Wife cheating on me

[Anonymous]

I don't mean she's having sex with another.
But she is definitely cheating! She's cheating me out of a sex life.
It's the worst possible combination: she is low desire, and she's gained 50 lbs.
If I don't initiate sex, she will happily go 3 months without.
But now that she's gotten fat, I am just not attracted to her sexually. So I rarely initiate.

At various times, I've talked with her about both of these problems (separate conversations to minimize the sting).
She just doesn't really see any problems here. She's fat and happy and doesn't much care about sex. She has the kids and big house, and my needs just are not that important to her.n

I don't want a divorce. She is an excellent mother and is a very pleasant person. She just has no sex appeal and no sex drive and that's how it's gonna be.

There you go: she is cheating me. And I'm eyeing up a nice MILF to keep the balance. I can justify this because she is cheating me.

[Anonymous]

What do you want from DCUM? A blessing?

[Anonymous]

Troll

[Anonymous]

You are nuts.

[Anonymous]

Gaining and maintaining 50 pounds of extra weight probably reflects that there's something else going on with her. In the vast majority of cases, no one feels better carrying an extra 50 pounds of weight. So the question is, do you care about your wife enough to help her figure out what's behind the weight gain and support her as she works through that (so that weight loss is perhaps a fortunate side effect of her working through whatever's weighing on her, figuratively speaking), or is she basically just a blow-up doll to you?

[Anonymous]

You mean your dressing up in your troll suit doesn't turn her on? Odd.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't mean she's having sex with another.
But she is definitely cheating! She's cheating me out of a sex life.
It's the worst possible combination: she is low desire, and she's gained 50 lbs.
If I don't initiate sex, she will happily go 3 months without.
But now that she's gotten fat, I am just not attracted to her sexually. So I rarely initiate.

At various times, I've talked with her about both of these problems (separate conversations to minimize the sting).
She just doesn't really see any problems here. She's fat and happy and doesn't much care about sex. She has the kids and big house, and my needs just are not that important to her.n

I don't want a divorce. She is an excellent mother and is a very pleasant person. She just has no sex appeal and no sex drive and that's how it's gonna be.

There you go: she is cheating me. And I'm eyeing up a nice MILF to keep the balance. I can justify this because she is cheating me.

Huge assumption to automatically think the MILF will go for you.

Not everyone's interested in married men.

[Anonymous]

I did to realize they had big houses under a bridge...

[Anonymous]

Maybe she's low desire because you aren't satisfying her in bed and she figures it's a lost cause.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she's low desire because you aren't satisfying her in bed and she figures it's a lost cause.

+1. Seriously. It's why I don't even bother anymore.

[Anonymous]

Your title says she's cheating ON you. In the post you've phrased it very differently.
Maybe you don't do it for her in the looks department anymore. How much weight have YOU gained?
Time to pull out Rosie Palm and her 5 sisters

[Anonymous]

+100
My DH is more interested in coming home late going to sleep, doing nothing to be a member of this family and then wondering why I am low sex drive. I'm not low drive. It's that he is absent from every aspect except the "deserved sex."
Sorry but when you are ready to join in the rest of your family responsibilities you will get a lil somethin somethin. DH acts like he's single and then wants sex when I finally collapse into bed at the end of the night.

[Anonymous]

So what's your question?

[Anonymous]

I could have written this post. But I am a woman. So flip the script, and I can almost relate. Only the person I have (guiltily) eyed is a very willing ex-boyfriend.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I could have written this post. But I am a woman. So flip the script, and I can almost relate. Only the person I have (guiltily) eyed is a very willing ex-boyfriend.

Great! Go ahead and exchange numbers with OP