Picky eaters and Thanksgiving (and holidays generally)

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Anonymous wrote:Then why are you even here asking if you think this is such a non-issue and no big deal?

I was asking parents of picky eaters what they might have done in the past (big breakfast versus trying to create some sides the picky eater will eat versus just serving the picky eater an alternative meal at the table). I got good responses from actual parents of actual picky eaters on this point, and it was useful. Sadly, I also incurred the wrath of the "PARENTS TODAY ARE CODDLING THE YOUTH HOW DARE YOU MAKE PANCAKES ON THANKSGIVING" contingent, which I naively did not realize was so strong. And apparently very, very bored.

There is nothing wrong with pancakes on Thanksgiving morning. There is also nothing wrong- and a lot right- with teaching your children that they are not the center of the universe and that holiday meals do not revolve around their whims.

Thanksgiving is about food, family and tradition. Our Thanksgiving dinner contains dishes with recipes that go back four or five generations. Yes, my kids will be introduced to those and will try them. If they don’t like them that is fine but we are not making substitutions at the table just for them.

I'm not sure how making sure your kid has ONE thing they like to eat on Thanksgiving equals teaching them that they are the center of the universe and that holiday meals revolve around them. Our Thanksgiving will have 9-10 dishes that the adults like (or at least some of the adults like, and a picky eater kid probably wouldn't). Why would putting a single item on the table that the picky eater will like suddenly meant the holiday revolves around them?

I would understand these reactions if this thread started with "My child is a picky eater so I would like to insist that we serve crackers, cheese, yogurt, and granola bars for Thanksgiving dinner. Do you all think this is a good idea?" But it didn't. The thread is about making one or two (small) accommodations so that one member of the family doesn't go hungry on a freaking holiday if they find all the other foods unappetizing. Half the thread has agreed that MANY kids find most Thanksgiving foods unappetizing.

There's just a very weird vibe of "children should be seen and not heard" on this thread, like it's 1942 or something. Making pancakes for a kid on Thanksgiving morning, or making sure one or two of the many sides on the table are familiar or liked by that kid, is not some unreasonable accommodation.

If you had at adult at your Thanksgiving who didn't eat meat or dairy, would you freak out about the idea of offering one or two dishes that don't include these items? This is really no different.

+1. How interesting (and telling) that no one can seem to answer: On a table with 10-12 items, why is it fine for old people to "insist on," say, rutabegas and creamed onions that no one else likes, but it's not OK to set out some mac and cheese for kids if that is what they like?

-Mom of two kids who will eat anything

Because I don't have an extra frying pan, burner, counter space or dishwasher space to spare to make smoothies and pancakes.

You can feed your kid whatever you want. You can't use my kitchen to prepare it on Thanksgiving.

Well THANKFULLY most of us are not eating Thanksgiving at your house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: Maybe ask for 20mg when you mention the Lexapro.

This thread.

Apparently it is rude and unreasonable to make a young child a box of Mac and cheese at Thanksgiving. The hostess will "hit you with a spatula" or throw you out because this is simply beyond the pale.

But it is not rude to make jokes about how people are crazy and "need meds" because they think differently about something than you. Responses like "Sure Jan" and arguing about whether or not a total stranger is lying about having a blender is normal, as opposed to obnoxious and tiresome.

DCUM gonna DCUM.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

Another pill-popping, alcoholic Boomer giving parenting advice. No thanks, Linda, some of us like to be conscious when our children are around.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

Another pill-popping, alcoholic Boomer giving parenting advice. No thanks, Linda, some of us like to be conscious when our children are around.

Do you think that SSRIs intoxicate you? Please Google what these meds are. They are not valium. And OP could really benefit. I am on them and not a Boomer!

[Anonymous]

OPs daughter will end up with major gastro issues because of her ocd mommy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

Another pill-popping, alcoholic Boomer giving parenting advice. No thanks, Linda, some of us like to be conscious when our children are around.

Do you think that SSRIs intoxicate you? Please Google what these meds are. They are not valium. And OP could really benefit. I am on them and not a Boomer!

Diagnosing people you don't know with anxiety and prescribing SSRIs to them based on a handful of message board posts would indicate that you don't actually have a good handle what SSRIs are for.

Being a bit stressed about what you are going to feed your picky eater on Thanksgiving at your ILs is actually not a sign of anxiety. It's a sign of being alive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

Lol!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OPs daughter will end up with major gastro issues because of her ocd mommy

What will your kids wind up with as a result of their mom being a huge a$$hole?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

Another pill-popping, alcoholic Boomer giving parenting advice. No thanks, Linda, some of us like to be conscious when our children are around.

Do you think that SSRIs intoxicate you? Please Google what these meds are. They are not valium. And OP could really benefit. I am on them and not a Boomer!

Diagnosing people you don't know with anxiety and prescribing SSRIs to them based on a handful of message board posts would indicate that you don't actually have a good handle what SSRIs are for.

Being a bit stressed about what you are going to feed your picky eater on Thanksgiving at your ILs is actually not a sign of anxiety. It's a sign of being alive.

OP please come back with an update after you've been on one of these meds for 6 weeks. We can't wait to meet the new you!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

I know this is a joke but the response on this thread to making pancakes on Thanksgiving morning would actually make you think someone had suggesting serving their child a beer to curb their hunger. So in a way this is ironic because apparently many posters would rather you give a 6 yr old alcohol than try to accommodate sickness on Thanksgiving. Interesting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

I know this is a joke but the response on this thread to making pancakes on Thanksgiving morning would actually make you think someone had suggesting serving their child a beer to curb their hunger. So in a way this is ironic because apparently many posters would rather you give a 6 yr old alcohol than try to accommodate sickness on Thanksgiving. Interesting.

I meant "accommodate pickiness" sorry for the typo

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP the dosage you need to as your doctor for is 10mg of Lexapro. By Xmas you will be telling the kid to have a beer if she's hungry.

I know this is a joke but the response on this thread to making pancakes on Thanksgiving morning would actually make you think someone had suggesting serving their child a beer to curb their hunger. So in a way this is ironic because apparently many posters would rather you give a 6 yr old alcohol than try to accommodate sickness on Thanksgiving. Interesting.

Well as long as the alcohol is served as part of the Official Thanksgiving Table then the kids can drink it. They can say no if they want and that's fine, but they should not expect substitutes. Juice and milk are not traditionally serves in my house. They can wait and have a drink of water from the bathroom sink if we allow them to briefly be excused from the meal. My kitchen is, of course, off limits from 6AM to 9PM.