioned a classmate is 15. Is that common around here?

Yes with illegal immigrants who never were in school anywhere before. They age out of high school at age 22 too, if they don’t drop out or do remedial HS at the county community college.

Uh, no. No way would any high school ever subject 16-and-17-year-olds to having 22-year-old classmates.

My newly turned 13 year old is in class with 14-16 year olds as they are all taking the same math class.

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My DC birthday is mid-Sept and the cut off was September 1st. We thought it was unfair to hold back a bright NT kid for a whole year because he missed the cut-off by 2 weeks. DC took a special test to prove that he was ready to go to school instead of waiting for a year. This is how my kid was "Greenshirted".

He thrived in school academically, in sports, socially and in various ECs. There was no ill-effects of being early. If you are capable of handling school, I don't see why you would want to be held back. I think most kids feel bad about being the oldest. There is nothing to be proud of, for being unable to handle school at the correct age.

What message are you giving to your kid? You are too dumb to hack it at school unless you are older than your classmates?

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Anonymous wrote:My DC birthday is mid-Sept and the cut off was September 1st. We thought it was unfair to hold back a bright NT kid for a whole year because he missed the cut-off by 2 weeks. DC took a special test to prove that he was ready to go to school instead of waiting for a year. This is how my kid was "Greenshirted".

He thrived in school academically, in sports, socially and in various ECs. There was no ill-effects of being early. If you are capable of handling school, I don't see why you would want to be held back. I think most kids feel bad about being the oldest. There is nothing to be proud of, for being unable to handle school at the correct age.

What message are you giving to your kid? You are too dumb to hack it at school unless you are older than your classmates?

Like I've already said, colleges and employers don't view it the same way, and that's what matters. None of them are ever going to say, "Well, I know so-and-so is the most qualified candidate, but they're also a year older than everyone else. If they were in their age-appropriate cohort, they wouldn't be anywhere the most qualified." The reason being a top student when you're the oldest is nothing to be proud of is because it's much easier to be a top student when you're the oldest. If you're not making your kid's path to success as easy as possible, you're not doing your job as a parent.

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Anonymous wrote:My DC birthday is mid-Sept and the cut off was September 1st. We thought it was unfair to hold back a bright NT kid for a whole year because he missed the cut-off by 2 weeks. DC took a special test to prove that he was ready to go to school instead of waiting for a year. This is how my kid was "Greenshirted".

He thrived in school academically, in sports, socially and in various ECs. There was no ill-effects of being early. If you are capable of handling school, I don't see why you would want to be held back. I think most kids feel bad about being the oldest. There is nothing to be proud of, for being unable to handle school at the correct age.

What message are you giving to your kid? You are too dumb to hack it at school unless you are older than your classmates?

Like I've already said, colleges and employers don't view it the same way, and that's what matters. None of them are ever going to say, "Well, I know so-and-so is the most qualified candidate, but they're also a year older than everyone else. If they were in their age-appropriate cohort, they wouldn't be anywhere the most qualified." The reason being a top student when you're the oldest is nothing to be proud of is because it's much easier to be a top student when you're the oldest. If you're not making your kid's path to success as easy as possible, you're not doing your job as a parent.

Well, most of the redshirted kids are not that intelligent to begin with and have behavioral problems, so I have never seen a redshirted top student.

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Anonymous wrote:DD just mentioned a classmate is 15. Is that common around here?

The classmate may look like 15 because of his/her high. Just be kind and MYOB.

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Anonymous wrote:DD just mentioned a classmate is 15. Is that common around here?

Yes with illegal immigrants who never were in school anywhere before. They age out of high school at age 22 too, if they don’t drop out or do remedial HS at the county community college.

Uh, no. No way would any high school ever subject 16-and-17-year-olds to having 22-year-old classmates.

My newly turned 13 year old is in class with 14-16 year olds as they are all taking the same math class.

Since your kid is gifted in math, I'm going to assume that they're male and that the 16-year-olds in his class are female. I guarantee that you would be a lot more uncomfortable if you had a 13-year-old daughter sharing a class with 16-year-old boys. But boys tend to be out of stronger stuff than girls, and maybe the 22-year-olds that PP was referring to are all female.

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Anonymous wrote:My DC birthday is mid-Sept and the cut off was September 1st. We thought it was unfair to hold back a bright NT kid for a whole year because he missed the cut-off by 2 weeks. DC took a special test to prove that he was ready to go to school instead of waiting for a year. This is how my kid was "Greenshirted".

He thrived in school academically, in sports, socially and in various ECs. There was no ill-effects of being early. If you are capable of handling school, I don't see why you would want to be held back. I think most kids feel bad about being the oldest. There is nothing to be proud of, for being unable to handle school at the correct age.

What message are you giving to your kid? You are too dumb to hack it at school unless you are older than your classmates?

Like I've already said, colleges and employers don't view it the same way, and that's what matters. None of them are ever going to say, "Well, I know so-and-so is the most qualified candidate, but they're also a year older than everyone else. If they were in their age-appropriate cohort, they wouldn't be anywhere the most qualified." The reason being a top student when you're the oldest is nothing to be proud of is because it's much easier to be a top student when you're the oldest. If you're not making your kid's path to success as easy as possible, you're not doing your job as a parent.

Well, most of the redshirted kids are not that intelligent to begin with and have behavioral problems, so I have never seen a redshirted top student.

The vitriol towards these kids and their parents suggests otherwise. If what you say is true, why are these anti redshirters so angry and threatened?

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Anonymous wrote:DD just mentioned a classmate is 15. Is that common around here?

Yes with illegal immigrants who never were in school anywhere before. They age out of high school at age 22 too, if they don’t drop out or do remedial HS at the county community college.

Uh, no. No way would any high school ever subject 16-and-17-year-olds to having 22-year-old classmates.

My newly turned 13 year old is in class with 14-16 year olds as they are all taking the same math class.

Since your kid is gifted in math, I'm going to assume that they're male and that the 16-year-olds in his class are female. I guarantee that you would be a lot more uncomfortable if you had a 13-year-old daughter sharing a class with 16-year-old boys. But boys tend to be out of stronger stuff than girls, and maybe the 22-year-olds that PP was referring to are all female.

Why does gender matter?

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So anti-redshirters are bad at math. Anti-immigrant. Sexist. And nasty towards kids.

We are learning so much from this thread.