s/o Rude or not? When you call someone to wish them Happy Birthday and they don't respond.
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Anonymous
| In this day and age, I think many of us save the actual Happy Birthday phone call to the people in our lives we're closer to. Otherwise, a Facebook or text may be appropriate. However, if you take the time out to call and wish someone Happy Birthday is it rude if they don't answer or call back? |
Anonymous
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"is it rude if they don't answer or call back?"
How is it rude if they don't ANSWER, OP? LOL |
Anonymous
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Eh? It's not rude to not answer your phone. Maybe they were busy. Maybe a thousand things.
I don't think this is something to get butthurt over. Maybe if I said happy birthday to someone when we were standing face-to-face and they just starred at me, then I'd get offended. But you called to deliver a message of happy birthday. And presumably you did. Then it's over. |
Anonymous
Lol. Sorry! Not what i really meant to say. I guess it just feels irksome if I take the time out of my day to pick up the phone and say Happy Birthday and they don't acknowledge it. Or is that the status quo now? |
Anonymous
| Geez -- don't call then you won't have to spend your time irritating the f** out of the rest of the world because no one responded to you right away. |
Anonymous
| Say it because you want to say it, not because you want to receive a response. Is it about you or them? |
Anonymous
| Yes. I called my best friend to wish her happy birthday and it took her THREE MONTHS to call me back. We are in our 40s. She made a very clear statement that we were no longer close so I have acted accordingly since then. |
Anonymous
| Really--this is why I HATE phone calls. People who make them always want some pound of flesh from you--it's like they're trying to extract something from you. TEXT ME, BYE |
Anonymous
I know how you feel. Same thing happened to me. Sorry, but silence speaks volumes sometimes. |
Anonymous
| I think it's assumed you don't need to call back to happy birthday calls. |
Anonymous
OP here. Understandable but if this is a friend you regularly talk to on the phone? She obviously doesn't hate talking on the phone. |
Anonymous
Oh man, friends like you when I'm in my 40s are such a drain of my life's blood. The call back for the Happy Birthday is onerous; it's like a thank you note for something you never asked for. People are busy--it doesn't mean they're not your friend. GROW UP. It's not 1970 any more; people have shit to do. |
Anonymous
Right? It's not like you asked them a question and needed an answer. You wanted to send them good wishes on their birthday; you did. Communication successful! Do you expect a thank-you note for a birthday card, too? It's certainly nice if someone calls you back, because presumably you like this person and would enjoy talking to them, but maybe they were busy--at work, doing stuff around the house, or, I don't know, out celebrating their birthday? If I am close enough to someone that I make the effort to call them on their birthday, I would imagine it's someone I talk to fairly regularly, and I wouldn't expect a special phone call just to acknowledge my message. |
Anonymous
| Give freely without expectation. If your "best friend" doesn't call you for three mos, irrespective of any bday msg, it's a sign that she's not that close. Friends know how to give and take without getting bitter about it. |
Anonymous
Hmmm...if you are irked because all the effort you put into placing that 30 second phone call while you walked to the metro wasn't fully appreciated and acknowledged then maybe there are other reasons you aren't being called back? |