How many books in the school library have images of minors performing oral sex?! Are you saying there’s more than one? |
This is my problem with half this debate. You've got people throwing around the word "pornographic" then seemingly immediately conceding that the books aren't actually pornographic by the normal definition of that word. Then it devolves into a political argument about "failing" schools systems, the claim that a book for high school students is "as early as the authors can get away with." and claims that, somehow, what's normalizing oral sex in our school system is a single book that I'm guessing no one other than the occasional LGBT student struggling with their gender and sexuality has ever checked out. Throwing out three politically motivated lies in quick succession doesn't make me trust you. I haven't seen the pictures from Gender Queer (people keep referencing them but I haven't found them), I don't have a strong opinion there. I have read the excerpts from Lawn Boy and as a kid who experimented sexually around that age and to this day has kind of weird feelings around it (and grownups reaction to it), I would have really been helped to read a book like that in high school. So maybe Gender Queer is too adult for high school students, but I've got zero reason to believe you. |
Right. I guess we should make it clear. The objection isnt just to this book. But any book in a public school library that has images of oral sex. |
Just like other people have said don't judge Lawn Boy until you've read the text, please don't dismiss Gender Queer until you've seen the images pic.twitter.com/thAEKkv7Ve |
How about you decide what your kids can read and leave the same decision for other people to decide. You do not get to decide for the rest of us what is ok to read or not. |
Uh, To Kill a Mockingbird is still read in school. |
Thank you. Most normal response of the day. |
It's not ok for you and if, if you decide so, for your kid. You do not get to decide for ME. |
NP. 1. There isn't a minor. The main character is 25 when the scene in question takes place. 2. There isn't a penis, because...both the main character and partner are both born genetically female. The next few pages the main character is still struggling with sexuality, and requests to stop dating while s/he figures it out. Why do I add the detail? Because again, you did not read the book, and it's not porn. It's self discovery for a young adult. Not a child. The first part of the book deals with mensuration, bras, and deodorant, which would be age appropriate for high school. The second half is more college age material. |
Adding, I'm not in favor of banning this book, even if part of the material is more appropriate for 18+. Why: - my teens are not transgender or queer. They are cisgender males. As such, they would never search for, or check these books out. The teens who do have questions may need this material to better navigate into adulthood. Who am I to make that decision on their behalf? - if my teens did check this out, I wouldn't freak out or be fearful that they are being "morally corrupted". If a book morally corrupts my teen, then I failed as a parent. I'd rather them have an understanding of what their friends may be going through rather than live a life of fear or condemnation of differences. - teens have sex and experiment. It's natural. |
Sure. But you do realize these books are in libraries that a 12yo can access. Go ahead and put this on the college syllabus. Nobody here is saying the book should be banned. Just that it shouldn't be available to MS kids. And yes, you are correct, its not a minor. But I would argue with point 2. For the purposes of the debate "is this pornographic" there's very little difference between a real penis and a dildo attached to a strap-on used for oral sex. It doesnt make it any less pornographic |
Thanks, that's really helpful. That's visually clear, but not pornographic in the least. Maybe too mature for a freshman, but perfectly fine for a junior or senior. Especially given what I know of the context, it's not designed to arouse and is actually more or less necessary for telling the story in a visual medium. Definitely should be kept, if maybe restricted to older high school students. |
What's really difficult about this, is that I can see both sides of this. I would absolutely not want my middle school aged child exposed to this. As a parent, I feel I would be within my rights to object to this material being available to that age group. But I can also see how this may be helpful to older teens. The problem is that the school system has to consider the needs of both sets of students. It is a real possibility that seeing this could be traumatic for a MS child. It depicts sexual acts in a way that they may not be mature enough to process. But it may also be necessary for a 17 or 18yo to see this, to help them understand their own identity and to know they are not alone; though it may also be possible to do without the seeing the details of the act. (For example, you could sketch a panel demonstrating oral sex without seeing the strap-on, etc.) FCPS must figure out a way to nurture the older children and still protect the younger. I would also object to saying it's not pornographic "in the least". I suspect some of these scenes do arouse the reader. It may not be graphic, and it may not be over the top, and it may actually be appropriate for 17+, but it is pornographic. And I say that as someone who is 100% fine with pornography. But to say its not, it simply not true. I'm quite the sure the reader gets aroused at different points in this book, and THATS OK. As long as the reader is emotionally mature enough for that. MS children are not emotionally mature enough |
I thought it was in high school libraries only. It definitely does not meet the definition of porn. |
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To be clear, it's not on any syllabus, any where.
It's on a shelf, with little visability. |