Affair question

[Anonymous]

My friend was telling me that she and her affair partner (another married man) do normal things together like go food shopping (for their respective families) etc...
I was kind of shocked. is that normal?
I can understand (though not agree) if it was all about sex, but is that a sign that she is getting more attached?

[Anonymous]

i dont think that's the norm

[Anonymous]

It's normally the stage right before they get caught. It's called the careless stage. It makes the woman think its not just about sex.

[Anonymous]

Why is it always the woman who things it's more than sex?
How do you know the man doesn't also

[Anonymous]

Maybe they integrate food into their lovemaking

[Anonymous]

Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.

[Anonymous]

...and then they will have affairs outside of that because the first affair has become boring. Lol

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's normally the stage right before they get caught. It's called the careless stage. It makes the woman think its not just about sex.

I'm not sure about that. When my AP and I first got together (I'm the woman), we used to go out to dinner. Now we meet for a couple of hours for sex only. I guess in my situation he's lost interest

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:...and then they will have affairs outside of that because the first affair has become boring. Lol

and then she will call the wife... UGH! drama people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, I agree that this is kind of odd.

Usually an affair if one or both are married would consist of sex only, maybe going out to eat and/or drinks.

This may be a sign that they are getting comfortable w/each other, enough so that they are thinking of taking their relationship to a whole new level.

That's the sense I get too.
They also see each other almost every day.

[Anonymous]

Amazing they haven't been caught. I have an AP and there is no 'normal' life activities. Usually a quick drink before sex. Also, there is an underlying rule that the affair doesn't get discussed with friends. She's going to get caught.

[Anonymous]

Wtf? Who wants to grocery shop with the affair partner? What's the point!?

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's like a date. They obviously have feelings for each other.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's normally the stage right before they get caught. It's called the careless stage. It makes the woman think its not just about sex.

I'm not sure about that. When my AP and I first got together (I'm the woman), we used to go out to dinner. Now we meet for a couple of hours for sex only. I guess in my situation he's lost interest

You deserve better than that!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's normally the stage right before they get caught. It's called the careless stage. It makes the woman think its not just about sex.

I'm not sure about that. When my AP and I first got together (I'm the woman), we used to go out to dinner. Now we meet for a couple of hours for sex only. I guess in my situation he's lost interest

You deserve better than that!

No, actually, she doesn't. She has lowered herself to having an affair with a married man and/or she is a married woman. She does not "deserve" anything good from this at all.