Come here if your in laws do weird crap at thanksgiving.

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Anonymous wrote:BIL brings all his junk mail, catalogs, and old magazines to go through at my house. We are talking armloads, months worth! Not a big deal except all my trash cans are overfilled now with this heavy paper. I mean, doesn't he realize that I now have to empty the trash cans? Well, he does now. I am asking for his help.

Could you have a bonfire?

Ha ha we had a bonfire once at my IL's . It was small.... when MIL decided it was over - while we were all still sitting there - she turned the hose on and doused it. Bonfire OVER.

Old people are weird man.

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Anonymous wrote:Re: MIL chicken. Cant believe so many of you are sticking up for MIL? I assume you’re ok with people double dipping then? Or sticking their grubby paws in the bowl of chips or crackers instead of using tongs? You people are wild.

You can break apart a rotisserie chicken with a fork and knives. I do it all the time to serve it to my own family. I would never tear it up like a raccoon unless I was the only one eating it.

You are missing a ton of meat that way. I don’t get what’s so confusing to you about clean hands. THEY ARE CLEAN. This is how you remove ALL the meat from a cooked bird.

NP. I don’t know about you, but when I serve a roast chicken or a roast turkey, my goal for the first meal enjoyed by my guests is not “get all this meat off the bone, now.” It is “I’m going to nicely carve and present more than enough meat for this particular meal.”

Then, later, I will wash my hands, remove all the meat from the carcass, and store it for future use. I don’t tear apart a chicken as my guests are waiting for dinner.

Well for starters, I don't serve company a store bought rotisserie chicken that cost $6 in the first place. But yes, when I do buy rotisserie chicken, we use every last bit. First, as carved chicken. Then we use breast slices for sandwiches the next day. Then we get the remaining meat off to use for soups and casseroles. Then we make stock. I'm not at all surprised though that young parents today slice some breast meat off and chuck the rest into the trash with their empty starbucks cups and Cava bowls.

Oh, you’re one of THOSE. Settle down, MeeMaw.

This has got to be healthy piece of fruit lady.

I don’t follow either of the above.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and the smell of coffee makes me nauseous. They know this. Of course I’ve just dealt with it in the mornings, because I get that people want coffee, but DH has been opening the windows and has made sure to clean up as soon as possible to minimize the smell.

DH and I were just both upstairs helping older DD with bath/preparing for bed time, and MIL brewed a pot of coffee without asking or without warning. I’m currently gagging.

Thanks, MIL. This one time you couldn’t just skip a cup of coffee with leftover pie. Just this once, you couldn’t skip it.

This is a you problem, of course people want to drink coffee, even more coffee than usual at social gatherings. Put something scented under your nose or chew peppermint gum. I can't imagine seriously feeling it would be appropriate to expect others not to make coffee, nevermind making a big production out of others making coffee. Not reasonable at all.

Sorry but I agree. She was probably waiting for you to go upstairs thinking it would be far enough away from you not to affect your smell. People really love their coffee and some people need a pick me up in the late afternoon. I feel for you since I had three rough pregnancies with daily vomiting, but I’m team MIL on this one.

NP and disagree. The PP was being flexible by understanding that people were gonna want coffee in the morning. They could have met her halfway by skipping it at dessert. I would never be that selfish with family.

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My Father-in-law is nice in many ways. But also monologues about his preferred three-four topics. Doesn’t ask other people questions much. Stands too close and stares too much.
Asks his wife to ask for or say things for him and or asks her if it’s okay if he does X,Y,Z. And no background music. Alas.

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My Father-in-law is nice in many ways. But also monologues about his preferred three-four topics. Doesn’t ask other people questions much. Stands too close and stares too much.
Asks his wife to ask for or say things for him and or asks her if it’s okay if he does X,Y,Z. And no background music. Alas.

ASD!

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Anonymous wrote:The ham and cream cheese wrapped around a pickle shows up at every church potluck here the Midwest. I’ve heard it called “Lutheran sushi.”

This is probably the mist common appetizer in the Midwest, where I'm from. I brought it to my first work potluck in DC and then was horrified when I realized half my office was Jewish and couldn't/wouldn't eat it. That the last time I made it.

Nobody is forced to eat anything, no need to be horrified! I would have enjoyed it.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m team MIL rottisorie chicken - and I’m so very rarely team MIL anything. What an odd thing to get worked up about.

Rotisserie chicken complainer must be like my in-laws. They awkwardly hold sandwiches with napkins because their hands are dirty and insist on completely peeled potatoes because potatoes are dirty. Fried chicken night has everyone eating with knife and fork, so most of the meat gets thrown out.

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My Father-in-law is nice in many ways. But also monologues about his preferred three-four topics. Doesn’t ask other people questions much. Stands too close and stares too much.
Asks his wife to ask for or say things for him and or asks her if it’s okay if he does X,Y,Z. And no background music. Alas.

ASD!

Same thought.

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I’m the OP.

We made the front page of DCUM!

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My Father-in-law is nice in many ways. But also monologues about his preferred three-four topics. Doesn’t ask other people questions much. Stands too close and stares too much.
Asks his wife to ask for or say things for him and or asks her if it’s okay if he does X,Y,Z. And no background music. Alas.

ASD!

Is that like autism?

Same thought.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and the smell of coffee makes me nauseous. They know this. Of course I’ve just dealt with it in the mornings, because I get that people want coffee, but DH has been opening the windows and has made sure to clean up as soon as possible to minimize the smell.

DH and I were just both upstairs helping older DD with bath/preparing for bed time, and MIL brewed a pot of coffee without asking or without warning. I’m currently gagging.

Thanks, MIL. This one time you couldn’t just skip a cup of coffee with leftover pie. Just this once, you couldn’t skip it.

This is a you problem, of course people want to drink coffee, even more coffee than usual at social gatherings. Put something scented under your nose or chew peppermint gum. I can't imagine seriously feeling it would be appropriate to expect others not to make coffee, nevermind making a big production out of others making coffee. Not reasonable at all.

Sorry but I agree. She was probably waiting for you to go upstairs thinking it would be far enough away from you not to affect your smell. People really love their coffee and some people need a pick me up in the late afternoon. I feel for you since I had three rough pregnancies with daily vomiting, but I’m team MIL on this one.

NP and disagree. The PP was being flexible by understanding that people were gonna want coffee in the morning. They could have met her halfway by skipping it at dessert. I would never be that selfish with family.

Coffee with dessert is an absolute in my family. Asking them to omit coffee after dinner would be like asking everyone to skip turkey for thanksgiving.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and the smell of coffee makes me nauseous. They know this. Of course I’ve just dealt with it in the mornings, because I get that people want coffee, but DH has been opening the windows and has made sure to clean up as soon as possible to minimize the smell.

DH and I were just both upstairs helping older DD with bath/preparing for bed time, and MIL brewed a pot of coffee without asking or without warning. I’m currently gagging.

Thanks, MIL. This one time you couldn’t just skip a cup of coffee with leftover pie. Just this once, you couldn’t skip it.

This is a you problem, of course people want to drink coffee, even more coffee than usual at social gatherings. Put something scented under your nose or chew peppermint gum. I can't imagine seriously feeling it would be appropriate to expect others not to make coffee, nevermind making a big production out of others making coffee. Not reasonable at all.

Sorry but I agree. She was probably waiting for you to go upstairs thinking it would be far enough away from you not to affect your smell. People really love their coffee and some people need a pick me up in the late afternoon. I feel for you since I had three rough pregnancies with daily vomiting, but I’m team MIL on this one.

NP and disagree. The PP was being flexible by understanding that people were gonna want coffee in the morning. They could have met her halfway by skipping it at dessert. I would never be that selfish with family.

I’d agree if they were all on the same floor of the house and it was the afternoon. I just don’t think anyone could predict that the smell would travel up the stairs and through walls and still be enough to make her feel sick.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant and the smell of coffee makes me nauseous. They know this. Of course I’ve just dealt with it in the mornings, because I get that people want coffee, but DH has been opening the windows and has made sure to clean up as soon as possible to minimize the smell.

DH and I were just both upstairs helping older DD with bath/preparing for bed time, and MIL brewed a pot of coffee without asking or without warning. I’m currently gagging.

Thanks, MIL. This one time you couldn’t just skip a cup of coffee with leftover pie. Just this once, you couldn’t skip it.

This is a you problem, of course people want to drink coffee, even more coffee than usual at social gatherings. Put something scented under your nose or chew peppermint gum. I can't imagine seriously feeling it would be appropriate to expect others not to make coffee, nevermind making a big production out of others making coffee. Not reasonable at all.

Sorry but I agree. She was probably waiting for you to go upstairs thinking it would be far enough away from you not to affect your smell. People really love their coffee and some people need a pick me up in the late afternoon. I feel for you since I had three rough pregnancies with daily vomiting, but I’m team MIL on this one.

NP and disagree. The PP was being flexible by understanding that people were gonna want coffee in the morning. They could have met her halfway by skipping it at dessert. I would never be that selfish with family.

Coffee with dessert is an absolute in my family. Asking them to omit coffee after dinner would be like asking everyone to skip turkey for thanksgiving.

There is no tradition that is more important than my hosts’ comfort. If my hostess was pregnant, we’d have dessert and go out for coffee if we “had to” have coffee.

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My kids Dad and I are separated. Dad moved across the country. Today I took my kids to his family’s belated Thanksgiving gathering, and they invited me to stay.

They did the thing where you go around the table and say what you are thank you for. One of my kids shared that he was thankful his Dad is coming for Christmas. His aunt told him that that’s weird since the separation was his fault.

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Anonymous wrote:
My Father-in-law is nice in many ways. But also monologues about his preferred three-four topics. Doesn’t ask other people questions much. Stands too close and stares too much.
Asks his wife to ask for or say things for him and or asks her if it’s okay if he does X,Y,Z. And no background music. Alas.

ASD!

Is that like autism?

Same thought.

Original poster of above — my high school daughter just asked the same thing.