Would this be the final straw for you to file divorce papers?

[Anonymous]

Married 15 years, one child. DH couldn't manage money to save his butt - money has always been an issue with us. I cannot take a Spring Break trip because of a work commitment so he is going with DD. They will be meeting friends of ours whose children go to the same school as DD. Anyway, I left it to him to book the trip so he went to AAA and I covered the bill so his credit card would have money on it when he is on the trip.

Tonight, I looked through the vacation papers and noticed that for the flight going down to the trip, he booked first class. I asked him how much extra first class is and he said, I don't know. So I said to him, you booked it and you had no idea how much money it costs. Then I ripped him a new one. I work my ass off at work and watch what I spend and he figures no big deal if it was a few hundred more. He booked the first class because those were the only seats left on the outbound flight.

As you can imagine, this is not the first money argument we have had. But I am so pissed I am literally considering seeing a lawyer when they are gone and figuring out how to begin proceedings. DD is two years from college and personally, if I have to rent an apartment to keep her in the school district and split our assets, I don't give a flying whatever.

Think I am overacting? I have heard of people who were pushed one time too far and just said, done, outa here.

[Anonymous]

maybe seek a marriage counselor before hitting that D button. I agree...I would have fire coming out of my ears if DH did this, but it's not like he cheated or beat you or the kids. That would be first and last straw.

[Anonymous]

Consistent disputes over finances is a serious problem. However, I recommend counseling and an ultimatum - that if he doesn't start to compromise and learn to accommodate your wishes and save more, then separation might be on the table.

[Anonymous]

Cut off his access to the money. Divorce him.

[Anonymous]

Cut off his access to the money. Divorce him. NOBODY books first class these days! Crazy!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Consistent disputes over finances is a serious problem. However, I recommend counseling and an ultimatum - that if he doesn't start to compromise and learn to accommodate your wishes and save more, then separation might be on the table.

OP, I should have mentioned that he thinks marriage counseling is a complete waste of effort.

[Anonymous]

Try counseling. Disagreements over money is one, if not the, leading causes of divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Cut off his access to the money. Divorce him.

OP - we already have separate checkbooks. He doesn't understand the concept of a bank balance not including deductions for checks that did not clear.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cut off his access to the money. Divorce him.

OP - we already have separate checkbooks. He doesn't understand the concept of a bank balance not including deductions for checks that did not clear.

Is he special ed?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cut off his access to the money. Divorce him.

OP - we already have separate checkbooks. He doesn't understand the concept of a bank balance not including deductions for checks that did not clear.

Then get different credit cards, as well. Have all finances separate. My friend's ex thought counseling was useless, too, until she told him she wanted a divorce. Then he thought counseling was a great idea. Too bad for him she was no longer interested in counseling either, hence the ex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Cut off his access to the money. Divorce him.

OP - we already have separate checkbooks. He doesn't understand the concept of a bank balance not including deductions for checks that did not clear.

Then get different credit cards, as well. Have all finances separate. My friend's ex thought counseling was useless, too, until she told him she wanted a divorce. Then he thought counseling was a great idea. Too bad for him she was no longer interested in counseling either, hence the ex.

Op - like this story for whatever reason. They are leaving on Friday and one thing I don't want to do is yell anymore because DD is really looking forward to the trip. He is a good dad and she loves him. The problem is, the "husband piece" of him isn't as great.

[Anonymous]

You've been married for 15 years, and you know he is an idiot with money. Why on earth would you give him the task of booking a vacation??? of course he would mess it up. Duh. Sounds like you love the drama and need something to yell about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've been married for 15 years, and you know he is an idiot with money. Why on earth would you give him the task of booking a vacation??? of course he would mess it up. Duh. Sounds like you love the drama and need something to yell about.

OK, color me a dumbass. I have been traveling and working Mega hours and was hoping a grown man could make an adult decision.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You've been married for 15 years, and you know he is an idiot with money. Why on earth would you give him the task of booking a vacation??? of course he would mess it up. Duh. Sounds like you love the drama and need something to yell about.

+1 also, if it's a domestic flight, first class may can be relatively inexpensive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You've been married for 15 years, and you know he is an idiot with money. Why on earth would you give him the task of booking a vacation??? of course he would mess it up. Duh. Sounds like you love the drama and need something to yell about.

OK, color me a dumbass. I have been traveling and working Mega hours and was hoping a grown man could make an adult decision.

No, you set yourself up for this one. You know he sucks with money. You can't give him a credit card and hope for the best. I have the same sort of marriage, but recognizing my spouse for who she is, I deal with all of the money matters.