People who ruin neighborhoods (like tkpk) by putting their kids in private school

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:More of a vent, but i am uttterly frustrated by people with money who move into nice MC neighborhoods like tkpk or silver spring with relatively good schools to get bigger houses and then choose to put their precious kids in private schools.

We are trying to build a community and bring the schools up and these people create a bad trend of pulling a whole group of UMC kids out of the public schools because they cannot handle the diversity and challenges of public schools. All while claiming to be left leaning and to have a social compass. But that is pure white flight. It is depressing. And they dont even seem to see how political and impactful their choice is.

I really wish they stayed out of my city and went to live next to the private schools they send their kids to.

Translation: We are strivers who worked our butts off and clawed our way into what we thought was a premier neighborhood. We envisioned we and our children would make fast friends with upper middle class and rich new neighbors, parents and classmates. Read social climb. We quickly discovered we are actually on a lower rung and nobody with deep pockets sends their kid to what we thought were excellent public schools — and thus, they don’t socialize with us or our kids.

lol petty good translation there

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More of a vent, but i am uttterly frustrated by people with money who move into nice MC neighborhoods like tkpk or silver spring with relatively good schools to get bigger houses and then choose to put their precious kids in private schools.

We are trying to build a community and bring the schools up and these people create a bad trend of pulling a whole group of UMC kids out of the public schools because they cannot handle the diversity and challenges of public schools. All while claiming to be left leaning and to have a social compass. But that is pure white flight. It is depressing. And they dont even seem to see how political and impactful their choice is.

I really wish they stayed out of my city and went to live next to the private schools they send their kids to.

Translation: We are strivers who worked our butts off and clawed our way into what we thought was a premier neighborhood. We envisioned we and our children would make fast friends with upper middle class and rich new neighbors, parents and classmates. Read social climb. We quickly discovered we are actually on a lower rung and nobody with deep pockets sends their kid to what we thought were excellent public schools — and thus, they don’t socialize with us or our kids.

lol petty good translation there

Plus the painful realization that the “excellent” public schools aren’t actually all that excellent and your kids are getting an inadequate education vis a vis their private school counterparts. It all makes you feel like a naive prole. The rah-rah public school cheerleading is just a face saving coping technique.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More of a vent, but i am uttterly frustrated by people with money who move into nice MC neighborhoods like tkpk or silver spring with relatively good schools to get bigger houses and then choose to put their precious kids in private schools.

We are trying to build a community and bring the schools up and these people create a bad trend of pulling a whole group of UMC kids out of the public schools because they cannot handle the diversity and challenges of public schools. All while claiming to be left leaning and to have a social compass. But that is pure white flight. It is depressing. And they dont even seem to see how political and impactful their choice is.

I really wish they stayed out of my city and went to live next to the private schools they send their kids to.

Translation: We are strivers who worked our butts off and clawed our way into what we thought was a premier neighborhood. We envisioned we and our children would make fast friends with upper middle class and rich new neighbors, parents and classmates. Read social climb. We quickly discovered we are actually on a lower rung and nobody with deep pockets sends their kid to what we thought were excellent public schools — and thus, they don’t socialize with us or our kids.

Movin’ on up. We finally belong. We finally made it!

Spoiler: No, no you haven’t.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I giggle when I read people applauding kids going from low-income public schools to private colleges like Yale. Using OP’s logic, shouldn’t those kids be going to Salisbury or Towson instead?

Great point. Transparent social climbing phonies and hypocrites. Their hard-on for public education, diversity and a magical lower income friend group for their kids goes out the window when it comes to college.

I mean, I wasn't planning on choosing my kid's college for them, but you do you . . .

[Anonymous]

The fact that these kids get into Yale from their so-called "inadequate" public schools is a testament to the fact that our fears of public schools are irrational.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I giggle when I read people applauding kids going from low-income public schools to private colleges like Yale. Using OP’s logic, shouldn’t those kids be going to Salisbury or Towson instead?

Great point. Transparent social climbing phonies and hypocrites. Their hard-on for public education, diversity and a magical lower income friend group for their kids goes out the window when it comes to college.

I mean, I wasn't planning on choosing my kid's college for them, but you do you . . .

Attending a private k-12 is no more or less noble than attending a private university.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The fact that these kids get into Yale from their so-called "inadequate" public schools is a testament to the fact that our fears of public schools are irrational.

If public school was so great for those kids, why not attend a public university too?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The fact that these kids get into Yale from their so-called "inadequate" public schools is a testament to the fact that our fears of public schools are irrational.

If public school was so great for those kids, why not attend a public university too?

Many public university graduates are very successful and make a lot of money. I have a classmate that went to Frostburg State, where she met her husband. They are doing very well and have an enormous house. I'm not sure what your point is.

[Anonymous]

I live in the City of Alexandria and a few years back a group of neighbors in Del Ray got together and made the decision they would all send their kids to the local public school which at the time was name Maury. [it's been renamed and I don't know to what]

It's been years now and I think some of those kids must be in middle school now. They did a big fundraising effort to get a new playground. And some other things. But I believe there was some craziness that ensued with PTA moms.

I believe that part of the reason for the agreement was the realization that with their housing costs and all the extras of their lifestyles that adding private school tuition would be too much for them. So they need to make the public school situation acceptable. This happens a lot in Del Ray and Rosemont when people have young kids and are in the early years of owning the home they stretched to purchase.

So OP if you really want families to attend the local public you have to get out and raise support yourself. It's possible to do but takes effort.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that these kids get into Yale from their so-called "inadequate" public schools is a testament to the fact that our fears of public schools are irrational.

If public school was so great for those kids, why not attend a public university too?

Many public university graduates are very successful and make a lot of money. I have a classmate that went to Frostburg State, where she met her husband. They are doing very well and have an enormous house. I'm not sure what your point is.

I think it's a flimsy attempt at a "gotcha." "If you like public institutions so much, you should marry them!"

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that these kids get into Yale from their so-called "inadequate" public schools is a testament to the fact that our fears of public schools are irrational.

If public school was so great for those kids, why not attend a public university too?

Many public university graduates are very successful and make a lot of money. I have a classmate that went to Frostburg State, where she met her husband. They are doing very well and have an enormous house. I'm not sure what your point is.

Exactly, so why bash private schools k-12 and then turn around and send your kid to private U?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that these kids get into Yale from their so-called "inadequate" public schools is a testament to the fact that our fears of public schools are irrational.

If public school was so great for those kids, why not attend a public university too?

Many public university graduates are very successful and make a lot of money. I have a classmate that went to Frostburg State, where she met her husband. They are doing very well and have an enormous house. I'm not sure what your point is.

Exactly, so why bash private schools k-12 and then turn around and send your kid to private U?

Sorry I wasn't more clear that I am a DP. However, it's obvious that the PP is using ADMISSION to Ivy League schools as measure of success. Stop being willfully obtuse. Also, as far as I can see the PP did not "bash" any schools and is instead providing a rebuttal to people who bash public schools.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The fact that these kids get into Yale from their so-called "inadequate" public schools is a testament to the fact that our fears of public schools are irrational.

If public school was so great for those kids, why not attend a public university too?

Many public university graduates are very successful and make a lot of money. I have a classmate that went to Frostburg State, where she met her husband. They are doing very well and have an enormous house. I'm not sure what your point is.

Exactly, so why bash private schools k-12 and then turn around and send your kid to private U?

Your college ends up on your resume for life and, even decades after graduation, it can play a role in whether you get a job or not. Not so with elementary, middle, and high schools.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:More of a vent, but i am uttterly frustrated by people with money who move into nice MC neighborhoods like tkpk or silver spring with relatively good schools to get bigger houses and then choose to put their precious kids in private schools.

We are trying to build a community and bring the schools up and these people create a bad trend of pulling a whole group of UMC kids out of the public schools because they cannot handle the diversity and challenges of public schools. All while claiming to be left leaning and to have a social compass. But that is pure white flight. It is depressing. And they dont even seem to see how political and impactful their choice is.

I really wish they stayed out of my city and went to live next to the private schools they send their kids to.

Translation: We are strivers who worked our butts off and clawed our way into what we thought was a premier neighborhood. We envisioned we and our children would make fast friends with upper middle class and rich new neighbors, parents and classmates. Read social climb. We quickly discovered we are actually on a lower rung and nobody with deep pockets sends their kid to what we thought were excellent public schools — and thus, they don’t socialize with us or our kids.

lol petty good translation there

This is to die for.
I live in a small, old house in a middle-class neighborhood and send my kids to the private school in the UMC town a few miles away. I think my way was smarter.

[Anonymous]

I'm raising kids to be cost-conscious and obviously the cost of a school will factor into their decision. Is a degree from Yale worth however many multiples of a degree from UVA? But luckily, by sending them to public schools K-12, we have a lot more money for college than we would have had if we'd gone private. If a private university is the best fit and we can afford it, then we'll honor our kid's choice. Mommy and Daddy shouldn't be choosing their 18 year old's college in the same way they did their kindergarten.

I think people on both sides of the public/private debate have confirmation bias; it's natural to want such an important decision to have been the correct one. However, only one side of the equation is justifying a large outlay of cash, and hence, their bias will be a lot stronger. Seeing that kids who went to "inadequate" public schools still wind up at Yale creates cognitive dissonance that must be calmed, lest they have to face the fact they've spent a lot of money for the same, or even worse, outcome as not spending it.