Dating a man who is separated, what do I need to know?

[Anonymous]

Newly dating a man who is separated in VA, but not yet divorced.
I know DCUM will give it to me straight.
What are things I need to know?

Anything and everything.

[Anonymous]

Is divorce paperwork filed? When can it be filed?

[Anonymous]

Ask to see the paperwork.

If he sleeps with you he could be found at fault in his divorce.

Personally, I wouldn't engage. Separation means less than a year after several years in a relationship. No matter what he says, he only wants to get laid and is not going to be emotionally available.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ask to see the paperwork.

If he sleeps with you he could be found at fault in his divorce.

Personally, I wouldn't engage. Separation means less than a year after several years in a relationship. No matter what he says, he only wants to get laid and is not going to be emotionally available.

This.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Newly dating a man who is separated in VA, but not yet divorced.
I know DCUM will give it to me straight.
What are things I need to know?

Anything and everything.

You really want it straight?

You are a fool. There is no man on the planet in this situation who is worth getting involved with. Find someone who is really available.

[Anonymous]

He is still married. He may end up back with his wife. He is the middle of his marriage breaking up. He isn't in a place for a new serious relationship. He isn't single. he may or may not be officially separated - that is a line married people use when cheating on their spouses.

[Anonymous]

Don't do it. Take it from someone who's been there. Good advice above.

[Anonymous]

Are you just looking to get a nice dinner and some good sex? Then go for it.

But don't hold your breath and hope that he would be a good partner. His life is too chaotic.

[Anonymous]

Don't date him.

[Anonymous]

OP here. Message received. Thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Newly dating a man who is separated in VA, but not yet divorced.
I know DCUM will give it to me straight.
What are things I need to know?

Anything and everything.

You really want it straight?

You are a fool. There is no man on the planet in this situation who is worth getting involved with. Find someone who is really available.

+1

[Anonymous]

got involved with someone separated but not yet divorced. very intense for a few month and then he freaked out. decided it was too early...wasn't ready for a serious relationship. sample size of one but does make me wary....

[Anonymous]

I'll take the other side. Have papers been filed? The waiting period is 6 months in VA with no kids. Who initiated the separation?
I dated my now husband when I was separated. The separation/divorce process took about 9 months from moving out to divorce. I never talked to ex again a few months into the whole thing. I initiated the divorce, and I had already moved on by the time if decided I wanted to divorce. There was zero interest in reconciling.
I think it really depends on the situation. Are they living separately? Separation agreement ironed out? Do they still talk?

[Anonymous]

Their marriage may be over. The questions you should also be asking is whether he is emotionally ready to move on. He may think he is, but may be a mess inside. Or someone who never learned lessons from his marriage.

[Anonymous]

It is a sign of desperation to jump into a new relationship before the last one is even done. Obviously to some people marriage is pretty meaningless so they don't care about ending it before starting another relationship but I would run from any one who wanted to get into a serious relationship while they were still married and detangling themselves from that one.