Bad sex

[Anonymous]

Met someone on line who I like a lot. Seen him several times and have talked aloft by phone as I was out of town for a family emergency for two weeks. Ended up sleeping with him last night. It was not great. I have not had that many partners but he was definitely the worst. Not sure what to make of it.

Anyone have this experience? I suspect he thought it was good.

[Anonymous]

You should have spoken up.

My DH was good but not great until I spoke to him and guided him to my clit.

[Anonymous]

OP: Pick your knuckles up off the ground and try again.

[Anonymous]

I've found that the first time with someone new generally isn't great for me (female)...give it another go if he seems like a quality person. GL

[Anonymous]

Can't tell from one time. It takes time to get to know each other's bodies.

Met a woman on line years ago. Sexually charged. First time we had sex, it was a huge let down. "This is it?" A few times later and she finally opened up...spent almost 24 continuous hours in bed; best sex ever. Best. I'd give you some snippets, but we're in the non-explicit forum.

Give it a few more tries.

[Anonymous]

I think what kind of bad can indicate whether someone is trying to learn vs just bad, but this is not the forum for specifics.

[Anonymous]

Is he a good kisser and is there chemistry? For me, those two things are very important. The rest can be worked on....or at least given a second chance.

[Anonymous]

Define bad?

[Anonymous]

Why is it always the man's fault?

[Anonymous]

I would chalk it up perhaps to nerves, however he could just be inexperienced or just a bad lover.

If the sex is still awful after the next 2-3 times, then I would move on.

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship + if you compromise in this area, you will only be selling yourself short in the long run.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why is it always the man's fault?

It could just be an issue of incompatibility. It didn't have to be someone's fault.

[Anonymous]

Was like this with my husband. However, we had chemistry and still do. I've always enjoyed kissing him. Sex - he's not so great. Still isn't and something I have to live with.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would chalk it up perhaps to nerves, however he could just be inexperienced or just a bad lover.

If the sex is still awful after the next 2-3 times, then I would move on.

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship + if you compromise in this area, you will only be selling yourself short in the long run.

I think if he's a quality guy you like then you should at least show him what you like and give it all you've got.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would chalk it up perhaps to nerves, however he could just be inexperienced or just a bad lover.

If the sex is still awful after the next 2-3 times, then I would move on.

Sex is a very important part of any romantic relationship + if you compromise in this area, you will only be selling yourself short in the long run.

I think if he's a quality guy you like then you should at least show him what you like and give it all you've got.

+1 years ago I had a boyfriend who was really great, lots if chemistry...but his kisses were wet and it really turned me off. I showed him the way I like to be kissed, and things improved a great deal.

[Anonymous]

I agree with others that the first time or two can be stumbles/fumbles until you really get to know each other's bodies, etc.

However, unlike the PP, I have found that kissing is a great indicator right off the bat and that if the kissing is off, then the sex isn't likely to be better, nor have I had any luck with someone taking direction.

Worst sex partners have been people who were bad kissers...or at least, weren't my style of kisser.