I got stood up tonight!

[Anonymous]

I met a guy online who honestly seemed like a nice, down to earth guy. He initiated conversation and asked me for coffee. We were supposed to meet tonight. I drove 45 minutes away and waited 40 minutes - he never showed up! I tried texting him and received no response. I got played! Has this happened to anyone? Is this common with online dating? I feel so incredibly stupid.

[Anonymous]

Sorry, OP. don't feel stupid. You had nothing to do with it. The guys a jerk.

Pour yourself a glass of wine and raise a toast to celebrate the fact that you didn't have more time, energy and emotion invested before finding out he is an ass.

[Anonymous]

That's horrible. What a coward. Be glad you dodged a bullet.

[Anonymous]

Wow. Be glad you found out now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That's horrible. What a coward. Be glad you dodged a bullet.

+1. He let you know he is loser by his actions.

[Anonymous]

I am not sure whether or not this is common, but this is quite rude and very inconsiderate. Do you think he saw you waiting for him + decided on the spot that you were simply not "his physical type" so he just left?

Anyway, I guess this is one of the risks of online dating, but please do not let this one bad experience make you jaded. Not all guys are duds like this one and while I would be angry and hurt, I would keep trying.

Hopefully karma will get this loser and he will find himself in your shoes and get his ass stood up next time by someone.

[Anonymous]

Happened to me once. He messaged me the next day with a lame excuse/ not sure if he was married or just a big chicken. Either way, no loss. Consider yourself lucky.

[Anonymous]

I would have never waited 40 minutes, maybe 10 minutes if he calls and tells me he is on his way.

[Anonymous]

You've got mail!

[Anonymous]

He saved you a lot of time.

[Anonymous]

Don't feel stupid. Please don't let one person's assholery affect your outlook. You trusted and he wasn't worthy of your trust. That doesn't make you stupid - just human.

But I must agree with the others, too - he showed you who he is.

[Anonymous]

Agree, it's just part of the risk of on-line dating. Some people are sincere, some are not (and some are just chicken). That's why it's important to not focus on any one person, because it takes awhile to discover someone's true character. Get back in the saddle, OP!

[Anonymous]

Oh, PP again. Not a great sign that you had to travel 40 minutes to meet for the first time. Most guys who are gentlemen and interested will insist on coming to you. Lesson learned.

[Anonymous]

I'm so sorry that happened to you. What a jerk. Don't fall for any excuses of he txts you today. I online dated for several years and only had 2 bad experiences, so hopefully this won't occur for you again!

[Anonymous]

Oh no, sorry, OP. It doesn't reflect poorly on you at all.
We all encounter toads at one time or another, it's just part of the whole experience and will make for good stories down the road. The guy obviously has problems and chickened out - you were lucky!