my spouse thinks I am fat

[Anonymous]

My DH no longer wants me. Actually is disgusted as he puts it. I am 130lbs, 5'4 50 years old, 3 kids, very active. I was 120 when we met, I was 23 yrs old. Feeling very insecure, my doc says I am not fat, but it is a hard pill to swallow when you spouse wants nothing to do with you sexually for over 6 months!

[Anonymous]

Something is wrong with your DH, not you. Seriously. A 10 pound weight difference over 27 years is NOTHING. Is this a sudden change from him?

[Anonymous]

well from last 6 months, no sex, no interest, mean to me because I am "fat". I am sad, not sure I am fat but beginning to feel very insecure

[Anonymous]

Sunds like there is someone else in the picture. Either that or he has some mental disorder.

[Anonymous]

Tell him you have physical needs and he isn't meeting them.

[Anonymous]

Stop giving. Your husband so much poer. He's an asshole. You're not fat.

[Anonymous]

I wish that will be me when I'm 50 years. Sounds great! Your husband is just trying to make you feel bad. Probably going through a midlife crisis and want a 22 year old chick

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Stop giving. Your husband so much poer. He's an asshole. You're not fat.

Exactly. I'm sorry.

[Anonymous]

Are your kids grown? I'd cut any asshole like that loose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sunds like there is someone else in the picture. Either that or he has some mental disorder.

Or something physical, and he needs to blame you for his impotence. Don't up with someone so nasty, OP. Affair, disorder, impotence - he needs to fix himself. 130 at 5'4" is awesome.

[Anonymous]

I'm 5'4" too -- you are not fat!! Just going by the charts, you're normal weight for that height.

Is your H 50 yrs. old as well? What grown man suddenly says his wife of 25+ years is fat when she is clearly not?

Did you discuss this with your doctor recently? He or she didn't suggest something related to your relationship, rather than discussing whether your jerk of a H is right? That seems odd to me. I think you should get some help for yourself and not worry about him. This doesn't sound right.

My ex called me fat while I was pregnant. I was about your weight (and thrilled) the year after my 2nd child. He would say things about my weight then too. Those were his insecurities, but I never thought I was fat b/c he said it. You are internalizing this and that is a concern. Is he overweight?

[Anonymous]

OP is a troll, guys. There's hardly a difference between 120 and 130 at 5'4" unless you have literally no boobs or ass (and hell, the extra 10 pounds can make you look better since it tends to enhance T&A anyway).

[Anonymous]

I am no troll. My spouse is extreme ly fit and I guess he expects same from me. To the others. Thanks. I am going to speak with my doc again. maybe get some therapy. I use to feel very confident about mysef and I don't like how I feel now

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am no troll. My spouse is extreme ly fit and I guess he expects same from me. To the others. Thanks. I am going to speak with my doc again. maybe get some therapy. I use to feel very confident about mysef and I don't like how I feel now

Yeah, you're a troll. You sound like a high school student typing this up for fun. Enjoy, I guess!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Tell him you have physical needs and he isn't meeting them.

And that is the reason that you have put on weight.