Turn taking skills and how to deal with obsessive and mean-spirited parents
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Anonymous
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I would like to think I have a polite kid most of the time. But there's one skill that my ASD 5 yr is lacking from time to time - taking turns. He does on occasion grab a toy or get in front of the line. Whenever I see it, I reprimand him and we go over again and again. We had a situation yesterday when my son cut in front of the line at an ice cream shop and was yelled at by another parent. Even when he apologized, she continued yelling. He stood there and then started yelling himself "do you like when people shout at you like THIS? IN YOUR FACE?" She then started calling him names and this is when I just couldn't take it and called her on her "excellent parenting skills" right in front of her children. Mind you, her children were much older than mine and they looked embarrassed for their mother. She stormed out of there cursing us, poor ice cream shop attendants kept apologizing to US for whatever reason.
So fellow SN parents, how do you deal with parents like that? And yes, DS was reprimanded for cutting in line and yelling because, unlike some people, we don't yell and speak calmly. |
Anonymous
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OP,
I'm sorry your kid went through that. Line cutting is a pretty minor infraction. That woman sounded unhinged to react like that. There are jerks in the world, unfortunately. |
Anonymous
| I agree with the PP. There are some people who just walk around looking for things to get angry about. This kind of thing says more about her than your child. If a child cut in front if me in line and his mother was right there to correct it, it would simply be no big deal. Even if the parent didn't correct it right away, I wouldn't blow up about it. I mean, really it is a child. A polite smile to get the mom's attention to it would be enough. |
Anonymous
| Handling a tantrum from an adult is ridiculous but use the same strategy you would for a toddler, "He apologized and I am sorry you are still upset about it. But if you feel like you need to rant and carry on further, you'll get no audience here.". Then ignore her. |
Anonymous
OP here. Thanks, PP. I know he was in the wrong and he is guilty of being impatient but for goodness sake, he didn't kill anyone for her to scream like that! |
Anonymous
I agree. I also try (when I'm calm) to consider this woman may have her own issues. I also feel sorry for her kids. |
Anonymous
+1. Don't stoop to the other person's level OP. I know it's hard but don't let them get the better of you. |
Anonymous
| This wasn't about your son, this was about that crazy woman. He apologized and you addressed the issue and he's only 5! Her kids were embarrassed because sadly they've seen her like this before. Feel sorry for this lady. |
Anonymous
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Good for your son!! to advocate for himself like that at age 5 is amazing really. Even your 5 yr old knew her behavior was inappropriate.
You were far better composed than I would have been. Honestly I think I would have hauled off and punched her. |
Anonymous
OP here: well, I really did want to punch her for all the name calling but then again, no none should their parents taken away in hand cuffs 
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Anonymous
except for that woman that is..... |
Anonymous
| Cutting in line is NOT a minor infraction. Teach your kid manners. |
Anonymous
| I'm surprised you run into situations like this often enough to need a strategy. I don't think I've ever encountered anything like this with any of my kids. |
Anonymous
Her kid is bad. That's why. It has nothing to do with his "special" need. |
Anonymous
Get the fuck off this board, you stupid skank |