I got stood up tonight!

[Anonymous]

Guy here. Dated a lot in the past. Been stood up at least 10 times. Just roll with it. At least you know right away that person isn't the one for you.

Once the person had a legit excuse (car crash, ended up in hospital) so I did give her another chance.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, Sorry that happened to you. I got stood up last night too. It was embarrassing. I felt like everyone knew I was stood up. I tried my best to hold my composure, even stayed a little bit and ordered a drink. I was so flushed I dropped my phone into the toilet...Ironically, the guy that was supposed to meet up with me last night texted me this morning saying he was sorry but he dropped his phone in the shower and his phone works now because he put it in a bag of rice overnight! I don't know if he's telling the truth, but he knew the place and the time, and he didn't show. His loss for sure. You definitely dodged a bullet.

He is full of shit!

I think online dating sites should let you post reviews under people's profiles, like Yelp or Redfin. I want to know if someone guy i'm interested in would stand up someone else!

OP here. Totally agree that we should be able to post reviews under the profiles!

I think you might change your mind if someone wrote a negative review about you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have been "stood up" on the first date twice, both from on line sources. I am male. Usually, I did first dates in casual settings...lunch during the work week, or something. One time, the lady could not get away, and could not get me a message -- this is before cell phones were ubiquitous. The other time, she apparently walked into a coffee shop, saw me, and walked out -- I guess she did not like what she saw.

It happens. It is not as bad as when you are getting serious with someone, and they freak out, and start standing you up. That has happened to me too.
The worst was in college...my "serious gf" attended a school about 450 miles from me. I had a long weekend, and took the bus to see her. After 16 hrs on the bus, I arrived...she knew I was coming, and found out that she was out with someone else. It was a long 16 hours back to Blacksburg.

Why do women stand dates up so often?

[Anonymous]

17:04, it's because women can get dates so easily. Being stood up is totally rude and unacceptable.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been "stood up" on the first date twice, both from on line sources. I am male. Usually, I did first dates in casual settings...lunch during the work week, or something. One time, the lady could not get away, and could not get me a message -- this is before cell phones were ubiquitous. The other time, she apparently walked into a coffee shop, saw me, and walked out -- I guess she did not like what she saw.

It happens. It is not as bad as when you are getting serious with someone, and they freak out, and start standing you up. That has happened to me too.
The worst was in college...my "serious gf" attended a school about 450 miles from me. I had a long weekend, and took the bus to see her. After 16 hrs on the bus, I arrived...she knew I was coming, and found out that she was out with someone else. It was a long 16 hours back to Blacksburg.

Why do women stand dates up so often?

PP here: I do not know, but I have some suspicions....

First, I think a woman comes in, looks at the situation, and gets a bad feeling, she leaves. We tell people to trust the gut. So, she walks into the date, and has a bad feeling...and leaves. I know I am not a threat, but I am larger, as in 6'2", and 250 lbs.

Second, some women feel a sense of entitlement to treat men like crap. They have bought into the notion that all guys are pigs.

Third, maybe they feel they can do better....

[Anonymous]

And don't drive that far for a man again unless y are in a committed monogamous relationship and he wants you to meet his family or he's has had a death in his family. Any other situation he drives

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, PP again. Not a great sign that you had to travel 40 minutes to meet for the first time. Most guys who are gentlemen and interested will insist on coming to you. Lesson learned.

This is the OP. I agree with you PP. I kept thinking to myself even before the non existent date occurred, why do I have to travel so far to meet him, especially because HE asked me. I won't do that again.

It be more equitable if the two people on a date meet somewhere mid-distance to where they live or work.

The hunt and chase is not about equality.

[Anonymous]

When I was dating DW, who live 85 miles from me, we would took turns driving, until we got physical. Since I had my own place, and she was living at home (she was 30), more often than not, she would come to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And don't drive that far for a man again unless y are in a committed monogamous relationship and he wants you to meet his family or he's has had a death in his family. Any other situation he drives

Or maybe they should try to find an equitable solution instead of simply putting it all on him.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have been "stood up" on the first date twice, both from on line sources. I am male. Usually, I did first dates in casual settings...lunch during the work week, or something. One time, the lady could not get away, and could not get me a message -- this is before cell phones were ubiquitous. The other time, she apparently walked into a coffee shop, saw me, and walked out -- I guess she did not like what she saw.

It happens. It is not as bad as when you are getting serious with someone, and they freak out, and start standing you up. That has happened to me too.
The worst was in college...my "serious gf" attended a school about 450 miles from me. I had a long weekend, and took the bus to see her. After 16 hrs on the bus, I arrived...she knew I was coming, and found out that she was out with someone else. It was a long 16 hours back to Blacksburg.

Why do women stand dates up so often?

PP here: I do not know, but I have some suspicions....

First, I think a woman comes in, looks at the situation, and gets a bad feeling, she leaves. We tell people to trust the gut. So, she walks into the date, and has a bad feeling...and leaves. I know I am not a threat, but I am larger, as in 6'2", and 250 lbs.

Second, some women feel a sense of entitlement to treat men like crap. They have bought into the notion that all guys are pigs.

Third, maybe they feel they can do better....

When you get used to thinking of yourself as a victim, it becomes easy to rationalize mistreating others.