The Kane Show (Part 4)

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a week of me.
by NATASHA on MARCH 28, 2016
in MOMMY BLOG

*sigh* Right about now I’m guessing my girls are waiting in line for a ride on Aladdin’s magic carpet…for the 7th time in a row.

We agreed P would have Spring Break this year so he took the little princesses to their mother ship, Disney.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely grateful that not only can Sam & Soph spend their Spring Break at their favorite place on Earth but they have a Dad who wanted & could take them there. I would have loved that when I was their age, it’s a good thing. I just miss them. A lot.

I knew this trip was coming so I had plenty of time to prepare myself. I thought about going to Florida & visiting my family, but the thought of being only 45 minutes away from my girls, and I can’t be there with them, I thought it would be too hard.

One bright spot of being in your 30’s, at least for me, is I’m getting to know myself better. I’m starting to be honest with myself about who I am & what my weaknesses are. When life gets tough I know I have tendency to hideout in my shell. Being by yourself or staying home an entire day, or even days, can be a good thing. Sometimes it’s ok to not want to talk to anyone, to just be quiet with yourself, but it can also be dangerous. Well, that might be a bit dramatic although I suppose anything in excess can be “dangerous”. Regardless I’m forcing myself to make this week count & to not let it be 7 days which I just have to get through.

The girls got a little weepy before they left & I sensed that they might even be a little worried about how hard a week apart might be on their mom. I certainly want them to enjoy this time, it’d be bad parenting to say the least if I fed into that worry & allowed an unspoken guilt trip to take away from their vacation. So instead I assured them that I was going to be super busy & it was going to be a good week for me as well. I also rattled off a few chores like “carpet shampooing” & “cleaning out the refrigerator” so they wouldn’t feel like they were missing out on anything. Of course the truth is a week apart is hard on me, what parent wouldn’t feel that way? So this week I am going to make myself do those boring grownup responsibilities like cleaning out the girls’ closets & yes, I am actually going to shampoo the carpets, (Wow, lol, I just realized how incredibly sad that sounds!) but I also thought it would be a good idea to spend some time doing a little mental house cleaning. That includes not only reflecting on this past year (I actually don’t want to do any more of that) but also seriously thinking about what I want the upcoming year to look like. What the heck am I going to do with my life now? I was really happy being a SAHM & if this divorce had never happened I would have thought I was pretty confidant of what the future might look like. I had thought about maybe having another baby, & with Sophie starting school it could have been a good time for that. I’m 35 with no real career to fall back on & two children. Wow. That was a scary thing to say out loud! I immediately had a reflex to delete that statement but then I thought, “you can’t delete that, because no matter how brutal it sounds to you, it’s the truth.” Thirty five is still the age they start considering you a high risk pregnancy right? This May I’ll be passing right on by the marker of my fertility expiration date & since I have ZERO intention on getting into a serious relationship anytime in the near future, my eggs are moving from the refrigerator to the freezer. Ugh.

I do have faith & hope that in hindsight one day I’ll understand why life took this path or at the least it will make a little sense. For today however the road ahead seems covered with fog & the only thing I can do is be willing to let God lead me in the right direction.

There is one thing I know I won’t be doing this week or anytime soon, & that’s sharing anything negative about P.

A few of you commented on social media that my last post wasn’t just telling you about an awful ordeal I had been through but that it was sad to see me ‘hit back’ with the man who isn’t just my ex, he’s my girls’ father. And you’re 100% right. Sometimes I forget how public the internet is, as stupid as that sounds. Dragging P through the mud isn’t just inappropriate because he’s their dad, it’s dragging me down as a person as well. It’s not who I want to be. Not who I want my daughters to see me as, and not how I want to be an example. Like it or not, the way we have and are handling our divorce is an example to others & while I want to be transparent, (and plan on continuing to be) I also want to be a good example. To you and to them.

SO. Where does that leave us? Well, it leads me with a list of Monday’s ‘to-do’s’ & I’m only half way through. Although I can now cross off posting this. (;

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Funny how her being a SAHM was a major topic of discussion about a week or week and a half ago in this thread, and now she's basically reciting all the points we made in her blog post.

anyone else think maybe she would be better off being the writer instead of danni? then london can just be the vacation time it should be instead of trying to make it into something it shouldnt be.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"
a week of me.
by NATASHA on MARCH 28, 2016
in MOMMY BLOG

*sigh* Right about now I’m guessing my girls are waiting in line for a ride on Aladdin’s magic carpet…for the 7th time in a row.

We agreed P would have Spring Break this year so he took the little princesses to their mother ship, Disney.

Don’t get me wrong, I’m extremely grateful that not only can Sam & Soph spend their Spring Break at their favorite place on Earth but they have a Dad who wanted & could take them there. I would have loved that when I was their age, it’s a good thing. I just miss them. A lot.

I knew this trip was coming so I had plenty of time to prepare myself. I thought about going to Florida & visiting my family, but the thought of being only 45 minutes away from my girls, and I can’t be there with them, I thought it would be too hard.

One bright spot of being in your 30’s, at least for me, is I’m getting to know myself better. I’m starting to be honest with myself about who I am & what my weaknesses are. When life gets tough I know I have tendency to hideout in my shell. Being by yourself or staying home an entire day, or even days, can be a good thing. Sometimes it’s ok to not want to talk to anyone, to just be quiet with yourself, but it can also be dangerous. Well, that might be a bit dramatic although I suppose anything in excess can be “dangerous”. Regardless I’m forcing myself to make this week count & to not let it be 7 days which I just have to get through.

The girls got a little weepy before they left & I sensed that they might even be a little worried about how hard a week apart might be on their mom. I certainly want them to enjoy this time, it’d be bad parenting to say the least if I fed into that worry & allowed an unspoken guilt trip to take away from their vacation. So instead I assured them that I was going to be super busy & it was going to be a good week for me as well. I also rattled off a few chores like “carpet shampooing” & “cleaning out the refrigerator” so they wouldn’t feel like they were missing out on anything. Of course the truth is a week apart is hard on me, what parent wouldn’t feel that way? So this week I am going to make myself do those boring grownup responsibilities like cleaning out the girls’ closets & yes, I am actually going to shampoo the carpets, (Wow, lol, I just realized how incredibly sad that sounds!) but I also thought it would be a good idea to spend some time doing a little mental house cleaning. That includes not only reflecting on this past year (I actually don’t want to do any more of that) but also seriously thinking about what I want the upcoming year to look like. What the heck am I going to do with my life now? I was really happy being a SAHM & if this divorce had never happened I would have thought I was pretty confidant of what the future might look like. I had thought about maybe having another baby, & with Sophie starting school it could have been a good time for that. I’m 35 with no real career to fall back on & two children. Wow. That was a scary thing to say out loud! I immediately had a reflex to delete that statement but then I thought, “you can’t delete that, because no matter how brutal it sounds to you, it’s the truth.” Thirty five is still the age they start considering you a high risk pregnancy right? This May I’ll be passing right on by the marker of my fertility expiration date & since I have ZERO intention on getting into a serious relationship anytime in the near future, my eggs are moving from the refrigerator to the freezer. Ugh.

I do have faith & hope that in hindsight one day I’ll understand why life took this path or at the least it will make a little sense. For today however the road ahead seems covered with fog & the only thing I can do is be willing to let God lead me in the right direction.

There is one thing I know I won’t be doing this week or anytime soon, & that’s sharing anything negative about P.

A few of you commented on social media that my last post wasn’t just telling you about an awful ordeal I had been through but that it was sad to see me ‘hit back’ with the man who isn’t just my ex, he’s my girls’ father. And you’re 100% right. Sometimes I forget how public the internet is, as stupid as that sounds. Dragging P through the mud isn’t just inappropriate because he’s their dad, it’s dragging me down as a person as well. It’s not who I want to be. Not who I want my daughters to see me as, and not how I want to be an example. Like it or not, the way we have and are handling our divorce is an example to others & while I want to be transparent, (and plan on continuing to be) I also want to be a good example. To you and to them.

SO. Where does that leave us? Well, it leads me with a list of Monday’s ‘to-do’s’ & I’m only half way through. Although I can now cross off posting this. (;

"

Funny how her being a SAHM was a major topic of discussion about a week or week and a half ago in this thread, and now she's basically reciting all the points we made in her blog post.

anyone else think maybe she would be better off being the writer instead of danni? then london can just be the vacation time it should be instead of trying to make it into something it shouldnt be.

Oh, absolutely. I wouldn't say she should write an autobiography, but I think she could probably be a great fiction writer. I would think most people who take the time to maintain a blog have some sort of interest or passion for it.

[Anonymous]

Natasha +infinity for not getting into the Danni drama. Smart decision.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Natasha needs to stop analyzing, stop introspection, find a job. Not even trying to be harsh but a lot of what she complains about (how to fill her days while missing the girls, her life lacking the purpose/direction it had before) would be remedied by building a career for herself. Even a part time gig at a craft store or a barn. I hope she actually does it and proves the people who called her a golddigger wrong.

I'm not the biggest fan of hers or Danni's but I will say that during my separation my lawyer said I should not get a job until after the divorce. I was a SAHM too at the time but if I would have gone out and gotten a job right away then it wouldve messed with how much alimony i got. Like if youre making a decent salary than your ex doesn't need to give you that much. With his recentdisney pic it certainly doesn't seem like she needs to run out and get a job to help pay the bills. maybe its good she can still be home with the kids for now. less change for them. IMO

Disagree with you (respectfully!) but I understand that perspective. My point of view is she should want to earn a living. Making a career for herself would improve her self esteem and give her an outlet for the 1/2 of the time she doesn't have the girls. Yes, she is entitled to something since she was a SAHM, but she also needs to pull her weight now. That means coming to terms with moving to a smaller (but I'm sure still very nice) house and getting a job. Hopefully she realizes that many women don't have the luxury of having an ex who pulls in as much money as Kane.

Agree wholeheartedly.

true. but if they do have the money then why should she 'pull her weight' now. that's insinuating that when they were married and she was a SAHM she wasnt pulling her weight.?! i certainly hope you dont think that. you'll get pitchforks thrown at you! anyways are they even divorced yet? i just dont get how if they dont need the money (which amen, most women do NOT have the luxury of having) the benifet outweighs the downsides of her no longer staying home with there kids would cause. maybe thats just me.

[Anonymous]

I wonder if Peter saying they'll be live all this week is on the Friday podcast? It doesn't seem like they were planning live shows if John is in MN and Peter is at Disney with his kids.

[Anonymous]

It was a topic a couple of pages back, but I just want to say one thing... Unless someone can cite something I may have missed, I don't think Danni EVER alluded to not having enough money short-term to support her kids...

I know she mentioned a college fund for them (obviously long-term), PLUS we have more-or-less concluded that though she is not on the show anymore, she is still getting a paycheck based on the contract she signed about 6 months ago, that I think still goes for 2.5 MORE years.

Let's be honest... she probably made (and STILL makes) pretty decent money, especially with TLC. I don't think she is hurting for money NOW, but basically said that she needs to hustle for her financial longevity.

A $2,000 trip to London isn't going to break the savings bank...

On that same note, I still think the trip is childish (financials aside). To go away from your kids on Easter just seems... IDK the right word, but not right.

Additionally, her posts indicate she has gone through some sort of additional awakening (like her tree house trip) being in London. Umm, yeah, ANYONE would feel exhilarated and get a new wind and appreciation for life and hunger to be a part of something as glamorous and awesome as a place like London while not having kids and responsibility... But wake up Danni... Life isn't glamorous ALL the time for 99.99% of people. Once you get to be 30+ and have kids, your life is committed to them and there is not much room for glamour.

I feel like all of this is a microcosm for what caused her divorce... She is semi-famous and had touches of glamorous things in her life, but when she went home to her mundane husband and kids, she thought she deserved better or something. I have always felt that her life is just never going to be as cool or as much as she wants it to be.

Danni, sorry, but stop chasing unrealistic dreams. Everything that should "give you life" is back at home spending Easter without their mamma.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Natasha needs to stop analyzing, stop introspection, find a job. Not even trying to be harsh but a lot of what she complains about (how to fill her days while missing the girls, her life lacking the purpose/direction it had before) would be remedied by building a career for herself. Even a part time gig at a craft store or a barn. I hope she actually does it and proves the people who called her a golddigger wrong.

I'm not the biggest fan of hers or Danni's but I will say that during my separation my lawyer said I should not get a job until after the divorce. I was a SAHM too at the time but if I would have gone out and gotten a job right away then it wouldve messed with how much alimony i got. Like if youre making a decent salary than your ex doesn't need to give you that much. With his recentdisney pic it certainly doesn't seem like she needs to run out and get a job to help pay the bills. maybe its good she can still be home with the kids for now. less change for them. IMO

Disagree with you (respectfully!) but I understand that perspective. My point of view is she should want to earn a living. Making a career for herself would improve her self esteem and give her an outlet for the 1/2 of the time she doesn't have the girls. Yes, she is entitled to something since she was a SAHM, but she also needs to pull her weight now. That means coming to terms with moving to a smaller (but I'm sure still very nice) house and getting a job. Hopefully she realizes that many women don't have the luxury of having an ex who pulls in as much money as Kane.

Agree wholeheartedly.

true. but if they do have the money then why should she 'pull her weight' now. that's insinuating that when they were married and she was a SAHM she wasnt pulling her weight.?! i certainly hope you dont think that. you'll get pitchforks thrown at you! anyways are they even divorced yet? i just dont get how if they dont need the money (which amen, most women do NOT have the luxury of having) the benifet outweighs the downsides of her no longer staying home with there kids would cause. maybe thats just me.

They had all that money for one household... Now there will be 2. Not fair (IMO) to expect Kane to live in a condo for the rest of his life while Natasha lives in a million dollar house. Just an unfortunate reality of divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if Peter saying they'll be live all this week is on the Friday podcast? It doesn't seem like they were planning live shows if John is in MN and Peter is at Disney with his kids.

umm, yeah. kind of put 2 and 2 together with them both being in other states.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Natasha needs to stop analyzing, stop introspection, find a job. Not even trying to be harsh but a lot of what she complains about (how to fill her days while missing the girls, her life lacking the purpose/direction it had before) would be remedied by building a career for herself. Even a part time gig at a craft store or a barn. I hope she actually does it and proves the people who called her a golddigger wrong.

I'm not the biggest fan of hers or Danni's but I will say that during my separation my lawyer said I should not get a job until after the divorce. I was a SAHM too at the time but if I would have gone out and gotten a job right away then it wouldve messed with how much alimony i got. Like if youre making a decent salary than your ex doesn't need to give you that much. With his recentdisney pic it certainly doesn't seem like she needs to run out and get a job to help pay the bills. maybe its good she can still be home with the kids for now. less change for them. IMO

Disagree with you (respectfully!) but I understand that perspective. My point of view is she should want to earn a living. Making a career for herself would improve her self esteem and give her an outlet for the 1/2 of the time she doesn't have the girls. Yes, she is entitled to something since she was a SAHM, but she also needs to pull her weight now. That means coming to terms with moving to a smaller (but I'm sure still very nice) house and getting a job. Hopefully she realizes that many women don't have the luxury of having an ex who pulls in as much money as Kane.

Agree wholeheartedly.

true. but if they do have the money then why should she 'pull her weight' now. that's insinuating that when they were married and she was a SAHM she wasnt pulling her weight.?! i certainly hope you dont think that. you'll get pitchforks thrown at you! anyways are they even divorced yet? i just dont get how if they dont need the money (which amen, most women do NOT have the luxury of having) the benifet outweighs the downsides of her no longer staying home with there kids would cause. maybe thats just me.

They had all that money for one household... Now there will be 2. Not fair (IMO) to expect Kane to live in a condo for the rest of his life while Natasha lives in a million dollar house. Just an unfortunate reality of divorce.

he calls himself the 'mayor of bethesda' and lives in the penthouse of a new high rise thats rent costs as much as a mortgage. hes hardly struggling. why uproot the kids right away...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if Peter saying they'll be live all this week is on the Friday podcast? It doesn't seem like they were planning live shows if John is in MN and Peter is at Disney with his kids.

I listened to the first half of the show today... It was SO obviously trying to sound live but it was prerecorded... as in they didn't do "best-of"/reruns, instead they pre-taped segments that we haven't heard before. If you notice, they never once took a live caller, even at the beginning of the show. But Kane would once in a while would say "shout out to Julie who has a big exam today" and would do his ju-ju fart noise. They also told people to text in comments on their subjects (not call) but never referenced a text...

It will be interesting to see how the rest of the week goes... I mean, we now know that IJ is in MN and Kane is in Orlando... They could technically all still do they show (Kane could go down to Tampa and IJ remotes in all the time).

I just thought that was weird... Maybe they wanted to avoid the backlash they got from doing "best-ofs" during the Danni fiasco. Maybe they haven't edited "best-ofs" that don't include Danni yet.... Hmmmmm.......

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Natasha needs to stop analyzing, stop introspection, find a job. Not even trying to be harsh but a lot of what she complains about (how to fill her days while missing the girls, her life lacking the purpose/direction it had before) would be remedied by building a career for herself. Even a part time gig at a craft store or a barn. I hope she actually does it and proves the people who called her a golddigger wrong.

I'm not the biggest fan of hers or Danni's but I will say that during my separation my lawyer said I should not get a job until after the divorce. I was a SAHM too at the time but if I would have gone out and gotten a job right away then it wouldve messed with how much alimony i got. Like if youre making a decent salary than your ex doesn't need to give you that much. With his recentdisney pic it certainly doesn't seem like she needs to run out and get a job to help pay the bills. maybe its good she can still be home with the kids for now. less change for them. IMO

Disagree with you (respectfully!) but I understand that perspective. My point of view is she should want to earn a living. Making a career for herself would improve her self esteem and give her an outlet for the 1/2 of the time she doesn't have the girls. Yes, she is entitled to something since she was a SAHM, but she also needs to pull her weight now. That means coming to terms with moving to a smaller (but I'm sure still very nice) house and getting a job. Hopefully she realizes that many women don't have the luxury of having an ex who pulls in as much money as Kane.

Agree wholeheartedly.

true. but if they do have the money then why should she 'pull her weight' now. that's insinuating that when they were married and she was a SAHM she wasnt pulling her weight.?! i certainly hope you dont think that. you'll get pitchforks thrown at you! anyways are they even divorced yet? i just dont get how if they dont need the money (which amen, most women do NOT have the luxury of having) the benifet outweighs the downsides of her no longer staying home with there kids would cause. maybe thats just me.

They had all that money for one household... Now there will be 2. Not fair (IMO) to expect Kane to live in a condo for the rest of his life while Natasha lives in a million dollar house. Just an unfortunate reality of divorce.

he calls himself the 'mayor of bethesda' and lives in the penthouse of a new high rise thats rent costs as much as a mortgage. hes hardly struggling. why uproot the kids right away...

They've been separated since last June, I think. Not really an abrupt change. I'm sure they'll wait until this summer or next so a move doesn't conflict with the school year.

[Anonymous]

These UK boys got me feeling edible! They're trying to eat me up!!! I just might let um ...focus Danielle lol

[Anonymous]

^ already posted

[Anonymous]

Danni posted yet another pic of herself and here's a comment someone left:

"Who's taking all these pictures? Are you there to write your book or to take pictures? lol"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder if Peter saying they'll be live all this week is on the Friday podcast? It doesn't seem like they were planning live shows if John is in MN and Peter is at Disney with his kids.

I listened to the first half of the show today... It was SO obviously trying to sound live but it was prerecorded... as in they didn't do "best-of"/reruns, instead they pre-taped segments that we haven't heard before. If you notice, they never once took a live caller, even at the beginning of the show. But Kane would once in a while would say "shout out to Julie who has a big exam today" and would do his ju-ju fart noise. They also told people to text in comments on their subjects (not call) but never referenced a text...

It will be interesting to see how the rest of the week goes... I mean, we now know that IJ is in MN and Kane is in Orlando... They could technically all still do they show (Kane could go down to Tampa and IJ remotes in all the time).

I just thought that was weird... Maybe they wanted to avoid the backlash they got from doing "best-ofs" during the Danni fiasco. Maybe they haven't edited "best-ofs" that don't include Danni yet.... Hmmmmm.......

Yes, they are trying harder to not appear prerecorded or playing repeats, but agreed they clearly are. Sounds like they might have cut it from the replay though as I remember it being towards the very end of the show on Friday, but just skipped through the last 10 minutes or so and didn't hear them mention it. I may have missed it though.