80% of women swipe on just 20% of men on dating apps

[Anonymous]

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Lady - by fixating on your T&A and how much you pay to maintain yourself, and letting men do the same, you are setting yourself up to date d-bags. I (a woman) am a managing director at a big investment bank - most of those guys brag all day long about the T&A their money buys. If that’s your bag, have at it, but dont tell us that’s how to find quality men. It’s no surprise you’ve had so many of them - they dont settle down.

I’m 50, highly successful, very fit, look great for my age (but look my age - no surgery or filler), and I actually want someone to talk to. My money test is just, can they keep up - I’m happy to alternate paying but I dont want to be a sugar mama. To go back to OP, there were a lot of good answers on this thread - I look for guys who have a thoughtful profile (no bathroom or gym selfies, have pix of places you love, and say a few words about what you’re into), and who seem interested in me for more than my pictures. Those are signs they are interested in finding a person, not just a hole.

As far as sex, I’m test driving them too. I dont need their money or their genes at this point; if they’re not good in bed I dont want them either, so I dont think about it in terms of them having to buy me until they give me exclusivity - honestly, that’s absurd. It’s usually 3-4 dates - that’s enough to get a feel for whether they are actually interested in more than sex. [/quote]

Couldn’t find anything wrong with this post. Know what you want and go for it. No silly rules, games and tests, it’s so refreshing.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]

As I said before women take care of looks and spend more on that because that’s what men look at first . Men should cover the dates before they offer exclusivity. This is totally equitable and prevents apps abuse in my experience weeding out those who only look for quick hookups. If some man doesn’t consider my looks appealing enough to date me, he doesn’t have to. Period.

I’m 20 BMI with great a..s and big boobs, several million NW. And I have no issues entering relationships, while of course I’ve met many players. I always contributed in my long term exclusive relationships towards joint expenses.

You must be really poor or only date unattractive women, who decline sex with you, if you care so much for women going Dutch on their $18 appetizer and Green Olive is your favorite.

To give you a sample of men I dated (went on more than 5 dates over a few years): owner of a network of fertility clinics, managing partners in law and finance, a well known journalist, a university professor in physics with own page in Wikipedia for proving a theorem, high level government official/distinguished general, etc.

I never had ONSs. I have a BF now - a partner in a consulting firm, only 4 years older than myself. Each of us has one child. He’s 5’10 I’m 5’8.

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Lady - by fixating on your T&A and how much you pay to maintain yourself, and letting men do the same, you are setting yourself up to date d-bags. I (a woman) am a managing director at a big investment bank - most of those guys brag all day long about the T&A their money buys. If that’s your bag, have at it, but dont tell us that’s how to find quality men. It’s no surprise you’ve had so many of them - they dont settle down.

I’m 50, highly successful, very fit, look great for my age (but look my age - no surgery or filler), and I actually want someone to talk to. My money test is just, can they keep up - I’m happy to alternate paying but I dont want to be a sugar mama. To go back to OP, there were a lot of good answers on this thread - I look for guys who have a thoughtful profile (no bathroom or gym selfies, have pix of places you love, and say a few words about what you’re into), and who seem interested in me for more than my pictures. Those are signs they are interested in finding a person, not just a hole.

As far as sex, I’m test driving them too. I dont need their money or their genes at this point; if they’re not good in bed I dont want them either, so I dont think about it in terms of them having to buy me until they give me exclusivity - honestly, that’s absurd. It’s usually 3-4 dates - that’s enough to get a feel for whether they are actually interested in more than sex. [/quote]

Do good for you - seems like you are sampling and are being sampled a lot. I absolutely don’t sleep with anyone on date 3 it’s an STD disaster prone dating. 3-4 dates is nothing - no time to really know the person. Things like relationship stability, conflict management skills come up in 3-6 months.
But you do you. I’m fine with my dating strategy.
There are many 50s women in my circle who ended up being sugar mammas after setting this tone/paying for dates etc.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Professional men are absolutely NOT worried about being used for dinner lol. You’re delusional. Or maybe you’re just too young and poor to have met actual professional men. Many are generous and enjoy dining out with company. It does not break the bank to pay for an extra meal or two.

Many are "generous and enjoy dining out with company", huh? We can now set the baseline for a date with you, PP.

You start the week free to hunt, since your ExDH has the kids for the weekend. You fish through Tinder and land a target for Friday night. You agree to meet for dinner, and you arrive at the restaurant ready for battle, checking the lot for any sign that they may tow cars left unattended for more than 24 hours, in case he jumps the low bar set for you to "stay over".

You enter the Golden Corral, and spot him waiting by the hostess stand. During dinner, you casually slide your hand under his paper napkin and give his privates a squeeze, letting him know he will be rewarded for his generosity in springing for the Full Buffet for you both.

Next, you accept his invitation to join him in his single-wide trailer to watch WWE and "talk some more." On the drive over, you do not let him touch your skirt until he uses his Handy-Wipes (he had the fried wings, after all). You move the latest copy of Guns and Ammo so that there is space for your ever-widening bottom to fit next to him on the couch. You give the WWE five minutes while he drinks his Pabst, and you finish your White Claw knockoff. Then you pounce, using moves you read about in this week's Comso. After draining him, you demand to be returned to the Golden Corral, having become alarmed at the noise from his neighbour's domestic dispute.
and g
Once home, you stalk your EX's social media and make fun of his younger, prettier GF with your friends while guzzling the remaining half-gallon of Kirkland's finest white wine. You feel bad for your date, since if he had taken you to the Olive Garden (like you wanted), you would have given him a BJ right at the table.

You go, Girl!!!

You are so desperate to believe this narrative you’ve cooked up. You have quite the imagination! Maybe try writing a blog instead of pushing your hatred of women on this site. It’s getting weird how you just keep making up these stories.

[Anonymous]

[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]

As I said before women take care of looks and spend more on that because that’s what men look at first . Men should cover the dates before they offer exclusivity. This is totally equitable and prevents apps abuse in my experience weeding out those who only look for quick hookups. If some man doesn’t consider my looks appealing enough to date me, he doesn’t have to. Period.

I’m 20 BMI with great a..s and big boobs, several million NW. And I have no issues entering relationships, while of course I’ve met many players. I always contributed in my long term exclusive relationships towards joint expenses.

You must be really poor or only date unattractive women, who decline sex with you, if you care so much for women going Dutch on their $18 appetizer and Green Olive is your favorite.

To give you a sample of men I dated (went on more than 5 dates over a few years): owner of a network of fertility clinics, managing partners in law and finance, a well known journalist, a university professor in physics with own page in Wikipedia for proving a theorem, high level government official/distinguished general, etc.

I never had ONSs. I have a BF now - a partner in a consulting firm, only 4 years older than myself. Each of us has one child. He’s 5’10 I’m 5’8.

[/quote]

Lady - by fixating on your T&A and how much you pay to maintain yourself, and letting men do the same, you are setting yourself up to date d-bags. I (a woman) am a managing director at a big investment bank - most of those guys brag all day long about the T&A their money buys. If that’s your bag, have at it, but dont tell us that’s how to find quality men. It’s no surprise you’ve had so many of them - they dont settle down.

I’m 50, highly successful, very fit, look great for my age (but look my age - no surgery or filler), and I actually want someone to talk to. My money test is just, can they keep up - I’m happy to alternate paying but I dont want to be a sugar mama. To go back to OP, there were a lot of good answers on this thread - I look for guys who have a thoughtful profile (no bathroom or gym selfies, have pix of places you love, and say a few words about what you’re into), and who seem interested in me for more than my pictures. Those are signs they are interested in finding a person, not just a hole.

As far as sex, I’m test driving them too. I dont need their money or their genes at this point; if they’re not good in bed I dont want them either, so I dont think about it in terms of them having to buy me until they give me exclusivity - honestly, that’s absurd. It’s usually 3-4 dates - that’s enough to get a feel for whether they are actually interested in more than sex. [/quote]

Do good for you - seems like you are sampling and are being sampled a lot. I absolutely don’t sleep with anyone on date 3 it’s an STD disaster prone dating. 3-4 dates is nothing - no time to really know the person. Things like relationship stability, conflict management skills come up in 3-6 months.
But you do you. I’m fine with my dating strategy.
There are many 50s women in my circle who ended up being sugar mammas after setting this tone/paying for dates etc. [/quote]

Btw not sure which consulting company it is but I’m an executive in one, too. My male colleagues never brag around me about their T&A escapades. Weird co-workers you have, I must say.

[Anonymous]

Most people in middle age are not looking to be sugar dads or moms. They have obligations, likely went through another marriage, are putting kids through college, they don’t need another child to take care of, they are looking for a partner to enjoy life with. If your mindset is him paying for your dates until you’re exclusive, you’re communicating that you are looking for a sugar daddy, and that’s going to repel a lot of quality men.

[Anonymous]

Really, you’re an executive too? Executive assistant?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people in middle age are not looking to be sugar dads or moms. They have obligations, likely went through another marriage, are putting kids through college, they don’t need another child to take care of, they are looking for a partner to enjoy life with. If your mindset is him paying for your dates until you’re exclusive, you’re communicating that you are looking for a sugar daddy, and that’s going to repel a lot of quality men.

If it repels the men who whinge on anon websites about women “using them” for dinner then it’s working out perfectly.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in middle age are not looking to be sugar dads or moms. They have obligations, likely went through another marriage, are putting kids through college, they don’t need another child to take care of, they are looking for a partner to enjoy life with. If your mindset is him paying for your dates until you’re exclusive, you’re communicating that you are looking for a sugar daddy, and that’s going to repel a lot of quality men.

If it repels the men who whinge on anon websites about women “using them” for dinner then it’s working out perfectly.

Ok but it also attracts ones who are buying sex. How about something in the middle?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in middle age are not looking to be sugar dads or moms. They have obligations, likely went through another marriage, are putting kids through college, they don’t need another child to take care of, they are looking for a partner to enjoy life with. If your mindset is him paying for your dates until you’re exclusive, you’re communicating that you are looking for a sugar daddy, and that’s going to repel a lot of quality men.

If it repels the men who whinge on anon websites about women “using them” for dinner then it’s working out perfectly.

Ok but it also attracts ones who are buying sex. How about something in the middle?

I fail to see how, if she’s specifically waiting for exclusivity before sex. You’re not on the correct page here.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in middle age are not looking to be sugar dads or moms. They have obligations, likely went through another marriage, are putting kids through college, they don’t need another child to take care of, they are looking for a partner to enjoy life with. If your mindset is him paying for your dates until you’re exclusive, you’re communicating that you are looking for a sugar daddy, and that’s going to repel a lot of quality men.

If it repels the men who whinge on anon websites about women “using them” for dinner then it’s working out perfectly.

The reality of dating as a middle aged man is that there are many broke women that go back into the dating scene in order to find someone to take care of them in retirement through marriage. Of course they will expect the man to pay for everything on the dates because they’re broke and they offer their “company” in exchange. Of course they are all “professionals”, but people lie about themselves all the time. Not paying fully for dates is a good way to screen them out if you’re not looking to marry and support somebody else. As the previous poster said, try to find someone that can keep up, not a 50 year old sugar baby. It’s not about the cost of the meal, it’s about signaling that both partners want the same thing in a relationship and have the same mindset and not wasting time with someone you’re not interested in.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Most people in middle age are not looking to be sugar dads or moms. They have obligations, likely went through another marriage, are putting kids through college, they don’t need another child to take care of, they are looking for a partner to enjoy life with. If your mindset is him paying for your dates until you’re exclusive, you’re communicating that you are looking for a sugar daddy, and that’s going to repel a lot of quality men.

If it repels the men who whinge on anon websites about women “using them” for dinner then it’s working out perfectly.

The reality of dating as a middle aged man is that there are many broke women that go back into the dating scene in order to find someone to take care of them in retirement through marriage. Of course they will expect the man to pay for everything on the dates because they’re broke and they offer their “company” in exchange. Of course they are all “professionals”, but people lie about themselves all the time. Not paying fully for dates is a good way to screen them out if you’re not looking to marry and support somebody else. As the previous poster said, try to find someone that can keep up, not a 50 year old sugar baby. It’s not about the cost of the meal, it’s about signaling that both partners want the same thing in a relationship and have the same mindset and not wasting time with someone you’re not interested in.

If a man is concerned about being used by a professional woman, he is probably not the type of man pp is looking for. If you want to filter those people out by not paying for dates, that’s fine. But again, not the type of man pp is looking for.
I’m actually very pro splitting and prefer when men DONT pay for me, but I’m married so not really the demographic lol. But in general, these men are not complaining or worrying about women using them. It’s dinner, not a 5* vacation.