Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

[Anonymous]

Because I didn't think my baby girl could cut it if she was one of the youngest in his class. She just wasn't quite "there" yet for K. I somewhat regretted it later when she (a) had to deal with being the first, by a fair amount, in her friend group to go through all the stages of puberty, which was rough, and (b) wound up coasting academically more than I realized and developed some bad habits that I overlooked since she was doing well on tests and grades. Freshman year was a major wake up call and a bit of a necessary blow to the ego, now Sophomore year is a C19 shitshow anyway. I don't know whether she'll get back on track and have learned her lesson, or if it's too late to really develop a strong work ethic. Two younger sibs are spring BDs, so didn't have to even think about it, but I'm also making sure they learn from their sister's experience and don't repeat that mistake of doing just enough to get by.

[Anonymous]

*his = her, oy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If we were going to redshirt our son, who turns 5 in December, it would be because he'd be one of the very youngest in his class. However, he was just diagnosed with autism, and people with autism are usually much smarter than average, especially academically. Therefore, we plan to send him to Kindergarten at 4 this fall, and feel confident that he'll throw circles around his classmates due to being autistic.

Oh my goodness, please discuss this with his developmental ped. Boys mature socially slower than girls ANYWAY, and then adding in the autism? I would NEVER send a child with autism to K at 4.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If we were going to redshirt our son, who turns 5 in December, it would be because he'd be one of the very youngest in his class. However, he was just diagnosed with autism, and people with autism are usually much smarter than average, especially academically. Therefore, we plan to send him to Kindergarten at 4 this fall, and feel confident that he'll throw circles around his classmates due to being autistic.

Oh my goodness, please discuss this with his developmental ped. Boys mature socially slower than girls ANYWAY, and then adding in the autism? I would NEVER send a child with autism to K at 4.

I'm not making this up. https://www.ancestry.com/search/categories/34/?name=Therman_Hulett&birth=1932&birth_x=0-0-0_1-0&gender=m&gender_x=1&marriage=1971&marriage_x=0-0-0_1-0&name_x=1_1&spouse=Evelyn_Mcelroy&spouse_x=1_1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

Older kids don't always outperform younger kids. My older kid is near the bottom of her class. Some of the younger ones are the stars.

Yes, but kids who are redshirted are always going to do better than they would in their age-appropriate grade.

My kid who was held back is not doing better. But thanks for playing

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

Older kids don't always outperform younger kids. My older kid is near the bottom of her class. Some of the younger ones are the stars.

Yes, but kids who are redshirted are always going to do better than they would in their age-appropriate grade.

My kid who was held back is not doing better. But thanks for playing

But he's doing better than he would be had you started him on time.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because I didn't think my baby girl could cut it if she was one of the youngest in his class. She just wasn't quite "there" yet for K. I somewhat regretted it later when she (a) had to deal with being the first, by a fair amount, in her friend group to go through all the stages of puberty, which was rough, and (b) wound up coasting academically more than I realized and developed some bad habits that I overlooked since she was doing well on tests and grades. Freshman year was a major wake up call and a bit of a necessary blow to the ego, now Sophomore year is a C19 shitshow anyway. I don't know whether she'll get back on track and have learned her lesson, or if it's too late to really develop a strong work ethic. Two younger sibs are spring BDs, so didn't have to even think about it, but I'm also making sure they learn from their sister's experience and don't repeat that mistake of doing just enough to get by.

I can't tell you if a lack of work ethic is because of kindergarten, but maybe I can help reassure you that it's possible to develop one. I failed a lot of my high school classes and even dropped out of college more than once. Around 24 or 25 (around when the frontal cortex is fully developed) or so, I suddenly was able to develop a work ethic, finish college, and I'm fairly successful now. It might just not be her time yet.

[Anonymous]

born 4 days before state's cutoff. the (private) school encouraged redshirting.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:born 4 days before state's cutoff. the (private) school encouraged redshirting.

Does it make you proud that your kid is outperforming kids a year younger than them?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

I don't think much about redshirting but I will admit the above bothers me. There is a girl who is a full year older than my daughter (they have the exact same birthday in April but one year apart), and it's kind of annoying hearing the teacher say how good the other girl is at something (and my daughter is above grade level in everything). I'm like, of course she is! There is ZERO reason she should be in this grade right now!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:born 4 days before state's cutoff. the (private) school encouraged redshirting.

Does it make you proud that your kid is outperforming kids a year younger than them?

NP. Does it make your kid proud that their parent is such an a$$?

[Anonymous]

Our child's school recommended it. He was the youngest child in Pre-K and they recommended doing a second round in Pre-K before going on to K to give him extra time on the social/emotional side. He is in private school so there is no formal cutoff, but he's an August-born boy. For better or for worse, he is among a handful of kids who turned six right before K started, so he's not in any way an outlier in his particular cohort. He has zipped ahead in some areas academically, but his class is pretty small and they already differentiate the materials for all the children and it has not been an issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

I don't think much about redshirting but I will admit the above bothers me. There is a girl who is a full year older than my daughter (they have the exact same birthday in April but one year apart), and it's kind of annoying hearing the teacher say how good the other girl is at something (and my daughter is above grade level in everything). I'm like, of course she is! There is ZERO reason she should be in this grade right now!

So the child should be punished, shunned, and ignored because of a few months age difference? If you're so confident your daughter is above in everything why do you care if another kid gets tossed a few crumbs now and again. Your post reeks of insecurity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

I don't think much about redshirting but I will admit the above bothers me. There is a girl who is a full year older than my daughter (they have the exact same birthday in April but one year apart), and it's kind of annoying hearing the teacher say how good the other girl is at something (and my daughter is above grade level in everything). I'm like, of course she is! There is ZERO reason she should be in this grade right now!

So the child should be punished, shunned, and ignored because of a few months age difference? If you're so confident your daughter is above in everything why do you care if another kid gets tossed a few crumbs now and again. Your post reeks of insecurity.

I have no skin in the game but goodness this is an unwarranted escalation. And PP does not reek of insecurity at all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

I don't think much about redshirting but I will admit the above bothers me. There is a girl who is a full year older than my daughter (they have the exact same birthday in April but one year apart), and it's kind of annoying hearing the teacher say how good the other girl is at something (and my daughter is above grade level in everything). I'm like, of course she is! There is ZERO reason she should be in this grade right now!

So the child should be punished, shunned, and ignored because of a few months age difference? If you're so confident your daughter is above in everything why do you care if another kid gets tossed a few crumbs now and again. Your post reeks of insecurity.

I have no skin in the game but goodness this is an unwarranted escalation. And PP does not reek of insecurity at all.

An adult is annoyed that a teacher gave a kid that isn't hers a compliment and that's normal? How does she know there is ZERO reason a kid is in the same grade as her special snowflake? People need to learn to mind their own business. I doubt the daughter is as put out at as the parent that the teacher praised some other kid in class.