Neighbor goes after young moms

[Anonymous]

My friend has a neighbor who goes after all of the moms with young children. The neighbor seems about aged 60, her own children are grown and gone, and it is clear that someone really wronged her. She is hell bent on getting young moms in trouble, or yelling at them, or just picking on them. We don't really know what she is hell bent on, we can only guess. To say she is off kilter is an understatement.

My friends have been in the neighborhood for years, so have most of the other young moms. I think perhaps the issue (or one of the issues, one can only imagine?) is that the complaining mom has lived there a few years longer, and may somehow take issue with the young moms and young children? Maybe she is reminded of her own mortality? Maybe she is reminded that her own children don't visit very often (my friend says they are local, and I visit every week, and have never seen them)?

Please don't say that my friend should be befriending this person, she has no interest, and thinks it will only get worse, if that were to happen. Besides, my friend knows she has nothing in common with someone who has all of this time on her hands (to complain)!

I guess I am asking, since her complaints are not legitimate, should they ignore her, or confront her and tell her to go fly a kite?

She once rang my friends doorbell, and screamed at her in front of the small neighborhood children, that (my friend) is a terrible mother - because my friend lets her kids play in (my friends' own) driveway! She scared the neighborhood children. I didn't see it, I showed up right after, but my friend was pretty shaken up - over something that should have been nothing. They were doing nothing wrong. Apparently, this woman has a problem with children playing outside?

Has anyone ever heard of this? [It's a dead end street, so the children are in zero danger, and wear their helmets when on bikes, etc.]

Gosh, no wonder her own children never visit!

[Anonymous]

your "friend?"

[Anonymous]

She needs to put on her big girl pants and tell the old bat to buzz off.

[Anonymous]

This is about a "friend," really OP? No one here can judge the woman's actions or your "friend's" innocence, since none of us have witnessed what your describing. But if your "friend" demonstrates the same hostile attitude that you do in your post - "Gosh, no wonder her own children never visit!" - that might explain some of the tensions in your "friend's" cul de sac.

[Anonymous]

She sounds unhinged.

[Anonymous]

She sounds like a crazy person.

If she is on your porch, yelling at you, tell her to go home or you are calling the police. If she is standing in her yard, yelling at you, tell her that she needs to button it or you are going to call the police and complain about her disturbing the peace.

Keep saying that and follow through.

[Anonymous]

Protective order.

[Anonymous]

I think you could invoke the stand your ground law.

[Anonymous]

She's probably mentally ill. If it's an on going problem, not a one off event of yelling at the neighbor/friend, then you can call APS that you think she may need help. In the meantime, if she does come onto your property yelling at you & your kids, call the police. Good luck!

[Anonymous]

She sounsd mentally ill or maybe developing altzheimers or dementia. If she harrases someone it might be useful to call the cops. It might help her as well as protect the people being harrassed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My friend has a neighbor who goes after all of the moms with young children. The neighbor seems about aged 60, her own children are grown and gone, and it is clear that someone really wronged her. She is hell bent on getting young moms in trouble, or yelling at them, or just picking on them. We don't really know what she is hell bent on, we can only guess. To say she is off kilter is an understatement.

My friends have been in the neighborhood for years, so have most of the other young moms. I think perhaps the issue (or one of the issues, one can only imagine?) is that the complaining mom has lived there a few years longer, and may somehow take issue with the young moms and young children? Maybe she is reminded of her own mortality? Maybe she is reminded that her own children don't visit very often (my friend says they are local, and I visit every week, and have never seen them)?

Please don't say that my friend should be befriending this person, she has no interest, and thinks it will only get worse, if that were to happen. Besides, my friend knows she has nothing in common with someone who has all of this time on her hands (to complain)!

I guess I am asking, since her complaints are not legitimate, should they ignore her, or confront her and tell her to go fly a kite?

She once rang my friends doorbell, and screamed at her in front of the small neighborhood children, that (my friend) is a terrible mother - because my friend lets her kids play in (my friends' own) driveway! She scared the neighborhood children. I didn't see it, I showed up right after, but my friend was pretty shaken up - over something that should have been nothing. They were doing nothing wrong. Apparently, this woman has a problem with children playing outside?

Has anyone ever heard of this? [It's a dead end street, so the children are in zero danger, and wear their helmets when on bikes, etc.]

Gosh, no wonder her own children never visit!

Has anyone heard of what? Crazy neighbors? Yes, lots of people have crazy neighbors. Your friend should ignore and laugh it off.

[Anonymous]

If you have learned anything from the DCUM crowd it is don't engage crazy...and now you want to engage crazy.

[Anonymous]

call the police

[Anonymous]

TBH, you sound like you are exaggerating and who cares how 'young' the moms are. You need a hobby--maybe you could volunteer to help those less fortunate than yourself you mean twat.

[Anonymous]

call the police and taser her when she is trespassing