Since this is anonymous, why did you REALLY redshirt your kid?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

But this is wrong. I redshirted my august 28th (September 1st cutoff) and she is closer to her classmates age now than she would have been had I not redshirted. The youngest child in her class was born beginning of June. The oldest is 2 weeks older than DD. Then there are several September and October birthdays... I think the median birthday in her class is January (maybe even December). My DD is with her peers now and would have been unfairly compared to much older kids has she gone the year before with a boy that was over a year older than she is and with most of her class 10-8 months older. I did not redshirt for academic or sport, but for social and emotional considerations. Had my DD been born in July or June, I would have had a harder decision to make

You are responding to the weird anti-redshirt troll. You are being rational, but the troll is not, so you aren't going to get far. Of course you are right, though.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I would've 1. known what "redshirting" even was and 2. that I would've done so.

I could see DS benefitting from it socially, emotionally, physically. Academically, he's ahead so not sure if that would've made things tricky (ex: was reading summer before Kinder, was reading Harry Potter in 1st grade so I do wonder if boredom issues would've occurred if I'd started him a year later).

I'm sorry it didn't occur to you to cheat. What a horrible parent you are playing by the rules.

Nothing will make you stop, am I right?

You've been told again and again to get therapy. I'm sure this hypercompetitive attitude of yours affects your relationships. How many times a day do you freak out when you notice yet another way someone else has an imagined advantage of your kid(s)?

[Anonymous]

If we were going to redshirt our son, who turns 5 in December, it would be because he'd be one of the very youngest in his class. However, he was just diagnosed with autism, and people with autism are usually much smarter than average, especially academically. Therefore, we plan to send him to Kindergarten at 4 this fall, and feel confident that he'll throw circles around his classmates due to being autistic.

[Anonymous]

My son has a June birthday, so redshirting never applied to us. However, I think the reason why someone would redshirt is obvious; being older than your classmates is a HUGE advantage. There has been study after study to show that older students do much better all throughout school. Of course, if you do better in school, you'll go to a better college. If you go to a better college, you'll get a better job, and if you get a better job, you'll be able afford a happier lifestyle.

This information actually raises the opposite question: Why is it that the vast majority of parents don't redshirt their kids when it'll give them a massive advantage? Like, seriously, I've only ever known 3 fall-born kids whose parents waited until they were almost 6 to send them to Kindergarten.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My son has a June birthday, so redshirting never applied to us. However, I think the reason why someone would redshirt is obvious; being older than your classmates is a HUGE advantage. There has been study after study to show that older students do much better all throughout school. Of course, if you do better in school, you'll go to a better college. If you go to a better college, you'll get a better job, and if you get a better job, you'll be able afford a happier lifestyle.

This information actually raises the opposite question: Why is it that the vast majority of parents don't redshirt their kids when it'll give them a massive advantage? Like, seriously, I've only ever known 3 fall-born kids whose parents waited until they were almost 6 to send them to Kindergarten.

That’s odd. Where do you live? In Virginia, the school cutoff of 9/30, so most fall-born kids cannot start kindergarten until they are almost six. September birthdays are the only “fall” birthdays really in question (and most of September is technically not fall).

[Anonymous]

I think it’s obvious why people redshirt. I have three boys, born in late May, January, November. The January and November birthdays are in such a better position as far as maturity, ability to sit still and focus in the early years, physical ability, academic readiness, etc. I think this is especially true because they are boys. My May birthday son has been fine, but an extra 4+ months would have been a big advantage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s obvious why people redshirt. I have three boys, born in late May, January, November. The January and November birthdays are in such a better position as far as maturity, ability to sit still and focus in the early years, physical ability, academic readiness, etc. I think this is especially true because they are boys. My May birthday son has been fine, but an extra 4+ months would have been a big advantage.

My son was born in early March... do you think he will be middle of the pack? He is 2 now. My older kids have fall birthdays and have always been older like yours

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think it’s obvious why people redshirt. I have three boys, born in late May, January, November. The January and November birthdays are in such a better position as far as maturity, ability to sit still and focus in the early years, physical ability, academic readiness, etc. I think this is especially true because they are boys. My May birthday son has been fine, but an extra 4+ months would have been a big advantage.

My son was born in early March... do you think he will be middle of the pack? He is 2 now. My older kids have fall birthdays and have always been older like yours

Yes, middle of the pack. Same for my last day of January boy. It has been fine, much better than late spring birthday for my oldest.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

Older kids don't always outperform younger kids. My older kid is near the bottom of her class. Some of the younger ones are the stars.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

Older kids don't always outperform younger kids. My older kid is near the bottom of her class. Some of the younger ones are the stars.

Yes, but kids who are redshirted are always going to do better than they would in their age-appropriate grade.

[Anonymous]

I see the disturbed anti-redshirt troll is back, poor thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

Older kids don't always outperform younger kids. My older kid is near the bottom of her class. Some of the younger ones are the stars.

It’s totally dependent on the child. The only one of our kids with a redshirt eligible birthday is bright, easy socially, and he’s 99th percentile in height. We love that he’s younger because life is too easy for him. Two of my other kids would have benefited from redshirting (one academically, one socially). Just do what’s best for your child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

Older kids don't always outperform younger kids. My older kid is near the bottom of her class. Some of the younger ones are the stars.

Two of my other kids would have benefited from redshirting (one academically, one socially).

Yeah, what a horrible parent you are for not cheating.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote: I am convinced that she’s annoyed her kid is “behind” some older classmate and she can’t get beyond it.

What's annoying is when the older kids are rewarded for outperforming the younger kids. Why should someone be rewarded for an accomplishment that was inevitable?

Older kids don't always outperform younger kids. My older kid is near the bottom of her class. Some of the younger ones are the stars.

Two of my other kids would have benefited from redshirting (one academically, one socially).

Yeah, what a horrible parent you are for not cheating.

You keep saying the word "cheating." I do not think that word means what you think it means.

[Anonymous]

DC was born (almost 4 weeks early) 2 days before our state’s cut off. If I hadn’t known the drama I would have put myself through for those two days 6 years later I would have asked for more medicine to keep things at bay for 2 more days.