Guestroom situation for family gatherings. What say you?

Anonymous
Scenario: Sibling A is inviting family over (from out of town) for a holiday. They only have 1 guest room. The visitors include:

Sibling B: adult, single, who was the first confirm that they'll visit, and make reservations.

Sibling C: married, with 1 toddler (3 people); hesitated on making reservations, but decided to join and visit

Sibling C has a family, and would appreciate a guest room because they have more people and could use the privacy. Sibling B usually sleeps on the sofa, and did so for a previous/similar gathering. But would like the guest room for similar privacy/comfort reasons.

What would you suggest for a reasonable agreement?
Anonymous
This depends on a number of factors: finances, mobility, sensitivity to noise, sleep schedules, tolerance for group activities, desire to be around relatives.
Anonymous
Simple. Buy a larger house. Done.
Anonymous
Siblings shouldn't be relegated to the couch just bc they are single.

Did you tell the single sibling they could have the guest room? If so, you need to tell the other sibling, sorry, guest rooms taken! But you guys are welcome to the couch or here are hotel Suggs.
Anonymous
I think the family gets the guest room. That's how it works when I visit -- I'm the only sib with kids so far, and I appreciate my single sibs taking the couch.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Scenario: Sibling A is inviting family over (from out of town) for a holiday. They only have 1 guest room. The visitors include:

Sibling B: adult, single, who was the first confirm that they'll visit, and make reservations.

Sibling C: married, with 1 toddler (3 people); hesitated on making reservations, but decided to join and visit

Sibling C has a family, and would appreciate a guest room because they have more people and could use the privacy. Sibling B usually sleeps on the sofa, and did so for a previous/similar gathering. But would like the guest room for similar privacy/comfort reasons.

What would you suggest for a reasonable agreement?


Sibling C stays in a nearby hotel. How many bathroom does this house have? I'd imagine not enough, since there is only 1 guest room.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I think the family gets the guest room. That's how it works when I visit -- I'm the only sib with kids so far, and I appreciate my single sibs taking the couch.


Not fair - kids can sleep anywhere. Adult siblings deserve beds even if they are single.

The family should stay in a hotel.

Plus, that way the babies and kids don't bother the adults sleeping in the house.

At the very least, you should be switching off sharing the guest room.

What are you going to do when your sibs have kids? Will you go stay in a hotel so that your sibs with their kids can have the guest room?
Anonymous
Sibling with kids should stay in a hotel.

Especially if single sibling made the flight reservations because they were told they'd get the guest room.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the family gets the guest room. That's how it works when I visit -- I'm the only sib with kids so far, and I appreciate my single sibs taking the couch.


Not fair - kids can sleep anywhere. Adult siblings deserve beds even if they are single.

The family should stay in a hotel.

Plus, that way the babies and kids don't bother the adults sleeping in the house.

At the very least, you should be switching off sharing the guest room.

What are you going to do when your sibs have kids? Will you go stay in a hotel so that your sibs with their kids can have the guest room?

Meh, I don't view it that way. I think whoever has the youngest/the most kids gets the best accommodations. And I will gladly sleep on the couch/sleeping bags on the floor with my preschooler and elementary kids when that time comes. That's how my family rolls, but obvs. many are different.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:
Anonymous wrote:I think the family gets the guest room. That's how it works when I visit -- I'm the only sib with kids so far, and I appreciate my single sibs taking the couch.


Not fair - kids can sleep anywhere. Adult siblings deserve beds even if they are single.

The family should stay in a hotel.

Plus, that way the babies and kids don't bother the adults sleeping in the house.

At the very least, you should be switching off sharing the guest room.

What are you going to do when your sibs have kids? Will you go stay in a hotel so that your sibs with their kids can have the guest room?

Meh, I don't view it that way. I think whoever has the youngest/the most kids gets the best accommodations. And I will gladly sleep on the couch/sleeping bags on the floor with my preschooler and elementary kids when that time comes. That's how my family rolls, but obvs. many are different.


Of course you don't view it that way - you are not the one sleeping on the couch!
Anonymous
First to RSVP gets the guest room. Single non parents don't always want to be relegated to the couch.
Anonymous
This is the entire reason we don't like to visit my inlaws. They won't tell you where you are sleeping until you get there, nor will they tell you who else is coming. Last time we told them we were not coming unless our family (of 4) was guaranteed the guest room. They said yes, we drove 7 hours only to find they had given the guest room to some friends of theirs. They seemed utterly baffled as to why we were annoyed.
Anonymous
Sibling c, since three people will be using the room. But the most comfortable would be for someone to stay in a hotel, and maybe b and c split the cost of the room regardless of which one stays at the hotel?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This is the entire reason we don't like to visit my inlaws. They won't tell you where you are sleeping until you get there, nor will they tell you who else is coming. Last time we told them we were not coming unless our family (of 4) was guaranteed the guest room. They said yes, we drove 7 hours only to find they had given the guest room to some friends of theirs. They seemed utterly baffled as to why we were annoyed.


Dafuq?!

From now on just book a hotel room, no matter what they tell you.
Anonymous
Huh? You can't sleep on the sofa with a toddler. It's simply impossible. They go to bed earlier, and need a quiet room and a bedtime routine, otherwise you'll have a toddler who's up all night and then driving you crazy the rest of the visit. And sorry if this is a stupid question but, how are 2 adults and a toddler going to share a couch?

The single sibling will have to take the couch. If comfort is an issue, buy an aerobed.
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