s/o Does anyone on DCUM actually like their in-laws?

[Anonymous]

It seems to be generally assumed on here that everyone dislikes their in-laws. I have a very close relationship with mine, love our family vacations, and can't imagine being in a disagreement with them. Also, is it mostly women who hate their in-laws or men too?

[Anonymous]

I love mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It seems to be generally assumed on here that everyone dislikes their in-laws. I have a very close relationship with mine, love our family vacations, and can't imagine being in a disagreement with them. Also, is it mostly women who hate their in-laws or men too?

It's been asked a million times here. Many people do like their ILs, but it's those who don't, are looking for support online. I can't imagine you feel the need to create many threads declaring your love to ILs.

[Anonymous]

I absolutely love mine. I've honestly thought many times about divorcing my husband, but don't want to lose her. If it wasn't for her, I would have divorced already. I wish my mil lived closer to us.

[Anonymous]

I love my in-laws. I would not have married into a family that I couldn't love and/or wouldn't accept and love me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I absolutely love mine. I've honestly thought many times about divorcing my husband, but don't want to lose her. If it wasn't for her, I would have divorced already. I wish my mil lived closer to us.

I, on the other hand, have been on the brink of divorce many times, and it is because of her and her narcissistic personality disorder, through which she has warped and poisoned her own children, pitted them against one another, and made each of them have problems with relationships, in various different ways, b/c they never saw a healthy marital relationship. Two are married and one will likely never marry. The two who are married (one of them is my DH) both have marital difficulties. Honestly, if it were not for my SIL (the other spouse who married into this situation!), I may have gone crazy and left this family long ago. She is my voice of reason, convincing me that it's not just I who finds this family wacko!

[Anonymous]

Mine have their issues, like all humans, but they are like family to me. I treat them with love and respect and live with their foibles, as they do mine. I don't get people who see "in law" as a dirty word. I hope that my children choose partners who embrace the idea of a strong in law relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I love my in-laws. I would not have married into a family that I couldn't love and/or wouldn't accept and love me.

Same here. I consider it part of the total package. Love mine and they are my closest family members!

[Anonymous]

I love my in-laws and they are great with our kids. They still annoy me greatly at times and I have vented about them here. I also am very close to my parents, but after too much time with them I could throttle them.

Loving someone and griping about them are not mutually exclusive. I vent so that I don't say something I regret to my MIL who I don't want to hurt.

[Anonymous]

Mine are great. They have their little things that I find odd, of course, but I think that is the case with any family. When I stay with friends, I find some of their habits odd, too, and I can't imagine how weird people find my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Mine are great. They have their little things that I find odd, of course, but I think that is the case with any family. When I stay with friends, I find some of their habits odd, too, and I can't imagine how weird people find my family.

+1!

[Anonymous]

I do.

[Anonymous]

My wife and I both get along with our respective in-laws, sometimes better than others, but in general we all love and get along well.

The key for us is communication. If there is something that bothers us, we communicate. If it's something we don't feel comfortable saying directly, the spouse who is the family member of that in-law(s) is the go-between. I've often communicated things that bother my wife to my parents or siblings to work things out and she's done the same for me. For us, it's easier for the spouse to convey to his/her own family what's wrong and help work things out. We also all try to be a little more tolerant of each other's faults and foibles. Don't let it bottle up, but try to accept the small things and only mention the bigger issues.

[Anonymous]

I adore mine. It's my parents that are the issue.

[Anonymous]

We all get along perfectly fine and have never had an argument. I'm not BFFs with my in laws and I rarely call them, but I do make my DH call his parents, they get nice thoughtful gifts and we travel to see them frequently.