How has infertility and/or loss affected your religious beliefs?

[Anonymous]

I find myself questioning everything lately. Just wondering how others cope.

[Anonymous]

I am a BIG failure when it comes to having a kid. 8 years of struggle so far and still going on. But I am not a failure when it comes to other things. I have nice parents, husband, pets and a job. God gave me some things and did not give me some other things. I am happy and thank God for what I have and trying and praying to God for what I don't have. My religious beliefs have not changed due to infertility.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a BIG failure when it comes to having a kid. 8 years of struggle so far and still going on. But I am not a failure when it comes to other things. I have nice parents, husband, pets and a job. God gave me some things and did not give me some other things. I am happy and thank God for what I have and trying and praying to God for what I don't have. My religious beliefs have not changed due to infertility.

It is not a failure to not conceive, it's an inability which could be enhanced with the help of medicine. God loves all children, no matter how they are created.

[Anonymous]

I think it's hard not to doubt yourself. Most western religion is about serving G-d -- doing good things, prayer, etc. And if you are doing good, then good things happen. But, what if it's not happening? So even with the best of intentions, it's easy to feel disconnected.

I find myself struggling with religion these days. Especially after my miscarriage. I have trouble sitting through a service without busting into tears. (I blame the meds. People must think I'm totally nuts.) I can manage my day to day, but stepping foot in a place of worship throws me through a loop. My husband claims he is in "Protest" and refuses to do anything religious. Needless to say, my religious family is not so happy about this.

Hang in there!! Know you are not alone!! If it's not working for you now then maybe that's ok. It doesn't preclude you from it in the future. Do what you can handle.

[Anonymous]

I have become more conservative about abortion and my definition of life.

[Anonymous]

agree with the pp... I've always considered myself pro choice but I feel like I'm definitely more conflicted about it after all this.

[Anonymous]

Agree with pp! I'm considering going the adoption route and find it hard not to hope that a birth mom chooses to make an adoption plan instead.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:agree with the pp... I've always considered myself pro choice but I feel like I'm definitely more conflicted about it after all this.

This is interesting to me. What about if a woman is raped or underage?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Agree with pp! I'm considering going the adoption route and find it hard not to hope that a birth mom chooses to make an adoption plan instead.

You know there are lots of kids for adoption. They're just not infants.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with pp! I'm considering going the adoption route and find it hard not to hope that a birth mom chooses to make an adoption plan instead.

You know there are lots of kids for adoption. They're just not infants.

Or white, or may have some special needs. There are lots and lots of children out there waiting for homes.

[Anonymous]

I have friends who adopted an embryo which enabled her to have the childbearing experience. I am grateful that we had a very manageable number of embryos that we could try to being to life. I would have had difficulty discarding embryos.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Agree with pp! I'm considering going the adoption route and find it hard not to hope that a birth mom chooses to make an adoption plan instead.

You know there are lots of kids for adoption. They're just not infants.

Some people can't afford adoption or infertility treatment. It sucks.

[Anonymous]

Recurrent miscarriage has shaken me to my core. All I've ever wanted to do is be a stay at home mom. Now that this plan isn't panning out I feel completely lost. Despite having a business degree I have never felt that the career track was for me, as ridiculous as that may sound. I see drug addicts and abusers with children in the news on a daily basis and it just makes me so angry. What God would allow this? I have continued to press forward with my faith and pray everything works out but the truth is that there are some couples so deserving of children that never have them. We may be one of them. Maybe God has something else planned for us but this is a completely mystery so far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Recurrent miscarriage has shaken me to my core. All I've ever wanted to do is be a stay at home mom. Now that this plan isn't panning out I feel completely lost. Despite having a business degree I have never felt that the career track was for me, as ridiculous as that may sound. I see drug addicts and abusers with children in the news on a daily basis and it just makes me so angry. What God would allow this? I have continued to press forward with my faith and pray everything works out but the truth is that there are some couples so deserving of children that never have them. We may be one of them. Maybe God has something else planned for us but this is a completely mystery so far.

Sometimes I wonder what plans does God have for us? Going back in time, everything starts feeling very strange. Our friends whom we used to hang out with gave their pregnancy news. In a week I was diagnosed with a big fibroid that had to be removed surgically. I thought maybe God is clearing the way for us and this fibroid which was a demon in the way is going away. My tubes were open and we jumped in to IUI. When all cycles failed, RE found out the tubes were blocked due to complications from fibroids. Another surgery which I took positively too. I thought once cleared we can start with IVF and that will be about it. The journey never stopped even after several IVF cycles. All other friends had kid # 2, 3... We are still where we were. What plans could God have for us? I thank HIM for everything I have but the struggle with infertility seems to overtake everything sometimes. 8 years of marriage and 0 results.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Recurrent miscarriage has shaken me to my core. All I've ever wanted to do is be a stay at home mom. Now that this plan isn't panning out I feel completely lost. Despite having a business degree I have never felt that the career track was for me, as ridiculous as that may sound. I see drug addicts and abusers with children in the news on a daily basis and it just makes me so angry. What God would allow this? I have continued to press forward with my faith and pray everything works out but the truth is that there are some couples so deserving of children that never have them. We may be one of them. Maybe God has something else planned for us but this is a completely mystery so far.

Sometimes I wonder what plans does God have for us? Going back in time, everything starts feeling very strange. Our friends whom we used to hang out with gave their pregnancy news. In a week I was diagnosed with a big fibroid that had to be removed surgically. I thought maybe God is clearing the way for us and this fibroid which was a demon in the way is going away. My tubes were open and we jumped in to IUI. When all cycles failed, RE found out the tubes were blocked due to complications from fibroids. Another surgery which I took positively too. I thought once cleared we can start with IVF and that will be about it. The journey never stopped even after several IVF cycles. All other friends had kid # 2, 3... We are still where we were. What plans could God have for us? I thank HIM for everything I have but the struggle with infertility seems to overtake everything sometimes. 8 years of marriage and 0 results.

I am sorry, PP. Hugs.