How do you feel about being an older Dad?

[Anonymous]

I'm 52. I was 40 when my oldest child was born and 46 when my youngest (of three) was born. In the beginning I was self-conscious about it but now, hey, it is what it is.

[Anonymous]

OP, my DH is a comperable age, with children similarly aged. I think he feels fine about it. But why don't you try asking kids how they feel about having an older dad?

[Anonymous]

I'm in nearly the same age situation with two children. I sometimes think it is unusual, which it is, but it does not bother me.

[Anonymous]

My dad had me when he was 43.

He's 79 now, and Im in my mid-30s and his health is declining rapidly.

Makes me sad we wont be around to see my DC grow up. I still want another and it pains me to think he may never meet him/her!!

So, I speak from a sad daughter here. ;-/

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad had me when he was 43.

He's 79 now, and Im in my mid-30s and his health is declining rapidly.

Makes me sad we wont be around to see my DC grow up. I still want another and it pains me to think he may never meet him/her!!

So, I speak from a sad daughter here. ;-/

Same; all this.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad had me when he was 43.

He's 79 now, and Im in my mid-30s and his health is declining rapidly.

Makes me sad we wont be around to see my DC grow up. I still want another and it pains me to think he may never meet him/her!!

So, I speak from a sad daughter here. ;-/

Yes, but for every story like this, there is my story. My dad had me when he was 42. I am now 50 and he is 92 and in very good health -- excellent, actually, considering his age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad had me when he was 43.

He's 79 now, and Im in my mid-30s and his health is declining rapidly.

Makes me sad we wont be around to see my DC grow up. I still want another and it pains me to think he may never meet him/her!!

So, I speak from a sad daughter here. ;-/

Same; all this.

Third^5
My dad was 45 when I was born. He died at 76 of Leukemia. Up until then he was very healthy but the disease took his life within 2 years.
I was 31 when he died. I had kids young and if I would've waited my kids would've never met my parents. My mother died 7 years later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My dad had me when he was 43.

He's 79 now, and Im in my mid-30s and his health is declining rapidly.

Makes me sad we wont be around to see my DC grow up. I still want another and it pains me to think he may never meet him/her!!

So, I speak from a sad daughter here. ;-/

My father had me at 21. He died before I turned 29. You have a father, stopped whining about things you cannot change.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My dad had me when he was 43.

He's 79 now, and Im in my mid-30s and his health is declining rapidly.

Makes me sad we wont be around to see my DC grow up. I still want another and it pains me to think he may never meet him/her!!

So, I speak from a sad daughter here. ;-/

Yes, but for every story like this, there is my story. My dad had me when he was 42. I am now 50 and he is 92 and in very good health -- excellent, actually, considering his age.

Average life expectancy for men is about 79/80.
It's wonderful you still have your dad but men making it past 90 is not that common.

[Anonymous]

My grandfather had my dad when he was 50 and his wife was 42. Dad was a oops baby, the youngest of five and his siblings were already adults when he was born. His father was killed when my dad was 8 when war broke out.

My dad is still glad that he was born even if his father was old.

[Anonymous]

All of which goes to show that being a good father during the time you have is better than being a bad one for longer.

[Anonymous]

DH was 44 and 49 when his children were born.
He never thinks of his age, and wants another kid now, at 53.

We are not having another child.

And I agree with PP above - it's better to have had a great father for a short time than a lousy one for a long time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My grandfather had my dad when he was 50 and his wife was 42. Dad was a oops baby, the youngest of five and his siblings were already adults when he was born. His father was killed when my dad was 8 when war broke out.

My dad is still glad that he was born even if his father was old.

This is a good attitude.

[Anonymous]

I think it is selfish and gross. My dad was 50 when I was born. We had 8 kids in the family. My dad was 42 when my first sibling was born. I say tie it up if you don't use it young. You don't want a dad who is so old when you're a kid. People are fooling themselves if they think it is ok.

[Anonymous]

Both my father and I are old fathers. He never played with me. No sport together. And he was so strict that I dared not speak to him. Because of this, I always make time to play with my kids, I am strict but know that I have to make them happy too.

From what they told me, they love me.