Family Beach House- DS and Friends Using it for Summer.

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Anonymous wrote:$1000 isn't going to make a difference to your septic tank if its close enough to failing that 1 extra person (who is out working all day) is going to break it.

One must always look at the marginal cost vs. gain in any situation. Lets say you rented it out all summer to strangers. it sounds like a bit of a cr&phole but you could get, what, $2500/month for it? So you'd get $7500 for the summer. Since the youngsters will be living there, you're already giving up $7500. Taking his grand means you're giving up $6500. Is this marginal amount worth you acting totally unclassy and cheap?

$2500 a month for a 3 month lease on a 3 bed beach house on land?

Ahh, you're dreaming. You can't even find a 3 bed beach front house for $2500 a week on the Outer Banks (where I suspect OP's house is). And you're talking about a short term lease, which come at huge premium.

Take the shitbox listed below. It's $2900 a week. So it generates $35,000 a summer. You'd be incredibly lucky to negotiate a lease on that for $8000 a month, or a 10K discount for the entire summer. You'd have to convince the owner that your offer is better than the possibility it would sit vacant for at least three weeks, which is incredibly unlikely. Vacancy rates on the Outer Banks are in the low single digits during prime season. I don't think many of the posters here realize what a gift shed boy is being offered.

https://www.hatterasrealty.com/vacation-rentals/hunter-haven-6hhh

But your post only makes PP's point stronger. These people are supposedly giving up 35K, and they want to end a friendship and feel superior over charging $1K for a shed? Regardless of whether it is a fair price (it probably is, but who knows), it just confirms that she is petty and weird.

No, it doesn't. OP's family doesn't rent the house. If I own a $50,000 Mercedes that's sitting in my garage and give it to you for $500, that's one hell of a deal for you and doesn't make me petty.

Further, OP isn't the one ending the friendship. The rude mom of shed boy did. The onus isn't on OP to offer shed boy or his mother anything. Shed boy and his mom are entitled to exactly nothing.

I don't know if you are being daft on purpose, but that example is not at all on point. The shed is not going to be rented separately when the main house is being occupied by family. There is no marginal value to the family who owns the house. They are foregoing tens of thousands of dollars in rent to let the kids stay there, which of course they are entitled to do. But then they see an opportunity to chisel the kid's friend out of $1000 and are huffy that the mom (and probably friend) think that's bs. And the OP is surprised by that!

A better car example than the one OP gave would be if you had an empty shed on your property that you weren't using, offered to let me store my car there for a month, and then decided (after the offer was made, apparently) to charge me $1000, and then was surprised I wasn't interested in that screaming deal because houses in the area rent for $5000 a month. Of course you are entitled to do that, but that entitlement doesn't make you any less of a gauche cheapskate.

The boy won't be living in the shed anymore than the boys will be living in their bedrooms. Do you suppose the boys with bedrooms will be denied living in the house? That theyre quarantined to their rooms? No, they will use the kitchen and baths. Just like the shed boy will. The boy would be sleeping in the shed but living in the house. How is that hard to grasp?

Beside the point. If you want to charge for utilities, fine (although tacky). But the point is there is no marginal cost to letting the kid sleep in the shed, so charging $1000 is cheap and tacky. Sad that you don't see that.

It doesn't matter that he sleeps in the shed. His use of the house is the same as if he's be sleeping on the couch. In fact, he probably will sleep on the couch.

But that's the point! He doesn't add any additional cost by sleeping on the couch. It's not like they would be renting out the couch otherwise (although I guess I wouldn't put it past them). This is just trying to make money off of the kid, which is so cringey. I mean, sure, maybe charge some nominal amount for the *additional* electricity or water he'll use, but that's obviously not what is going on here. OP's family saw an opportunity to make money off of this kid and now wants everyone to say she's in the right. It's just tacky.

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Anonymous wrote:$1000 isn't going to make a difference to your septic tank if its close enough to failing that 1 extra person (who is out working all day) is going to break it.

One must always look at the marginal cost vs. gain in any situation. Lets say you rented it out all summer to strangers. it sounds like a bit of a cr&phole but you could get, what, $2500/month for it? So you'd get $7500 for the summer. Since the youngsters will be living there, you're already giving up $7500. Taking his grand means you're giving up $6500. Is this marginal amount worth you acting totally unclassy and cheap?

$2500 a month for a 3 month lease on a 3 bed beach house on land?

Ahh, you're dreaming. You can't even find a 3 bed beach front house for $2500 a week on the Outer Banks (where I suspect OP's house is). And you're talking about a short term lease, which come at huge premium.

Take the shitbox listed below. It's $2900 a week. So it generates $35,000 a summer. You'd be incredibly lucky to negotiate a lease on that for $8000 a month, or a 10K discount for the entire summer. You'd have to convince the owner that your offer is better than the possibility it would sit vacant for at least three weeks, which is incredibly unlikely. Vacancy rates on the Outer Banks are in the low single digits during prime season. I don't think many of the posters here realize what a gift shed boy is being offered.

https://www.hatterasrealty.com/vacation-rentals/hunter-haven-6hhh

But your post only makes PP's point stronger. These people are supposedly giving up 35K, and they want to end a friendship and feel superior over charging $1K for a shed? Regardless of whether it is a fair price (it probably is, but who knows), it just confirms that she is petty and weird.

No, it doesn't. OP's family doesn't rent the house. If I own a $50,000 Mercedes that's sitting in my garage and give it to you for $500, that's one hell of a deal for you and doesn't make me petty.

Further, OP isn't the one ending the friendship. The rude mom of shed boy did. The onus isn't on OP to offer shed boy or his mother anything. Shed boy and his mom are entitled to exactly nothing.

I don't know if you are being daft on purpose, but that example is not at all on point. The shed is not going to be rented separately when the main house is being occupied by family. There is no marginal value to the family who owns the house. They are foregoing tens of thousands of dollars in rent to let the kids stay there, which of course they are entitled to do. But then they see an opportunity to chisel the kid's friend out of $1000 and are huffy that the mom (and probably friend) think that's bs. And the OP is surprised by that!

A better car example than the one OP gave would be if you had an empty shed on your property that you weren't using, offered to let me store my car there for a month, and then decided (after the offer was made, apparently) to charge me $1000, and then was surprised I wasn't interested in that screaming deal because houses in the area rent for $5000 a month. Of course you are entitled to do that, but that entitlement doesn't make you any less of a gauche cheapskate.

The boy won't be living in the shed anymore than the boys will be living in their bedrooms. Do you suppose the boys with bedrooms will be denied living in the house? That theyre quarantined to their rooms? No, they will use the kitchen and baths. Just like the shed boy will. The boy would be sleeping in the shed but living in the house. How is that hard to grasp?

Beside the point. If you want to charge for utilities, fine (although tacky). But the point is there is no marginal cost to letting the kid sleep in the shed, so charging $1000 is cheap and tacky. Sad that you don't see that.

Sad that you're too dumb to see that his use of the house and its amenities (oven, stove, fridge, electricty, trash service, hot water, AC, cable, etc) is identical to that of the owner's children as well as the added cost of cooling and electrifying his own personal cabin.

Come on. The kid isn't going to be using $1000 in "amenities" above what the other kids are going to be using, so this is just a way to make a little money off of the place. But making money off of your kids' friends is tacky. Should be obvious, but I guess it isn't.

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Anonymous wrote:$1000 isn't going to make a difference to your septic tank if its close enough to failing that 1 extra person (who is out working all day) is going to break it.

One must always look at the marginal cost vs. gain in any situation. Lets say you rented it out all summer to strangers. it sounds like a bit of a cr&phole but you could get, what, $2500/month for it? So you'd get $7500 for the summer. Since the youngsters will be living there, you're already giving up $7500. Taking his grand means you're giving up $6500. Is this marginal amount worth you acting totally unclassy and cheap?

$2500 a month for a 3 month lease on a 3 bed beach house on land?

Ahh, you're dreaming. You can't even find a 3 bed beach front house for $2500 a week on the Outer Banks (where I suspect OP's house is). And you're talking about a short term lease, which come at huge premium.

Take the shitbox listed below. It's $2900 a week. So it generates $35,000 a summer. You'd be incredibly lucky to negotiate a lease on that for $8000 a month, or a 10K discount for the entire summer. You'd have to convince the owner that your offer is better than the possibility it would sit vacant for at least three weeks, which is incredibly unlikely. Vacancy rates on the Outer Banks are in the low single digits during prime season. I don't think many of the posters here realize what a gift shed boy is being offered.

https://www.hatterasrealty.com/vacation-rentals/hunter-haven-6hhh

But your post only makes PP's point stronger. These people are supposedly giving up 35K, and they want to end a friendship and feel superior over charging $1K for a shed? Regardless of whether it is a fair price (it probably is, but who knows), it just confirms that she is petty and weird.

No, it doesn't. OP's family doesn't rent the house. If I own a $50,000 Mercedes that's sitting in my garage and give it to you for $500, that's one hell of a deal for you and doesn't make me petty.

Further, OP isn't the one ending the friendship. The rude mom of shed boy did. The onus isn't on OP to offer shed boy or his mother anything. Shed boy and his mom are entitled to exactly nothing.

I don't know if you are being daft on purpose, but that example is not at all on point. The shed is not going to be rented separately when the main house is being occupied by family. There is no marginal value to the family who owns the house. They are foregoing tens of thousands of dollars in rent to let the kids stay there, which of course they are entitled to do. But then they see an opportunity to chisel the kid's friend out of $1000 and are huffy that the mom (and probably friend) think that's bs. And the OP is surprised by that!

A better car example than the one OP gave would be if you had an empty shed on your property that you weren't using, offered to let me store my car there for a month, and then decided (after the offer was made, apparently) to charge me $1000, and then was surprised I wasn't interested in that screaming deal because houses in the area rent for $5000 a month. Of course you are entitled to do that, but that entitlement doesn't make you any less of a gauche cheapskate.

The boy won't be living in the shed anymore than the boys will be living in their bedrooms. Do you suppose the boys with bedrooms will be denied living in the house? That theyre quarantined to their rooms? No, they will use the kitchen and baths. Just like the shed boy will. The boy would be sleeping in the shed but living in the house. How is that hard to grasp?

Beside the point. If you want to charge for utilities, fine (although tacky). But the point is there is no marginal cost to letting the kid sleep in the shed, so charging $1000 is cheap and tacky. Sad that you don't see that.

Sad that you're too dumb to see that his use of the house and its amenities (oven, stove, fridge, electricty, trash service, hot water, AC, cable, etc) is identical to that of the owner's children as well as the added cost of cooling and electrifying his own personal cabin.

Come on. The kid isn't going to be using $1000 in "amenities" above what the other kids are going to be using, so this is just a way to make a little money off of the place. But making money off of your kids' friends is tacky. Should be obvious, but I guess it isn't.

+1 It's like a group of guys saying "we're all driving back to school together, want a ride?" and then when the kid says yes you say "that'll be $200. What? It's cheaper than an Uber or renting a car!!"

Yes, it is possible to pay for rides places, just like it's possible to pay to rent a room. But when it's a seat/bed you weren't using, and you invited them, it's crazy to act like you're doing this person a favor on a *great deal* when you spring a charge on them.

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Anonymous wrote:$1000 isn't going to make a difference to your septic tank if its close enough to failing that 1 extra person (who is out working all day) is going to break it.

One must always look at the marginal cost vs. gain in any situation. Lets say you rented it out all summer to strangers. it sounds like a bit of a cr&phole but you could get, what, $2500/month for it? So you'd get $7500 for the summer. Since the youngsters will be living there, you're already giving up $7500. Taking his grand means you're giving up $6500. Is this marginal amount worth you acting totally unclassy and cheap?

$2500 a month for a 3 month lease on a 3 bed beach house on land?

Ahh, you're dreaming. You can't even find a 3 bed beach front house for $2500 a week on the Outer Banks (where I suspect OP's house is). And you're talking about a short term lease, which come at huge premium.

Take the shitbox listed below. It's $2900 a week. So it generates $35,000 a summer. You'd be incredibly lucky to negotiate a lease on that for $8000 a month, or a 10K discount for the entire summer. You'd have to convince the owner that your offer is better than the possibility it would sit vacant for at least three weeks, which is incredibly unlikely. Vacancy rates on the Outer Banks are in the low single digits during prime season. I don't think many of the posters here realize what a gift shed boy is being offered.

https://www.hatterasrealty.com/vacation-rentals/hunter-haven-6hhh

But your post only makes PP's point stronger. These people are supposedly giving up 35K, and they want to end a friendship and feel superior over charging $1K for a shed? Regardless of whether it is a fair price (it probably is, but who knows), it just confirms that she is petty and weird.

No, it doesn't. OP's family doesn't rent the house. If I own a $50,000 Mercedes that's sitting in my garage and give it to you for $500, that's one hell of a deal for you and doesn't make me petty.

Further, OP isn't the one ending the friendship. The rude mom of shed boy did. The onus isn't on OP to offer shed boy or his mother anything. Shed boy and his mom are entitled to exactly nothing.

I don't know if you are being daft on purpose, but that example is not at all on point. The shed is not going to be rented separately when the main house is being occupied by family. There is no marginal value to the family who owns the house. They are foregoing tens of thousands of dollars in rent to let the kids stay there, which of course they are entitled to do. But then they see an opportunity to chisel the kid's friend out of $1000 and are huffy that the mom (and probably friend) think that's bs. And the OP is surprised by that!

A better car example than the one OP gave would be if you had an empty shed on your property that you weren't using, offered to let me store my car there for a month, and then decided (after the offer was made, apparently) to charge me $1000, and then was surprised I wasn't interested in that screaming deal because houses in the area rent for $5000 a month. Of course you are entitled to do that, but that entitlement doesn't make you any less of a gauche cheapskate.

The boy won't be living in the shed anymore than the boys will be living in their bedrooms. Do you suppose the boys with bedrooms will be denied living in the house? That theyre quarantined to their rooms? No, they will use the kitchen and baths. Just like the shed boy will. The boy would be sleeping in the shed but living in the house. How is that hard to grasp?

Beside the point. If you want to charge for utilities, fine (although tacky). But the point is there is no marginal cost to letting the kid sleep in the shed, so charging $1000 is cheap and tacky. Sad that you don't see that.

It doesn't matter that he sleeps in the shed. His use of the house is the same as if he's be sleeping on the couch. In fact, he probably will sleep on the couch.

So he gets to pay $1000 to crash on the couch? I’m not sure what is worse. Hilarious that the OP still doesn’t see how she’s in the wrong here.

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Quick scan = petty + cheap.

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Anonymous wrote:$1000 isn't going to make a difference to your septic tank if its close enough to failing that 1 extra person (who is out working all day) is going to break it.

One must always look at the marginal cost vs. gain in any situation. Lets say you rented it out all summer to strangers. it sounds like a bit of a cr&phole but you could get, what, $2500/month for it? So you'd get $7500 for the summer. Since the youngsters will be living there, you're already giving up $7500. Taking his grand means you're giving up $6500. Is this marginal amount worth you acting totally unclassy and cheap?

$2500 a month for a 3 month lease on a 3 bed beach house on land?

Ahh, you're dreaming. You can't even find a 3 bed beach front house for $2500 a week on the Outer Banks (where I suspect OP's house is). And you're talking about a short term lease, which come at huge premium.

Take the shitbox listed below. It's $2900 a week. So it generates $35,000 a summer. You'd be incredibly lucky to negotiate a lease on that for $8000 a month, or a 10K discount for the entire summer. You'd have to convince the owner that your offer is better than the possibility it would sit vacant for at least three weeks, which is incredibly unlikely. Vacancy rates on the Outer Banks are in the low single digits during prime season. I don't think many of the posters here realize what a gift shed boy is being offered.

https://www.hatterasrealty.com/vacation-rentals/hunter-haven-6hhh

But your post only makes PP's point stronger. These people are supposedly giving up 35K, and they want to end a friendship and feel superior over charging $1K for a shed? Regardless of whether it is a fair price (it probably is, but who knows), it just confirms that she is petty and weird.

No, it doesn't. OP's family doesn't rent the house. If I own a $50,000 Mercedes that's sitting in my garage and give it to you for $500, that's one hell of a deal for you and doesn't make me petty.

Further, OP isn't the one ending the friendship. The rude mom of shed boy did. The onus isn't on OP to offer shed boy or his mother anything. Shed boy and his mom are entitled to exactly nothing.

I don't know if you are being daft on purpose, but that example is not at all on point. The shed is not going to be rented separately when the main house is being occupied by family. There is no marginal value to the family who owns the house. They are foregoing tens of thousands of dollars in rent to let the kids stay there, which of course they are entitled to do. But then they see an opportunity to chisel the kid's friend out of $1000 and are huffy that the mom (and probably friend) think that's bs. And the OP is surprised by that!

A better car example than the one OP gave would be if you had an empty shed on your property that you weren't using, offered to let me store my car there for a month, and then decided (after the offer was made, apparently) to charge me $1000, and then was surprised I wasn't interested in that screaming deal because houses in the area rent for $5000 a month. Of course you are entitled to do that, but that entitlement doesn't make you any less of a gauche cheapskate.

The boy won't be living in the shed anymore than the boys will be living in their bedrooms. Do you suppose the boys with bedrooms will be denied living in the house? That theyre quarantined to their rooms? No, they will use the kitchen and baths. Just like the shed boy will. The boy would be sleeping in the shed but living in the house. How is that hard to grasp?

Beside the point. If you want to charge for utilities, fine (although tacky). But the point is there is no marginal cost to letting the kid sleep in the shed, so charging $1000 is cheap and tacky. Sad that you don't see that.

It doesn't matter that he sleeps in the shed. His use of the house is the same as if he's be sleeping on the couch. In fact, he probably will sleep on the couch.

So he gets to pay $1000 to crash on the couch? I’m not sure what is worse. Hilarious that the OP still doesn’t see how she’s in the wrong here.

Totally. I'm embarrassed for OP.

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My family had a multigenerational house on Cape Cod, shared among my family and my cousin’s families. We paid $200 a night per person to cover taxes, repairs, expenses etc, capped at a certain amount per family per summer (I think $10,000 / family but maybe more. It was really expensive to keep). It was too bad because it sort of discouraged use. Anyway, under such a scenario my family would have to have paid some amount per night for a kid using the house. Also, does the friend’s presence preclude other owners from using the house? If there are people paying the maintenance and taxes who can’t use it, or if the kids’ families who are there are paying more through taxes, electricity, mortgage... and just covering the costs for their children I think it’s reasonable for the friend to pay something too.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning. It's been in his family for three generations.

This summer our college-age DS and two of his male cousins are going to live and work at the beach. They will live in the house.

There is an extremely basic 'outbuilding' on the property. Think glorified shed. It has no bathroom, running water or kitchen. It's basically a simple bunk room with lights and a window AC that we have used as overflow bedrooms during family vacations.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

Really special? GMAF break.

You sound like a complete piece work. Your son must be (should be) mortified that you're trying to charge a friend he invited rent to live in a shack. I probably wouldn't have bothered sh!t talking behind your back, I would have just told you to shove it.

Good grief.

OP here. Found the scum. Sorry you can't appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property on the coast of NC. Too bad so sad you were raised broke (and probably in a trailer.)

Says the hypocrite charging a college kid to live in an illegal shack.

Follow NC laws, or don't charge at all, period.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning. It's been in his family for three generations.

This summer our college-age DS and two of his male cousins are going to live and work at the beach. They will live in the house.

There is an extremely basic 'outbuilding' on the property. Think glorified shed. It has no bathroom, running water or kitchen. It's basically a simple bunk room with lights and a window AC that we have used as overflow bedrooms during family vacations.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

Really special? GMAF break.

You sound like a complete piece work. Your son must be (should be) mortified that you're trying to charge a friend he invited rent to live in a shack. I probably wouldn't have bothered sh!t talking behind your back, I would have just told you to shove it.

Good grief.

OP here. Found the scum. Sorry you can't appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property on the coast of NC. Too bad so sad you were raised broke (and probably in a trailer.)

This is absolutely classic because it's not even your house, it's your husband's family's house. I am dying at you trying to act to the manor born over marrying someone with a 1/12th ownership interest in a 3/1.5 with an air conditioned shed.

This. From OP’s description, it’s tiny and run down. But in the vicinity of wealthy people, which is enough for OP.

Wrong. The OP described a lovely beach house that is the thing that people dream of owning. Did you even read the thread?

The only updates in the thread are that the house is poorly maintained and the septic tank is at its absolute limit with 4 occupants. The fact that it sits on acreage is the only thing she's said that sounds nice about it.

"My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning"

What part told you it was run down? The "really special" part or the "something you dream of owning" part? You stink of jealousy.

And for anybody prattling on about the septic tank you obviously don't know sh*t (pun intended) about them. They are rated on the number of bedrooms a home has and they have to perc (or slowly drain) at a certain rate. This is difficult to balance in low lying, sandy soil so it is an issue whether the house is a 5 million dollar mansion or a one room shack. Really, your ignorance is embarrassing.

What you've just quoted wasn't an update. That was from the first post. OP has come back several times to say that the reason they're charging this kid is because the house needs maintenance, they believe having a fourth person might overload the septic tank, etc. She said very recently that she was pushing to add additional renters this summer and use the income for deferred maintenance. Again, all of this is in updates in the thread. She called it small but special in the OP. The only update that she has posted since the OP that sounded remotely nice is that she added there is acreage. Acreage on the coast is worth something. The house doesn't sound special or nice at all.

This is rich. This poster is claiming a house she hasn't even seen isn't special or nice, despite the owner of the house describing it precisely as special and nice

Nowhere did she say the home needed lots of maintenance. She made a comment about the septic tank and that was explained by the very post you quoted but you failed to grasp it. Septic tanks are rated for bedrooms- so if you have a 4 bedroom house, its unwise to have more than 4 people using the bathrooms and kitchen.

She made no mention of painting or window replacements or redoing the roof or fixing rot or landscaping or... anything related to maintenance.

Each post just makes you look more and more jealous.

And each post just makes you look more and more like you're sock puppeting, OP.

It's obvious this is you... the writing is your MO.
Not to mention that nobody on earth would get this emotional and triggered about someone else's post, lol.

Nobody is fooled by you, you sound ridiculous.

You CANNOT charge for that illegal dwelling in NC. Do that, be prepared to pay a hefty fine when someone reports you.

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Anonymous wrote:My DH's family has a really special, small beach house on the coast of North Carolina. It's old, small (3 beds, 1.5 baths), on a beautiful piece of property and just something you dream of owning. It's been in his family for three generations.

This summer our college-age DS and two of his male cousins are going to live and work at the beach. They will live in the house.

There is an extremely basic 'outbuilding' on the property. Think glorified shed. It has no bathroom, running water or kitchen. It's basically a simple bunk room with lights and a window AC that we have used as overflow bedrooms during family vacations.

One of many of DS's DC friends wants to live there for the summer. My BILs signed off on it but want to charge a nominal $333 a month rent ($1000 for the summer) and limit it to one kid because they will all being using one septic tank. They also want the chosen kid to sign a basic lease to cover damages.

So, I brought this up to the chosen boy's mom- who I'm very friendly with but not close close.

I thought she was going to faint. Her reaction was one of disgust. She actually thought her son was going to live rent free at out family beach house for three months.

Today I heard she was bad mouthing me to other friends, calling me a cheap skate, etc.

Do I go ballistic and dis-invite the kid?

Really special? GMAF break.

You sound like a complete piece work. Your son must be (should be) mortified that you're trying to charge a friend he invited rent to live in a shack. I probably wouldn't have bothered sh!t talking behind your back, I would have just told you to shove it.

Good grief.

OP here. Found the scum. Sorry you can't appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property on the coast of NC. Too bad so sad you were raised broke (and probably in a trailer.)

Says the hypocrite charging a college kid to live in an illegal shack.

Follow NC laws, or don't charge at all, period.

+1. UC, "old money" people who "appreciate gorgeous acreage and historic property," as you seem to want to be, don't need to do this, OP.

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Was Jay Gatsby charging Klipspringer?

[Anonymous]

At first I was annoyed by the fact the boys mom was upset at being charged rent. I wouldn’t allow my kids to stay anywhere unless there was a payment or a chance for me to return the favor.

But considering it’s a damn shed, it seems petty to charge for it. Basically saying “your not welcome to stay in my shed for free....that’s for family....for you...pay”. Would be better to have discussion of keeping the property maintained. Not worth 1k to ruin relationships or show your low class part of you.

[Anonymous]

Honestly, all the boys should pay some rent and it should be put toward maintenance. But I guess ops family wants to make sure they raise entitled jerks like themselves who feel a need to assert their privilege in pretty ways.

[Anonymous]

NO way woud nonfamily use my beach house for the summer. You should shame that mom on Next Door and FaceBook. What the hell is she thinking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honestly, all the boys should pay some rent and it should be put toward maintenance. But I guess ops family wants to make sure they raise entitled jerks like themselves who feel a need to assert their privilege in pretty ways.

+1. Cringeworthy...