Guestroom situation for family gatherings. What say you?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This is the entire reason we don't like to visit my inlaws. They won't tell you where you are sleeping until you get there, nor will they tell you who else is coming. Last time we told them we were not coming unless our family (of 4) was guaranteed the guest room. They said yes, we drove 7 hours only to find they had given the guest room to some friends of theirs. They seemed utterly baffled as to why we were annoyed.

You guys are dolts! Why do you play their little game? IF you can afford a hotel, book it and stay there. If you can't, then DON'T GO since you don't have accommodations.

From now on we will. It's just so annoying. They are constantly saying how we never visit. Last time we went up (for a family event) there were 4 other adults staying there besides our family and my inlaws. It's an 1800sf 3br. house. The only other person we thought was coming was single BIL who will sleep anywhere and truly doesn't care. The other three (married couple and widowed uncle) were a complete shock. Widowed uncle was pissed too because when they invited him to stay, they didn't tell him about everyone else. They are clueless. They think a spot of bare carpet = room for more people. They are offended when people offer to stay in hotels. Another aunt/uncle always stay in a hotel and the inlaws make it clear they disapprove,

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This is the entire reason we don't like to visit my inlaws. They won't tell you where you are sleeping until you get there, nor will they tell you who else is coming. Last time we told them we were not coming unless our family (of 4) was guaranteed the guest room. They said yes, we drove 7 hours only to find they had given the guest room to some friends of theirs. They seemed utterly baffled as to why we were annoyed.

You guys are dolts! Why do you play their little game? IF you can afford a hotel, book it and stay there. If you can't, then DON'T GO since you don't have accommodations.

From now on we will. It's just so annoying. They are constantly saying how we never visit. Last time we went up (for a family event) there were 4 other adults staying there besides our family and my inlaws. It's an 1800sf 3br. house. The only other person we thought was coming was single BIL who will sleep anywhere and truly doesn't care. The other three (married couple and widowed uncle) were a complete shock. Widowed uncle was pissed too because when they invited him to stay, they didn't tell him about everyone else. They are clueless. They think a spot of bare carpet = room for more people. They are offended when people offer to stay in hotels. Another aunt/uncle always stay in a hotel and the inlaws make it clear they disapprove,

They need to get over it. I would not tolerate such fuckery. You're there to spend time with them, not play sleepover.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:First to RSVP gets the guest room. Single non parents don't always want to be relegated to the couch.

Agreed. If I was the first to RSVP and then found out I was demoted to the couch because my sibling who had more kids finally decided to join, I would leave.

Really? I can't imagine anyone in my family acting like this. We would all give up the guest room to the group that needed it most.

FWIW, none of us have a guestroom. We tend to use the living rooms and family rooms. We put out blow up mattresses and sleeping bags and we push furniture together. Then we congregate in the kitchen and deck so guests can keep their stuff out instead of having to clean it up. I would so much rather be inconvenienced than not see my family.

I am the PP you responded to, and I don't think a single person needs a private room less than people with kids. Privacy is highly valued, and if mine is not respected but others' is, I don't see any reason to stay.

In my family, if you were this fragile, then you would get the best room. We'd do that for you because we value our time together and we don't want anyone to be uncomfortable. The rest of us would make do.

Thank you! I would appreciate it.

[Anonymous]

OK, I think PPs that are saying "people who need it most should get the room" are absolutely correct. Sib C has a TODDLER. If the kid were older, then yes, it would probably be ok if Sib C and family slept on the couch/floor/air mattress. Single sib won't be relegated to the couch for all eternity, just until the kid is older that's all.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, I think PPs that are saying "people who need it most should get the room" are absolutely correct. Sib C has a TODDLER. If the kid were older, then yes, it would probably be ok if Sib C and family slept on the couch/floor/air mattress. Single sib won't be relegated to the couch for all eternity, just until the kid is older that's all.

SO WHAT?
You choose to have the kid, choose a hotel room if your toddler is such a snowflake they can't sleep on a couch or pallet on the floor.

[Anonymous]

I agree that OPs family should bunk up so all guests can have a bed. Move kids together or put the kids on the floor in the master bedroom.

Sleeping in the common living space and not having any privacy, any space of your own, anywhere to put your things, anywhere to go when you need a moment of peace, no control over your bedtime, and needing to pack up all your things and turn the couch bed back into the living room couch doesn't make for a great holiday.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depending on the age of the kids, they are more sensitive to changes in the sleep routine. My 3 year old is used to sleeping on a bed. I have no idea how he would fare on a couch or the floor.

Then stay home. Seriously. You put an ADULT on the couch because you "don't know" how they'd be? Find out or stay home. Or get a hotel room so the only ones whose sleep is disturbed by your kid's inability to go with the flow is you, and not an entire household. Man, this stuff drives me nuts.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depending on the age of the kids, they are more sensitive to changes in the sleep routine. My 3 year old is used to sleeping on a bed. I have no idea how he would fare on a couch or the floor.

Then stay home. Seriously. You put an ADULT on the couch because you "don't know" how they'd be? Find out or stay home. Or get a hotel room so the only ones whose sleep is disturbed by your kid's inability to go with the flow is you, and not an entire household. Man, this stuff drives me nuts.

Wow, you sound really angry. Do you even have kids? Glad you aren't in my family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree that OPs family should bunk up so all guests can have a bed. Move kids together or put the kids on the floor in the master bedroom.

Sleeping in the common living space and not having any privacy, any space of your own, anywhere to put your things, anywhere to go when you need a moment of peace, no control over your bedtime, and needing to pack up all your things and turn the couch bed back into the living room couch doesn't make for a great holiday.

THIS.
And speaking as the 'single' sib (engaged but younger sis lives at home and older sis has a kid and husband) my fiancé and I are constantly put on the floor or couch...

When we decide to go visit and someone lets my sister know she makes she her and baby go up to visit at the same time and take the extra bedroom... She always says 'well you don't mind, do you? the couch is very comfortable'

Um, not really... And there's two of us so one gets the floor and we both share the pleasure of hearing you get up with you kid and make bottles through the night and then a wake up time of 6am....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Depending on the age of the kids, they are more sensitive to changes in the sleep routine. My 3 year old is used to sleeping on a bed. I have no idea how he would fare on a couch or the floor.

+1

DS sleeps best when he's on 600 threadcount bedding similar to the Viceroy hotel we stayed at, so we mimic that at home and ask everyone to accommodate when we travel, because we believe it's more important to cater to DS's VERY SPECIFIC sleep comfort levels, than encourage DS to be an adaptable human being, especially to grownups and elders.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depending on the age of the kids, they are more sensitive to changes in the sleep routine. My 3 year old is used to sleeping on a bed. I have no idea how he would fare on a couch or the floor.

+1

DS sleeps best when he's on 600 threadcount bedding similar to the Viceroy hotel we stayed at, so we mimic that at home and ask everyone to accommodate when we travel, because we believe it's more important to cater to DS's VERY SPECIFIC sleep comfort levels, than encourage DS to be an adaptable human being, especially to grownups and elders.

Ha, You win the internet today

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Depending on the age of the kids, they are more sensitive to changes in the sleep routine. My 3 year old is used to sleeping on a bed. I have no idea how he would fare on a couch or the floor.

Then stay home. Seriously. You put an ADULT on the couch because you "don't know" how they'd be? Find out or stay home. Or get a hotel room so the only ones whose sleep is disturbed by your kid's inability to go with the flow is you, and not an entire household. Man, this stuff drives me nuts.

Me too, pp!!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Depending on the age of the kids, they are more sensitive to changes in the sleep routine. My 3 year old is used to sleeping on a bed. I have no idea how he would fare on a couch or the floor.

+1

DS sleeps best when he's on 600 threadcount bedding similar to the Viceroy hotel we stayed at, so we mimic that at home and ask everyone to accommodate when we travel, because we believe it's more important to cater to DS's VERY SPECIFIC sleep comfort levels, than encourage DS to be an adaptable human being, especially to grownups and elders.

ANEN!!
Can we be friends?!

[Anonymous]

I just don't understand why you don't stay in a hotel. I think all of you who are complaining just like to be martyrs!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I just don't understand why you don't stay in a hotel. I think all of you who are complaining just like to be martyrs!

And be bullied by their families. "But my mommy gets MAD when we stay in a hotel!" Who tolerates this shit?