Petty Holiday Vent thread 2022

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Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.

Our family, leftovers are given to guests to take. Heck, I also buy take out containers by the hundreds because we make a lot of food and want people to take it.

In our family, leftovers are for th people who bought the food ad worked to prepare and host the meal.

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Anonymous wrote:I’m not spending the holidays this year with my large, very loud, and very argumentative family (that I love but drive me crazy) this year due to DH work conflicts, and was really looking forward to a nice chill nuclear family Christmas with my DH and teens but all my siblings are calling and texting me incessantly to share THEIR petty vents about the other siblings, their spouses, and our parents. So I’m getting second hand drama from 2000 miles away when all I want to do is watch tv and drink cocoa in peace.

I don’t know if your phone works the same way mine does, but I have to press the green button to talk to people who call. Like if I’m in the middle of my Law & Order marathon of shows that I can practically recite by heart, I just don’t hit that button. Then I call back later, if I want. Try it. See if it works on your phone that way.

This is peak snark. Love it. PP with the uncreative advice, "stay home" this is how it's done.

Nope. Predictable, not creative, not funny. Welcome to the Everybody Loves Raymond fan club.

You’ve been outvoted every time. It’s funny and pure DCUM snark. Go play with your electric mixer that your kids bought you and have a totes awesome holiday. 😘

Nope. It was stupid and to try-hard. But the simple people “LOL”ed.

not PP

*too

Nice that you corrected yourself, but *we’re* “simple.”

I’m sorry you’re so insecure. I hope you feel better soon.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I generally like my in laws, so here's my tiny petty complaint. My nephew is a picky eater who doesn't eat a lot and grazes instead of eating meals. When I host, I have plenty of breakfast food options--muffins, bagels, English muffins, etc. My nephew will ask for a bagel. My SIL will say "do you want half?" (Why does she even ask?) he immediately demands a whole bagel. She gives it to him. He takes 2 bites of it (not exaggerating). Then they leave it on the table for hours because "he might come back to it later" HE NEVER DOES. Repeat for the next meal. I wish she would just give him a quarter of it or half so someone else can eat the other half and it doesn't go to waste. They stay with us for a few days and so much food is wasted because this kid demands something whole, they give in, and he never finishes it.

I know kids like this. The solution is to buy those mini bagels. Even if they don't eat the whole thing, it's just a small amount of waste vs a giant 4 serving bagel.

Cut the bagels in half. Cut the muffins in half. I buy bakery stuff from costco and everything gets cut into smaller servings.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.

Our family, leftovers are given to guests to take. Heck, I also buy take out containers by the hundreds because we make a lot of food and want people to take it.

In our family, leftovers are for th people who bought the food ad worked to prepare and host the meal.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My in laws insist every year on using 40 year old stretched out and threadbare Star Wars and Sesame Street sheets on the 24” tall air mattresses they bought for our kids and they always end up all bunched up by morning. We’ve tried buying them new sheets before we arrive and they always return them before we arrive. Last year we bought and pre-washed two sets of new sheets made for deep mattresses and brought them with us in a checked bag. We made the beds ourselves before my father in law had a chance to do it himself so they had to keep the sheets.

This year? The beds were pre-made with the Star Wars and Sesame Street sheets and the new sheets are nowhere to be found. WTAF???

Maybe the sheets need to “accidentally rip” due to their old age.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.

Our family, leftovers are given to guests to take. Heck, I also buy take out containers by the hundreds because we make a lot of food and want people to take it.

Yes, we always share, but the point is the descended upon it while DH and I were still cleaning up. They were debating over who gets what and how much without a single thought of “maybe the people who bought all the groceries and did all the cooking and cleaning would like some leftovers.” DH finally ended up getting involved so that they didn’t take everything. They were planning on taking every bit of our pies, for example. I baked them from scratch including the homemade crust. So rude.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t pester people to make a gift list if you aren’t going to get them anything off it!

I could have bought some of the things on sale on Black Friday, but held off thinking my mother was going to get them.

Yeah, that sucks. That’s why I usually buy myself what I want and put second tier things I don’t really care about on gift lists. We do a work secret Santa and I was very specific about a small, inexpensive kitchen item I keep forgetting to buy. My person then went and found an even cheaper version that I do not want and will donate asap. But nbd, I wasn’t staking my whole Christmas on it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I generally like my in laws, so here's my tiny petty complaint. My nephew is a picky eater who doesn't eat a lot and grazes instead of eating meals. When I host, I have plenty of breakfast food options--muffins, bagels, English muffins, etc. My nephew will ask for a bagel. My SIL will say "do you want half?" (Why does she even ask?) he immediately demands a whole bagel. She gives it to him. He takes 2 bites of it (not exaggerating). Then they leave it on the table for hours because "he might come back to it later" HE NEVER DOES. Repeat for the next meal. I wish she would just give him a quarter of it or half so someone else can eat the other half and it doesn't go to waste. They stay with us for a few days and so much food is wasted because this kid demands something whole, they give in, and he never finishes it.

I know kids like this. The solution is to buy those mini bagels. Even if they don't eat the whole thing, it's just a small amount of waste vs a giant 4 serving bagel.

Cut the bagels in half. Cut the muffins in half. I buy bakery stuff from costco and everything gets cut into smaller servings.

Oh no! You are MY petty vent! I freaking hate when people cut things like muffins in half. Not sure why-it just gets under my skin!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DH and I made a big, lovely dinner. We spent hundreds on groceries.

ILs are now in the kitchen dividing it all up to take home. Whatever, I’m letting DH handle his people, or not. But I did take over the turkey distribution because I want some to freeze for tetrazzini.

In my family, no one would dream of taking leftovers unless they were offered. It is so freaking rude.

Our family, leftovers are given to guests to take. Heck, I also buy take out containers by the hundreds because we make a lot of food and want people to take it.

Yes, we always share, but the point is the descended upon it while DH and I were still cleaning up. They were debating over who gets what and how much without a single thought of “maybe the people who bought all the groceries and did all the cooking and cleaning would like some leftovers.” DH finally ended up getting involved so that they didn’t take everything. They were planning on taking every bit of our pies, for example. I baked them from scratch including the homemade crust. So rude.

Yup. The way this is supposed to work is that the hosts offer and package leftovers for the guests.

[Anonymous]

Petty vent. For 20 plus years SIL tries to one up us and any interest we or the kids have suddenly become her interests so she can compete. Last night we announced an important change we are making that requires a financial investment that we’ve been talking about for 20 years. It’s very specific. SIL’s response - OH. DH and I are going to do that too, just bigger and better. Then she spent the rest of the conversation talking about herself. All from a woman who has never worked a day in 20 years. Whatever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I generally like my in laws, so here's my tiny petty complaint. My nephew is a picky eater who doesn't eat a lot and grazes instead of eating meals. When I host, I have plenty of breakfast food options--muffins, bagels, English muffins, etc. My nephew will ask for a bagel. My SIL will say "do you want half?" (Why does she even ask?) he immediately demands a whole bagel. She gives it to him. He takes 2 bites of it (not exaggerating). Then they leave it on the table for hours because "he might come back to it later" HE NEVER DOES. Repeat for the next meal. I wish she would just give him a quarter of it or half so someone else can eat the other half and it doesn't go to waste. They stay with us for a few days and so much food is wasted because this kid demands something whole, they give in, and he never finishes it.

I know kids like this. The solution is to buy those mini bagels. Even if they don't eat the whole thing, it's just a small amount of waste vs a giant 4 serving bagel.

Cut the bagels in half. Cut the muffins in half. I buy bakery stuff from costco and everything gets cut into smaller servings.

Oh no! You are MY petty vent! I freaking hate when people cut things like muffins in half. Not sure why-it just gets under my skin!

Have you ever seen how big the Costco muffins are? I’d be hard pressed to eat a whole one.

[Anonymous]

This year I worked with the kids to pull together an Amazon wish list containing items they really wanted. My parents bought a bunch of stuff that was very well received but my in laws, who requested the lists and have historically bought off of it, did not. So my kids have a bunch of crap they’re never going to use.

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I just don’t care at all what happens to the leftovers or if there are wasted bagel parts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Petty vent. For 20 plus years SIL tries to one up us and any interest we or the kids have suddenly become her interests so she can compete. Last night we announced an important change we are making that requires a financial investment that we’ve been talking about for 20 years. It’s very specific. SIL’s response - OH. DH and I are going to do that too, just bigger and better. Then she spent the rest of the conversation talking about herself. All from a woman who has never worked a day in 20 years. Whatever.

Why did you announce this to your SIL? What was she “supposed” to say?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I made Xmas breakfast for the family, and a full Xmas dinner.
Not a thank you from dh.
Not a “yum, that was good”
Not an offer to clean a plate or wipe a table.
I’m not saying I need a medal, but I feel like the help.
Hell, a paid chef would’ve probably gotten a thank you and compliments.
It makes me feel very sad to feel so unseen and unappreciated by my spouse.

I know why your husband didn't say anything, he's not 5 and doesn't describe things as yummy.